Should she force him to wear his wedding ring?

[Kong5891]

Today my sister is upset because her husband, who she married last month, does not want to wear his wedding ring - his reason being “I don’t like wearing jewellery.” I’ve never seen him any jewellery in the ten years I’ve know him but it seems like a lame excuse and has only worn it a few days before giving him saying it feels weird and it’s irritating. I feel upset for my sister and don’t know how to help her. Should she be upset? They have been together 10 years and I know it’s definitely not because he’s going to cheat. When she told him she’s upset he came back with well, you haven’t taken my name which she hasn’t but for reasons he said he understood. I was there when the argument took place and I didn’t know what to say. Should she expect him to wear the ring?

Prince William doesn’t wear a wedding ring. I couldn’t care less if my DH does. Half the time I forget to put my own ring on anyway!

If he doesn’t want to wear it then he shouldn’t wear it. Note should he be pressured into doing so. Some people just don’t like wearing jewellery.

Why did he get one in the first place? My DH knew he wouldn't want to wear one so we didn't bother - seemed like a waste of money. And, as others have said, it doesn't make us any more or less married.

We don’t wear rings or share a name. They’re both pretty horrendous traditions!

My DH hasn't worn one since he lost the first and second one. I haven't worn one regularly in years, it gets in my way and I get eczema flare-ups on my hands. If he suddenly stopped wanting to wear it for specific occasions after years of marriage I'd be more but it sounds like he's never really wanted to wear one and their relationship has lasted a long time before marriage, so I wouldn't let it upset me in her shoes.

I think him harbouring resentment over her not changing her name is worse tbh. Did he offer to change his?!

Force him??? Jesus, that's a bit extreme and controlling.

If he is going to cheat, a ring will stop him of course... lol

My df has never worn a wedding ring. It wasn’t until I was in my 20s that I realised it was an actual thing

He could get a tattooed wedding ring?!

No-one in my family wears their wedding rings except me and DH. For many reasons, none of which are important. She shouldn't worry about it.

Why should you say anything ?

You don’t force your wife or husband to do things.
I wear mine. DH often doesn’t. He doesn’t find them comfortable. Had never worn rings before we married so he had no idea. He’s not trying to get out of wearing it for any nefarious reason. And I wouldn’t want to force him to be uncomfortable. I don’t wear my (lovely and expensive) engagement ring much either.

Been married 23 years and have never worn a wedding ring. My DW doesn't mind.

He is not at all U to not wear a ring.

He is U for complaining that she hasn’t changed her name.

Did he actually complain that she hasn't changed her name, or did he just point out that they haven't necessarily followed traditional conventions in their marriage?

She has no right to harangue him about something that is his choice.

She didn't want to change her name, he doesn't want to wear a ring. It really doesn't matter

DH hasn't got one. My Dad didn't either so it pretty normal for the men in my life not to have one. Neither of them wear and kind of jewellery at all.
I don't wear jewellery either - apart from my wedding ring that hasn't left my finger since the day nearly 30 years ago that DH put it on.
I think it is up to the person who wears it - your sister is being a little bit precious. To be falling out over this is silly.

He could get a tattooed wedding ring?!

Seriously?

The way he threw the ‘you didn’t change your name so I shouldn’t have to wear a ring’ annoyed me more than anything. My sister has always been honest and upfront with him about not wanting to change her name and he said he understood. I didn’t say anything during and never would because it’s not my place. I just want to help my sister and get some perspective.

My DH doesn’t always put his ring on. I tend to take both my engagement ring and wedding ring off if I’m not going out because it find them both a bit annoying. I don’t like wearing rings to wash my hands and when changing a million newborn nappies a day I’m frequently washing my hands.
I don’t see the issue. The ring on itself isn’t a reflection of commitment.

It’s interesting to read how many people do not wear a ring and makes me realise it’s not actually that bad that he doesn’t want to.

Help your sister? They’re married. I would butt out. Or you will defend her and make him seem the bad guy and then they will make up and you’ll be the villain.
She’s a bit daft not to have conversations around wedding rings and name changes before getting married. Let her sort her own relationship. Stay out of it!

I wear mine so I can dramatically throw it across the lounge in a tantrum when he hasn't taken the bins out.