Should she force him to wear his wedding ring?

[Kong5891]

Today my sister is upset because her husband, who she married last month, does not want to wear his wedding ring - his reason being “I don’t like wearing jewellery.” I’ve never seen him any jewellery in the ten years I’ve know him but it seems like a lame excuse and has only worn it a few days before giving him saying it feels weird and it’s irritating. I feel upset for my sister and don’t know how to help her. Should she be upset? They have been together 10 years and I know it’s definitely not because he’s going to cheat. When she told him she’s upset he came back with well, you haven’t taken my name which she hasn’t but for reasons he said he understood. I was there when the argument took place and I didn’t know what to say. Should she expect him to wear the ring?

Sorry that should say, that's for her to come to terms with.

You can help your sister by telling her to grow up!

"Should she force him"

Imagine if a man had written "should he force her"

Not a single poster would have got past "LTB and report him for abuse".

Glad to see everyone on here supporting the casual domestic abuse of men.

I wear mine & my husband wears his it means something to us but everyone is different.
My husband did say it took a few months to get used to wearing a ring but now he likes it.

Not that it's any of your business whether your BiL wears his ring, how exactly is she going to force him? Is he 12?

CordeliaWyndamPryce - I think him harbouring resentment over her not changing her name is worse tbh. Did he offer to change his?!

What a ridiculous comment- did you even read the letter? The Sister says he understood. More likely that your troll is that the BIL is trying to point out the hypocrisy of demanding on old tradition whilst not expecting to do the other.

It's a big deal to me and something my DH and I discussed before marriage, I don't even like him taking it off to do diy.

Then again, my dad was a cheater and would often take his ring off. So to me I sort of associate someone not wearing a ring with not wanting the world to know they are married.

Dh works in construction and most of the men and women don't wear any kind of rings. Dh wears his in colder months as more often than not he has very very thick weird gloves on but in summer months? No he doesn't wear it and I wouldn't expect him to. People he knows have lost fingers after rings being caught on tools etc.

We married when I was massively underweight due to an undiagnosed health issue but now that's being treat, my wedding ring doesn't fit me so it's not worn on my hand.

If he just doesn't want to wear a ring for comfort then I'd say that's fine, but this bloke sounds resentful that his wife kept her own surname and spins like he's bothered by her not taking his and using the ring to make a point? Is there a reason why he didn't his own surname if he wanted them to be the same?

Actually, re reading it sounds like he's asking her to respect his choice as he did the same for her and doesn't hassle her to do something she's not wanting to do like change her name and asking for the same back from her?

My parents have been married 31 years this year and my dad has never worn his ring.
We got married last month and my H only wears his because it holds sentimental value and likes jewellery. I understand why your sister would be upset as I probably would as well. He seems to be asking her to respect his choice..

You sound a bit over invested in this. It’s not really anything do do with you, or anything you can help your sister with.

Everyone is different. A friend of mine and her DH buried their wedding rings into the foundation of their house when they built it.
Myself and my DH don't wear alot of jewelry the ring is all we really wear but his is battered now I'm not sure he could get it off if he did take it off and chose not to put it back on I wouldn't be upset I often take mine off if I'm working because I do alot of dough making and washing up and I don't want to loose it in a loaf of bread! If I forget to put it back on for a few days my DH doesn't comment or get upset. I think the everyday is more important than name taking or ring wearing.

I don't see why he should.

I'm single and dating. Perhaps she's worried about women like me seeing lack of a ring and trying it on with him? Because trust me if he wants to hide or lie about the fact that he's married (as many men do) that can be achieved anyway.

I wouldn't wear a wedding ring if I was married. I have never worn jewellery. I don't even wear a watch, never have and I'm now 45, as I hate the feel of something "restrictive".

DH works with heavy machinery rings are quite dangerous people have had fingers ripped off