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Partner going away this weekend with mates I feel awful..

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missyboo87 · 02/05/2019 14:35

Hi.

My partner of 12years is going away tomorrow until Sunday with some of his mates, I will be at home with our daughters.. don't have much family around me and not much friends either so will be on my own..
Anyways..
in the past things have happened in order to break my trust with him, he used to go away for a few nights and turn his phone off and ignore me completely which has upset me a lot..
I'm so down about him going away even tho it's only 2nights away! I know I'm being really daft and over reacting a lot!!
He said he's going to stay Intouch with me this weekend and that things will be different but I'm finding it hard to believe him and I no before anyone says it I'm daft and being stupid!

I suffer with anxiety and this situation isn't helping me in the slightest.. I get upset easily because I'm worried he will ignore me again.. I love him and we both want the relationship to work out just needing someone to talk to really as I'm so lonely and down right now.. just dreading it so much

OP posts:
LoudJazzHands · 03/05/2019 02:55

I obviously haven't read all of the posts

Well you bloody well should - at least read the OP's posts; they're pretty relevant.

HeckyPeck · 03/05/2019 11:31

I obviously haven't read all of the posts

It was only 3 and a half pages at that point. What help can you offer when you can’t even be bothered to read the OPs post?

SignedUpJust4This · 09/05/2019 19:41

I've been wondering about this. Did he stay in contact OP? How was he when he came back?

missyboo87 · 09/05/2019 20:42

Hi.. sorry haven't kept you updated been super busy with the kids etc...

He did stay in contact with me, he called in the morning to speak to me and the girls which was nice and that was it because I didn't expect more than that. He brought us gifts home

I was fine while he was away, girls missed him a lot tho

OP posts:
joystir59 · 12/05/2019 07:26

I'm glad you were fine and that he was in contact OP

RiversDisguise · 12/05/2019 07:50

Good.

OP, what do you mean he was messaging another woman?

Was it sexual stuff, swapping pictures, arranging meetings?

Or was it innocent stuff that your anxiety made seem like a huge deal?

If the former, you need to realise that this man is causing/exacerbating your mental health problems.

Jiggles101 · 12/05/2019 09:06

You think a 6 week wait for counselling is unacceptable? Is it free/nhs?

It's 18 months in some parts of the country!

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