First time poster but long time lurker/reader. And just as the title says really. I will add 'allegedly' but it can't be anyone else who took my prescription meds. I haven't taken any in months but needed one yesterday and found half the pack is gone. He knew they were there and he once took one (he told me just after he'd taken it) and I was shocked as he'd had a lot of alcohol and they definitely do not mix as dangerous. Back then, I took pics of the number that were left so I could compare and see if he was taking more - and yesterday (first time I'd looked at packet in a while), lots are gone. It was clear even without comparing the photos! I haven't touched them in a few months and can't say exactly when he'd have done it. Could have been just this weekend or several months before or anything in-between. It's not like he's just pilfered one or two here and there - an entire blister pack is gone. They are 'desirable' meds in the wrong hands and highly addictive. He would not be taking them for the same reasons as me. And yes, I should have hidden them (though they were in a drawer) but I trusted him.
We don't live together, 6 month relationship. He's early 40s (I'm 10 yrs older but not an issue). He has addiction problems - mainly alcohol (current and it's a problem, says he'll get help but doesn't, though he does want to change and for me to support him through this) and he admits to other drugs in past. We mainly get on brilliantly but are also in very different positions in life. Maybe that's part of the attraction for each of us - that we're so different, though also similar in many ways. It's not the first thing I've discovered he's taken without my knowledge (not meds previously and he claimed I knew about this other thing, but I most certainly didn't and to me it was stealing - he says not). He also owes me a few hundred pounds too, which I suppose I'll never see. I daren't even mention that now.
I've ended this r/s several times in the past because of the alcohol and other issues regarding his ex who he claims is his 'best friend' - though all his many female friends seem to be his 'best friends' and I feel played off against them. He doesn't much like it if I mention my male friends. He's always reeled me back or I've missed him and believed he'd change etc. There are lots of good things about him, but also negatives too. I do love him but this latest thing has given me a bitter taste. Again.
I haven't told him yet that I know about the meds. I'm struggling whether to tell him (it's a pretty big deal for me as I have trust issues anyway and he knows this). So do I tell him and, if so how? The 'kind and understanding approach', or 'angry and accusative/it's over' tack? I know he'll likely deny it or wriggle out of it by saying I gave them to him - which I certainly did not and wouldn't have, even if he'd asked. He's very much of the mind that things are 'share and share alike' with us (though that seems a one-way street in our r/s as I'm solvent and he's in debt) Am I being uptight about this or unreasonable? How do I confront him? Thanks MN xx