Husband said he would do housework for sex

[Workoverload83]

Not really sure to begin with this thread,I'm at my wits end and need some impartial advice.
Been married 5 years with 1 DC,I'm currently studying, working part time looking after DC and deal with 95% off all household duties.
Recently I've been feeling very overwhelmed I'm in the last phase of my course and am pushing to finish early . DH works full time in a manual job ,but once he's home from work he literally does nothing.
I've repeatedly asked for help ,last night I asked again and explained it's his house and child too and I'm demented trying to keep up with everything.
He basically sat watching the TV saying he works hard and he does what he can.
Then he said if we had sex everyday I would happily help more in the house. As if I'm some sort of call girl. He wasn't joking and I'm actually horrified .
The marriage hasn't been going well but this is a new low. Am I overreacting or Am I right to think up yours!!.

Ewww that’s horrible

I used to let my exh have sex with me if I needed new clothes..

Looking back it was one hell of an abusive marriage..
I would be packing his stuff if he really meant it op.

I'd show him the door OP.

One less person in the house making a tip!

What a horrible man, how degrading for you.

Then he's not doing what he can, is he?

Maybe he wants more sex, but this is no way to go about it.

Tell him you don't find lazy fat sexist lumps sexually attractive unfortunately.

I would agree it could do with being more but I'm so exhausted all I want to do is have a rest

This is my first time commenting on a relationship thread. I had to because that is a disgusting thing for him to say and really unfortunately demonstrates a real lack of respect for you. I'm sorry you have to deal with such a cunt.

So he sees the housework as your job, and he’ll only ‘help you’ if there’s something in it for him.

And he sees sex and something for him, which you should give him in exchange for chores.

What a douche.

If he honestly doesn’t care whether you actually want sex with him , he just wants you to offer it up as payment for his ‘hard work’ he clearly doesn’t see you as an equal partner or care about your sexual pleasure - no wonder you don’t fancy it much.

I’d cut my losses and run. You can pay a cleaner, he can pay a prostitute and you’ll both get what you want without owing anyone anything else.

Yuk! The fact that it wasn't said in jest is even worse, you're not overreacting.
My DH will sometimes make an odd joke like this but for context it will be along the lines of..
Me:Can you run me a bath?
DH: Only if I can join you - cue the weird creepy tryna be sexy look.

If he ever tried this in regards to housework I'd be beyond fuming, even more so if he was being serious!

Urgh, he'd be coming home to all his shit out on the street iiwm

Don't care if you never have sex, that's a repulsive thing to propose.

Right, so he's too tired for housework but not too tired for sex

He sounds like a wanker. LTB!

When I got annoyed he tried to say I was overreacting ,glad people actually agree with me that it's disgusting.

He is utterly vile. Sorry you're in this situation op. It would be the end for me, no question.

You're not overreacting. I wouldn't find a lazy selfish entitled sexist idiot attractive either so it's no wonder you're not up for more sex with him.

If he wasn't joking then he's a lost cause. He will never see you as an equal and that housework is a shared task.

Plenty of other lovely men out there but I'd be happy being alone than living with someone like this.

I couldn't stay married to someone like that.

Has he always been a total arse or is this new because you're studying?

i'd kick his arse to the kerb, you really want to be with someone like this ?

In the last 6 month's he has done less and less ,but he was supportive initially .
I've only got two months to go so cant understand why hes hindering me it benefits us both when I qualify

You're not overreacting.

I can't imagine what would make sex with him in any way, shape or form, appealing, after a comment like that.

It would be a really rather permanent turn off.

I'm not one of the Ltb brigade, but if your relationship is dodgy anyway, after this latest episode, I would be seriously considering your future.
I think this isn't worth investing in anymore tbh.

"If you actually got off your lazy ass and helped me instead of being a couch potato maybe I'd have both the desire and energy for sex with you but right now I'd rather divorce you than spend another five minutes with you so you can fuck off"

Ekgems that was along the lines of what I said

He works full time, you work part-time, he should do at least 25% of the chores.

Sex has nothing to do with anything, he's horrid.

What @EKGEMS said.

That would be a permanent turn off for me too, what a disgusting, selfish twat.

Totally agree with the comment above ! If he did more you might not be as tired and more likely to want sex