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Husband said he would do housework for sex

83 replies

Workoverload83 · 26/04/2019 11:50

Not really sure to begin with this thread,I'm at my wits end and need some impartial advice.
Been married 5 years with 1 DC,I'm currently studying, working part time looking after DC and deal with 95% off all household duties.
Recently I've been feeling very overwhelmed I'm in the last phase of my course and am pushing to finish early . DH works full time in a manual job ,but once he's home from work he literally does nothing.
I've repeatedly asked for help ,last night I asked again and explained it's his house and child too and I'm demented trying to keep up with everything.
He basically sat watching the TV saying he works hard and he does what he can.
Then he said if we had sex everyday I would happily help more in the house. As if I'm some sort of call girl. He wasn't joking and I'm actually horrified .
The marriage hasn't been going well but this is a new low. Am I overreacting or Am I right to think up yours!!.

OP posts:

Scott72 · 26/04/2019 20:10

If its a manual job does it leave him tired at the end of the day? Will throwing a bit of sympathy at him help?

aprarl · 26/04/2019 20:22

Ah, a man is here, thank god.

How does being tired from work excuse his suggestion @Scott72?

QueenBeex · 26/04/2019 20:24

YANBU

mbosnz · 26/04/2019 20:51

Will throwing a bit of sympathy at him help?

I'd be strongly tempted to throw a bit of something at him. I'm pretty certain sympathy wouldn't be it.

Where is HIS sympathy for how tired she is, working part-time, studying, and doing 95% of the household maintenance as well as looking after the children?

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 26/04/2019 20:54

I've done various jobs, some on my feet all day. Looking after small children was by far the most exhausting.

AgentJohnson · 28/04/2019 06:54

He’s a pig and a liar too because if you had sex with him every day he still wouldn’t do his fair share. He probably feels threatened about your upcoming opportunities and wants to put you in your place.

Snog · 28/04/2019 08:46

If DH did 95% of housework and childcare I'd be very happy to have sex with him every day as I'd have a lot more energy and I would find him more attractive too.

I don't imagine your DH is gonna do that though. I think you have some talking to do as neither of you is happy with the status quo.

madcatladyforever · 28/04/2019 08:49

You are not a prostitute. LTB.

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