Oh Dior, he's just getting worse.
he's acting as if everythings ok now, because he thinks he's got his own way!
How can he only respect you when you are denying yourself something? Presumably because he thinks you earn respect by denial. Maybe he thinks you should respect him for staying celebate while he waits for you to become the person in his imagination.
That seems wierd to me. I just dont see why he cant love you whatever - you cant turn love on and off. That was one of the ways I knew we had reached the end, when I started to feel slightly repulsed by him. That had never happened before, and there was no real reason for it, except I was so fed up of the controlling.
And some things my Mum has said suggest that his behaviour was more apparent to other people than I realised which made me feel awful.
I really feel for you as This is such an awful stage to be in - you want to do something final, but you keep looking for the positives because there is more than just your relationship at stake.
if it helps, I will say that after a difficult first week, DD's behaviour is now probably the best it has been in ages, and she seems quite happy. I still feel quite crap, but some of that is from the mess the house is in, with some of his stuff gone but a lot still there. Im going through it all bit by bit, and it is very satisfying when some of it goes.
Ive also got tennis elbow (from moving his fecking fridge and washing machine!) which is very painful, Im deaf in one ear, and my thumbnail is coming off none of which helps my mood.
I wish there was something we could do to help things along for you.
By the way, I think my internest connection at home has gone as he was going to have it transferred, so until I can get my own sorted, I will only be able to come on here at work, and facebook is blocked at work.