The next stage of my life WILL be better...

[Dumbledior]

New thread for me to moan...

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so you have to make another step i think

its not fair on any of you, including ds

Thats the worst part isnt it - they can be nice blokes, or we wouldnt have stayed with them so long in the first place.

But people change, and we dont all grow old together I suppose.

I just got to the point where I didnt want it to continue, because I knew it would not change.

P's behaviour was never that bad, but his moods could be frequent - more like chinese water torture, the constant drip drip and erosion of my confidence.

It sounds like your H is doing something very similar to you. they would both deny it vehemently if you accused them to their faces no doubt.

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Do you feel better when he is not around? When I realised that applied to me, I knew something had to be done.

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I wouldnt call you weak - if I was brutally honest, Ive just come to the end of a two year relationship that went on 19 years too long! Thats hardly decisive, is it?

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Also, I like to think that its a sense of loyalty that keeps us wanting to work at a relationship.

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not as conditioned because you can see it now

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well all that says to me is your mar5riage isnt working

god dont go piling all the blame onto you

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Fear of being alone is awful. But you wont be really - youll have DS, and you sound like you have a lot of friends close by, and your sister.

if you read that same post by someone else what would you say to them?

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Thanks for reminding me about Heroes!

so why cant you apply that to you? i think you dont trust your own strngth of mind to cope, but i bet you everything i own that you could

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it's never too late

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