Worried about naked body

[fordfocused]

I came out of a long term relationship last year and have been single since then. I have recently met a man through work who I am very attracted to and him to me. We see each other occasionally at work and now message each other daily.

There is a huge sexual chemistry between us and we both want to take things to the next level. However I am very concerned about him seeing my naked body. At work I am very well presented, good bra and clothes to flatter my hourglass figure. However the reality is that I have saggy boobs and I have a load of stretch marks and loose skin on my tummy. I think he is going to be disappointed when he actually sees me naked.

Does anyone know of any good lingerie that will help me cover up a bit? Or any other tips?

Bless you, I know how you feel. But if he is the right man for you he won't care. I've had four kids by c section, I have the saggy belly and stretch marks and am a few stone overweight. I used to be a model so it gets to me, but when I met my husband he didn't care about any of that. He loves me and my body and he's very attracted to me. A decent man won't be put off by something so superficial.
I've dated other guys before I met my husband too and none of them have been bothered about stretch marks. There's not many people with perfect bodies anyway.

Soft lighting, a couple of glasses of alcohol, and some lovely underwear.
One of my exes was a fitness instructor, and he enjoyed the fact that women are curvy.
If I pointed out a slim woman with a good figure, he would say she didn't even have a 'figure'.
Happy days!

Body confidence is hugely sexy, so be bold and brave. Get your kit off and get stuck in. As Chocolatecoffeeaddict has said, if he is man of the world he will not be expecting airbrushed, Photoshopped perfection. At present he likes you for your personality and who you are; pert boobs and zero stretch marks are probably not on his list of must-haves. If those qualities are vital for him to find a woman attractive, ditch him because he is too shallow and does not deserve you.

When I'm lying down, my boobs look pert

Mine are under my armpits.

Definitely nice lacy knickers and a lovely bra... And soft lightning... And by the time you take them off he'll be blind with lust. And that'll continue forever after that!

I feel your pain, I remember being told a man will take off your size 18 clothes and expect a size 8 body underneath. You don't take to take all your clothes off in one go, I came out of a 20 year relationship and had only ever slept with him then met my now husband who had had many many sexual partners, we both had different concerns but it's fine, your young man with have worries too. It will be fine to him you will have a lovely soft warm body of a woman who he fancies

First of all, you should talk to him about how you feel and your insecurities, although I can guarantee they are baseless. If he is a man worthy of you, he won't give a toss about your "flaws." If he truly cares about you he won't see it care about these " flaws" anyway. He will love every inch of you. Don't let these worries of yours hamper a potentially wonderful relationship!

I think he will be so happy to get your kit off he won't be worrying about the finer details!

On a more serious note tell him you are a bit nervous about getting naked. He may feel the same. Get some nice matching undies, don't worry if they don't perform as well as your usual undergarments. Turn the lights down low, side lamps with low wattage bulbs. If you will be more comfortable in your own home make sure that is where you are, if you'd rather be at his so you can leave when you want then go there. Remember you don't have to take all your clothes off either. Enjoy.

This man will not be able to believe his luck. He’s getting to have sex with a naked woman he fancies. He will be thrilled. Believe me, he won’t have a perfect body either, and you won’t care.

Thanks all I feel a bit more relaxed about it now. My ex, who I was with a long time never had any interest in me sexually so I think this adds to my insecurities.

New man was saying how he fantasies about me in a bikini!!

Get yourself a shorty chemise type thing . Hides all the middle bits

Missed images

@fordfocused I totally get where you’re coming from. I’ve got 4 kids and plenty of stretch marks to boot. What about a nice basque? They are very sexy and very flattering!
Like the PP’s have said, he will be delighted he’s with a naked lady and won’t bat an eye lid about it! I am sure the guy also has hang-ups about his own body too!

Male perspective here.

We don't care. Seriously. Wear cloths that are comfortable and make you confident. Underwear, whatever. At that stage we are not thinking about that.

Me and my friends were talking about this the other day. Men do not care about stretch marks, boobs and bums. Don't get me wrong there's the odd man out there who wants a women who likes the gym. But generally speaking men actually like women to be soft if that makes sense. The last man I dated loved working out, he had a 8 pack! And there's me stretch marked from having 2 kids very quickly, no boobs and a tummy pouch and he couldn't get enough. I know it's hard especially when your confidence is low but just enjoy it!

Oh and a vote for a high waisted bikini! God bless them

He might be just as worried about what he looks like naked! It’s not just us who have body insecurities

My husband has loads of stretch marks on his hips and back from growth spurts in puberty. They’re silvery and beautiful and there because he’s gorgeously tall and elegant.

I can't even wear a high waisted bikini as my stretch marks go too high!

I have had several major surgeries so lots of scars, including one that runs right down my front and a stoma with a permanent feeding line attached. If he loves you none of this matters.

You just need to get your kit off, own it and brave it. Men like body confidence. Soft lighting and hiding behind the duvet will bring attention to you. Men don’t actually give a shit about this stuff if you have got to the stage if wanting to do more. They already like you they are not going to see you out the door. Good luck.

I agree with confidence. I wouldn’t tell them I’ve got hang ups about areas of my body (most areas) because I wouldn’t want to draw attention to them! Fake it til you make it

Definitely don’t tell him about your insecurities, you don’t want to feel like he’s noticing what your insecure about, and if he compliments you then you don’t want to be wondering if he’s saying it to make you feel better.
Get down to Ann summers and get yourself something HOT
And enjoy

I think the fashion industry and media promote an ideal image of women that is completely unattainable and bears very little to resemblance to what men actually find attractive.

That hip and thigh fat? Those cells hold oestrogen ergo that fat makes you look fertile and therefore attractive to a man's primal sexual urges.

Thin is bullshit. You look hot. Now go get laid, girl!

I felt exactly the same when I met my partner. I'd been married and had 5 kids. I hated my body, not helped by the fact exh left me for a tiny thing ten years younger than me. I had zero confidence. I had a spray tan, got some new underwear and lots of body moisturiser and felt like a new woman. My dp loves my soft curvy body even though he's got a fit body.