New boyfriend and money

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Help
Been seeing my new boyfriend a few months
I have a son and he has a son too
He see his son regular incase that's relevant
Anyway we both are similar in that respect
Here's the problem
Other than him being the perfect guy in every way
When he comes to mine which is nearly every time as he lives at home still
I buy all the food so for dinner lunch breakfast etc
When we go out he also lets me pay
Don't get me wrong he's taken me out for a meal and bought dinner but say we are out for the day and I'll say I'll get this he says thanks
I'm all for paying my way but I feel lately and I guess over the 3 months it's been more un even
I'm barely affording to pay my bills so when he stays which is every other weekend for 2 nights and the odd one when lo is at her nans I then worry about water and electricity! I'm far from right but I'm struggling enough and now I'm getting to the point where it's annoying me
So I tried to speak to him about it tonight and all I got was he struggles too, he also worries about money and because I said it's different as I'm a single mum and im comparing it to living at home is not the same he's got defensive
I understand I probably made him feel bad but it wasn't my intention
Am I being mean ?
I feel so upset
Need some advice from the outside x

It's shocking how many would rather try to shore up a farce of a relationship with some sponging loser who lives with his mam than be alone. All this he doesn't get it, lay it out to him, does he do housework?

He's a fucking sponge! He's an adult. Even my young kids get that water and power are not free. He gets that just fine, he just doesn't want to pay it. And giving someone kudos for using their arms and legs to clean up after themselves? FFS, that's a basic function of adulthood.

He was looking for another sucker to mother him and pay for it.

I've gone out with some douchebags but actually paying to have a boyfriend (and with it coming at cost to my kids) nope, that's a pretty low bar there.