So I have Chlamydia...has he cheated?

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NC for obvious reasons...So i started having symptoms a month ago. We've been dating 7 months, 4 months ago decided to be exclusive (his initiative btw). We're about to go on a massive (i.e. far away, special and expensive) holiday in less than a week for my 30th birthday. WTF do I do?

Go on the holiday on your own! Use it as reflection time to work out what you’re doing with your life. Dump theboyfriend. You aren’t happy. You’re not happy in all aspects of your life. Take a kindle and a tonne of self help books to read. Have you thought about retraining? Go back to university? Your job sounds awful. Go to uni and make new friends and a new life. Move to a new town. You don’t have to put up with a shit life. There’s an app called meet-up where you can join lots of social groups. Whatever you do, don’t miss your holiday

Tell work you had a health related scare but after hearing from the hospital/Gp/tests it’s not as bad as you first thought so you’re dealing with it.

Really glad you’ve got an apology. You deserve one. Can you do what Claphands suggested and explain to work you’ve had a health related scare etc? That way they’ll know there was a reason for yesterday when you couldn’t concentrate.

You make a good point about whether it might be too soon to be in another relationship. They do take work and right now it sounds like the very last thing you need is more work. I jumped straight back into dating after my divorce. Looking back it was the need to get revenge on ex (see I’ve moved on etc) and to prove to myself I was dateable. I soon gave up and was so much happier being able to please myself only, not have to compromise, talk things through etc. Sometimes you very much need to concentrate on your own wishes and needs.

If you feel you won’t just spend your holiday feeling tearful and pissed off, I’d maybe go and laze about, eat nice food, feel the sun on your skin and just be. You need to look after yourself. .

Thank you, everyone, you’ve been higely helpful, I would have gone mad without some support. Very grateful for the responses and the handholding. You’ve also given me quite a bit to think about.

He’s been very lovely until this thing yesterday and he quickly apologized and said it was the shock (which I do understand frankly). Got some nice texts from him today too. Will see him Saturday and see how it goes. I’m reluctant to bin him if he’s so nice, I think we could have a great holiday together. Will have a think and maybe some counselling when I get back would be useful.

I hope things start to settle down for you OP. Also hope you get to go on your hols and have a fun and relaxing time. Take care of yourself .

I started dating a guy 2 years after having my son & (stupidly) after a period of using condoms, I had a coil fitted. Then got very ill. It was PID as I had chlamydia. The guy went mental at me too. Then complained about how painful his test was. My doctor then pointed out that I had been tested during pregnancy & not had a sexual partner since, so it was him who had given it to me. I let him have it - esp given that I got PID. Prick.

Glad you’re feeling a bit more upbeat op 💐xx

And enjoy your holiday 🥂