So I have Chlamydia...has he cheated?

[EnoughLifeLessons]

NC for obvious reasons...So i started having symptoms a month ago. We've been dating 7 months, 4 months ago decided to be exclusive (his initiative btw). We're about to go on a massive (i.e. far away, special and expensive) holiday in less than a week for my 30th birthday. WTF do I do?

Oh no what a horrible situation. I too thought is he deflecting. Hopefully things calm down and you both work it out. It's very new news so you may both be overacting

Can you go on holiday with a friend?

You don't have to sit and cry for two weeks .

I’m so sorry OP personally I’d make myself go on the holiday. You never know, you might actually enjoy it.

By the way he sounds a knob if he’s reacting like this and you might be best off without him

Find your inner rage and go on the holiday. You bloody well deserve it. He's a complete tool. Don't bloody mope because he's a dick. You have handled the situation with grace. I think he doth protest too much

So nobody here would react angrily to being told that their partner thinks they may have cheated? Nobody would be angry if they thought they may now have an STD?

So I can just sit there and cry the whole time on my own?

Why would you do that?
You’re 30 ffs and you were only with him for a matter of months, come on OP woman up

@SneakyGremlins I never accused him of cheating or even implied it, that's only something i have written here. He's the one that has kicked off massively. I agree on your second point

I’d go with a friend if I couldn’t resolve the argument. Have you spoken face to face yet?

Both get treated and put it behind you.

@YogaWannabe because I've been hoping for years that life will get better. I've worked hard, I've kept positive, and things are just going wrong left right and centre That's why. I want my mum to get better but she won't. I want my nice cushy life with my husband and my friends but he won't stop being an angry manipulative shit so that won't happen. I want my boss to be less of a dick but the more I work the more shit I seem to get. I want my friends back but my exH is the nice charming one so that won't happen. I'm sitting here alone and broke and with chlamydia and I just really want to throw my toys out of the fucking pram and scream for my mummy ok??

@Bluerussian I'd really want that, I'm still hoping for that. But he's kicking off so not much I can do here

I’m sorry he’s reacted to badly , the simple fact is it could have been either of you. If he wasn’t using condoms religiously every time he had sex he could have caught it from anyone.
He sounds like he’s got a guilty conscious

we haven't spoken face to face, he's stopped replying to my texts, I proposed we meet tomorrow evening after my hospital appointment

i can't go with a friend, it's an expensive destination at this time of year and no one i know can take 2 weeks off with so little notice

I'll go on my own I guess...unless he calms down

I'm sorry OP. Give him time to calm down x

Give it some time OP. It’s a shock. But don’t be a doormat. Tell him it’s just as likely he’s infected you, and you aren’t the one throwing accusations around. He can come talk to you when he can have a conversation like an adult.

With hindsight though, i’m Not sure text is the best communication medium for an STD declaration!

It's all really disappointing OP, but if you break each thing down you'll see that it isn't so bad. It's your mum that you are really heartbroken for.
She is the big sadness in your life and understandably you want to focus on her.
Chlamydia is common and treatable. You haven't been with him long and you're seeing a bad side of him that he might have hidden for years. You can give each other space and decide later if you want to keep seeing him.
Am I right in thinking that your mum would want to go on this holiday and have an amazing break away from the stress?
Look up solo traveller activities in the country you are going to. I travel all over the world alone for my job and I love it.
You should go.

• your mum would want you to go, I meant. I imagine she is too poorly?

Seriously go on your own.....I have had some fantastic holidays by myself.....last one I went on met my now hubby x

She's indeed too poorly...she'll be around for a few more years but with a pretty bad quality of life although it is managed well.

I know none of it is all that bad, I guess I'm just struggling to adjust with the idea that life is always going to be a bit shit. I was hoping for a break.

It's a shame you can't go with your mum. That would be amazing.

Drag a friend along or go alone and have a total "eat pray love" adventure/cryathon.

And his reaction was BATSHIT.

He is being an absolute cock. Chlamydia can be symptomless in males and from what you have said he is far, far more likely to have given it to you than the other way round. 7 months isn't long to have been seeing someone. It might be, given his reaction, that this will be a lucky escape for you!