37 weeks and my boyfriend just said

[brexitisamare]

He will "smash my face in".

He's playing a game online downstairs, fine. But he was screaming at it and it woke me up so I text him asking him to please keep it down.

He text me back telling me to "fuck off".

So I turned the WiFi off (it's in our bedroom). Quite childish of me now I look back but I was absolutely furious at being woken up and told to fuck off when I hadn't actually done anything wrong.

He came banging up the stairs, punched the bedroom door and said "if you ever do that again I will smash this whole house up and I'll smash your face in".

And he turned it back on, slammed the door, said something about wishing we weren't having our baby and now he's back downstairs playing whatever he's playing and I'm sat in bed shaking.

I realise my behaviour here was a bit childish but surely nothing warrants that? I don't think he will come back up or do anything providing I don't touch the internet (I'm not going to move now at all).

He's quite a calm person and I guess I've seen him angry before but nothing like this and he's never threatened me before. I cannot believe that's just happened. I don't even know why I'm posting I just don't know what to do now I'm sat here shaking and trying to calm myself down as I am heavily pregnant with this horrible mans child.

I can't leave because I don't have anywhere to go at this hour and to be honest the thought of having to go downstairs right now petrifies me.

I guess I just need a handhold here 😞

You know when your baby is born there will be more stress, more friction, more need to work as a team? Some of the most resilient and lovely couples I know have been hugely rocked by the arrival of a baby and privately told me they don't know if they can stay together.

Both couples worked through this totally life changing time and are now happy and love family life.

None of them have ever threatened their partner or made them feel scared.

If I were you I'd be making plans to leave asap. The next few months are going to be tough regardless and you need to be surrounded by support and patience, not someone who threatens to smash your face in.

If he is that stressed about a game how will he feel about being awoken by a child potentially crying all night. Can you trust him not to lose his temper with you and / or baby.

I would leave.

Just thinking out loud @DeadWife . I was a bit taken aback.

Life does move quickly sometimes.

Hope everything is ok op.
I’m glad you’ve realised that you need to leave.

Wishing you luck OP hope you can open up to the hospital staff about what is happening at home.

My life moved very quickly towards the ends of each of my pregnancies. It really isn't that unusual, nor that hard to believe.

Hope everything is ok OP

Pmk

Hoping you got to hospital ok Brexit and that all is well.

I’m really surprised they didn’t ask you to come in straight away given your symptoms. Good you’re there now.

Good luck.

Just posting to say I hope your okay x

Hope you're OK, op. Please report your H to the police, you need to leave him and there needs to be some official record of the fact that he is potentially a danger to your child.

Have just rtft. I hope you're ok Brexit. Thinking of you. X

So hope you're ok OP.

Hope everything is going well for you 💐

Have read the full thread just now. I hope you're ok OP

I'm so pleased to hear you've gone to hospital. All the best to you OP xxx

Hope all is ok, lovely.

I hope you and your baby are ok, OP

Hope all is Ok OP

Thinking of you today, I hope everything is ok and you got the help you needed

Just read the whole thread.
You sound amazing and strong OP.

I hope you are ok and able to access help at the hospital.

2 things I wish I'd known when my ex became abusive in pregnancy:

1. Report it to the police. You may need the paper trail years later.
2. Don't put him on the birth certificate. He may well harp on about his 'rights' for the next 11 years.

All the best

Hope you’re ok xx

Been thinking about you all night, OP. Hope all is well and you’re getting the help you need.

Hope you’re ok OP