Dp hasn't come home!

[GirlOnIt]

He finished work around 2 and was going for a few drinks. Heard from him around 5 to say he was grabbing some food, he'd have a few more drinks and then head home. I messaged at 8, asking if he was having a good time, what time should I expect him etc. He replied he was going to finish his drink and go for the bus home.
Nothing since. I've tried messaging and calling, it's going straight to voice mail and messages are unread.

I'm worrying and feeling a bit stupid for worrying, then feeling stupid for not worrying more and doing something. Although I've no clue what I should/could be doing.

He's probably just drunk and is phones died or hasn't got signal and he'll roll home in the early house stupidly drunk, right?

Only he doesn't often get stupidly drunk and especially not when out with colleagues and he's really good at keeping in touch if his plans etc change.

I don't really know his colleagues, so can't get in touch with them. I've had a little look on social media and he's not by the looks of things, met up with his own friends or anything. I could text some of them to check but feel a bit silly doing so.

Not sure what I'm asking really, I guess just some reassurance that's he's most likely ok and probably just drunk. My mums away this weekend so don't want to bother her and don't want to worry his parents.

I'd be furious of this was my DH. I think I'd go out for the day so I didn't have to see him and then I'd go for a day out by myself tomorrow. But I'd make it very very clear how angry and upset I was.

What a prick.

Hopefully he has the hangover from hell. However I wouldn't do as a previous poster says and dump the child on him. He may well still be drunk or in foul humour with a hangover.

Maybe he lost his phone.

He's a dick for certain but at least he's ok.

Try and get some sleep once he rocks up.

Omg I would be raging if DH did that to me. What a dickhead.

Is there any family you can go visit today without him? I wouldn't want to be in the same house as him when he crawled home eventually.

Sorry, OP. Sounds like he just couldn't be arsed to be a decent husband, father and human being by coming home when he said he would, or at least telling you what was going on. Disappearing like this, when you're home unwell with a baby, is just a dick move.

I'd make sure I~ wasn't home when he got back. Go out and switch your phone off. Let him worry about where his wife and child are for the day!. Prick!

I don't want to go out because I want to see him when he finally gets home. I'm not sure he's any idea I know where he is, our friend only managed to get in touch with someone who was out with them and said a few of them Dp included went back to A's place.

I want to know what he's got to say for himself. And I want to see the dead phone if it's really so.

That's so inconsiderate of him! Hopefully he'll roll in soon

Ok let’s not blow this out of all proportion. Yes it is a shitty thing to do and yes of course OP is absolutely justified in being raging. But if he’s generally a good bloke and this is out of character for him then it’s probably just a mistake and we are all entitled to one or two of those!

Not fair to jump to the conclusion that he’s gone home with a “female colleague”.

I did this at Christmas time. I NEVER get out and I went out on my works Christmas night out. I was under a lot of pressure at work at the time. We had hardly any food. Drink was free and flowing. I completely overdid it. Vomited when I got home. Lost my phone. Was so unwell the next day I missed a preplanned day out with the kids.

I was beyond mortified. DH was so nice about it. He just gave me water and painkillers and took the kids out for the day and let me stay in bed. Because it was so, so out of character for me.

Grr I am angry on your behalf OP

I hope he apologises and doesn't get on the defensive. You deserve a nice lie in tomorrow morn.

anowl that’s not what happened in this case.

No but the point is he’s made a mistake that’s out of character. The OP is clearly right to be angry (I would be angry and worried if my husband did this) but if it’s genuinely out of character I don’t think it warrants posts like awishforwings above or speculation that he’s cheating.

Glad the pillock is safe OP.
That's the main thing.

Right behind you on this one.
He is being a twit, find out why

Hope everything is alright

Hold on so he still thinks you have no idea where he is

At the very least OP I would be suspicious of drug taking as that is one explanation

Ugh what a twat

OP, even if his phone is dead, surely someone who regularly lets you know whats 's happening, would have the decency to give you a quick call/text from a friend's phone.

In the meantime keep yourself busy. When he's given you his explaination have a back up plan to leave the house (and don't tell him where you're going), ie trip to town and tea out, or even better if you have a friend you could stay with, let him worry!

Selfish fucker.

Every weekend there is a thread like this

And every thread is written by a partner going out of their mind with worry and dealing with kids whilst their partner is out with no consequences.

Not my idea of a relationship.

I'd lose my shit if DH did that- very self centred and dismissive of your feelings

Give him both barrels then do the least amount possible. He can do the cleaning up - sort a takeaway etc. Selfish git.

So he still hasn't bothered to make contact?

Completely drunk and crashing at a friend's house? Fair enough. But to leave you totally worried and not bother to make contact? Unacceptable. Even if his phone died and he couldn't recall your number, it's easy to sign into a SM account on someone else's device. A few weeks ago my DD was staying with friends, had too much to drink and had her phone stolen. She still managed to keep in touch with me through SM, let me know she was ok and when she'd be back.

Pathetic and supremely selfish behaviour. Horrible.

So his friend didn't have a compatible charger to borrow when they got home that he could use to send a quick text? Not buying it I'm afraid OP I suspect he was being a dick and wanted to avoid facing up to it