This is the first time I feel the need to post on a forum, I feel so hopeless.
When I came out to my parents 12 years ago, they kicked me out. I went to live with my girlfriend's family. They were so good to me. I stayed 4 years without talking to my parents, but all of a sudden my mother called me one day. My father passed away, and she told me she regretted what she has done to me because I am the only family she has left. I started seeing her regularly. She demanded that I never mention my girlfriend or my " lesbian life style". She never wanted to meet my partner. My very understanding girlfriend told me it was fine, that I could go visit my mother without her.
8 years later, she still hasn't met her. I visit my mother 1 to 2 times per month ( She lives 2 hours away). So the troubles started when my mother asked me to go to Greece with her , for 2 weeks. I said yes. Because if I say No to my mother, or contradict her, she ignores me for days or even weeks.
But my partner really got upset, saying how I have been prioritising my mother over her , who loves me and supported me all those years. She is fine with monthly visits, but does not want to me to be away for 2 weeks. If I go to Greece, she will leave me.
What should I do ? I feel so desperate