Would you be ok with this?

[Apache]

If you were dating someone (say you'd been dating longer than a year) would you be happy paying half towards everything that you did together? for instance going to the cinema, going for meals etc... if he expected you to pay half towards everything despite knowing you were very short of money whilst he had much more disposable income, would you be ok with this?

Oh god he's got to go.

I've not posted about him before on here.

he's got to have some really good qualities to outweigh that he's tight and selfish. If it's annoying now it will really piss you off later.

he has to go apache.

he lives free at your house at weekends yet asks for petrol money off you?

dump him.

btw-how old is he?

This was the situation when dp and I met, I was a single working mother in a modest job. Dp earned 3x what I did.
He never let me pay, he let me buy my groceries when he stayed but when we went out he knew I was tight for cash and would never let me pay and this was from the get go.
He 7 years later remains a generous soul

What a tosser! So he lives for free at yours all weekend and then expects you to pay half and more to everything as well! [hmmm]
No wonder he can afford a PS3!!! I'd tell him to f*ck right off!
In fact I reckon if you got shot of him you'd have a lot more money...

Apache,

What do YOU get out of this relationship exactly?.

You do realise of course that the first 12 months of any relationship are suppposed to be the happiest. If this is what he's like now then it does not bode well for the future.

Is your self esteem and worth so low that you will take any old crap?. You must think there is an issue otherwise you would not post.

These men love women with low self worth and esteem and actively seek them out for their own ends. These men are manchilds/cocklodgers (thanks Viz); such men do not change and are inherently selfish. Note its all for their own benefit.

You are worth so much better but unless you believe that and are true to yourself you will keep ending up with losers like this tosser you've gone and landed yourself with. Infact its not so much that, he's just latched onto you like a leech and taking you for a ride.

You need to seriously consider whether he is worth any more of your time and energy. You may be lonely as a result of dumping him yes but being on your own is better than this. Being with him is actually stopping you meeting someone truly worthy of you.

He does have his good points, when we first got together he realised that I was behind with my rent and so paid it all off for me. He buys me unusual stuff like limited edition/signed cd's off ebay and he used to buy the kids dvd's (although that has stopped now for some reason).

I don't know, I think to be honest the only thing keeping me with him is that I would be lonely on my own, I only have 1 friend and family don't bother much. I have this dream of meeting someone really nice but I know I have to get rid of him first

apache, nothing fresh will coe into your life if theres something blocking it...you gotta open up a new life for yourself and ditching him is the beginning.

if youre dream is how you feel then dont pretend he ll get any better or that he ll turn into that magical person.

Apache
Its sounds more like 'he DID have his good points'...
What do you think now you've heard other views?