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Would you be ok with this?

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Apache · 09/07/2007 21:45

If you were dating someone (say you'd been dating longer than a year) would you be happy paying half towards everything that you did together? for instance going to the cinema, going for meals etc... if he expected you to pay half towards everything despite knowing you were very short of money whilst he had much more disposable income, would you be ok with this?

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littlelapin · 09/07/2007 22:01

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Carmenere · 09/07/2007 22:05

Oh God, have you changed your name, were you lifesteeth? Is this the cocklodger?

matercreator · 09/07/2007 22:06

Dump him and dump him now. This does not bode well for your future

ELF1981 · 09/07/2007 22:08

DH and I used to (when dating) pay for one trip each, ie if we went for a meal and cinema, one of us would pay for the meal, the other the tickets and snacks etc. Then the next time, we would swap it.

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Apache · 09/07/2007 23:26

Well a few weeks ago we talked about going to london for a night in the summer hols (taking my ds), he said he would pay for the car hire if I paid for the hotel I've just told him I can't afford to do it so he suggested we skip staying the night and instead do a day trip, I asked how much it would cost me so he said he would want some money for petrol but added "you know me however, I'd probably not ask"

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filchthemildmanneredjanitor · 09/07/2007 23:29

how OLD is this man?

does he keep his pennies in a little change purse?

bin him!!!!! tight wad

hermykne · 09/07/2007 23:29

APACHE - PETROL MONEY ???
TELL HIM FRANKLY ITS COME DOWN TO MONEY AND HOW LOW IT IS OF HIM TO MAKE IT SO

harpsichordcuddler · 09/07/2007 23:30

Christ what a waste of space.
what is a nice girl like you doing with a tight wad like this dear

SpeccieSeccie · 09/07/2007 23:37

Apache

Do you live in Scotland?

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Apache · 09/07/2007 23:37

Thank god its not just me, my mum keeps telling me he's taking the piss but I think "well why should he have to pay for everyone?" but then I think about how much money he wastes on computer games and gadgets and see other peoples partners taking them for weekends away etc and for me its like going out with a mate having to pay my way all the time. Feeling a bit sad about it, I always seem to get with people that don't give a shit about me.

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Apache · 09/07/2007 23:38

No I'm in leeds.

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meandmyflyingmachine · 09/07/2007 23:38

Arse.

flibbertyjibbet · 09/07/2007 23:42

You only mention disposable income, not earnings income - do you actually earn a lot less than him or do you just have bigger fixed outgoings, so he doesn't want to subsidise your financial choices?

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Apache · 09/07/2007 23:44

No I earn much less than him, I'm actually on income support at the moment, single parent. He works full time and hardly has any outgoings.

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mollymawk · 09/07/2007 23:44

Sounds a bit worrying to me. Not because of the money per se but because he seems to be doing remarkably well at failing to notice that you really can't afford things and would appreciate a treat and that it would just be a nice thing for him to do for you (even once!).
And the petrol money thing - is that not just a bit weird?

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Apache · 09/07/2007 23:45

Is the petrol thing really bad? My friend thinks he has wool pulled over my eyes.

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Carmenere · 09/07/2007 23:45

Are you lifesteeth?

margosbeenplayingwithmynoonoo · 09/07/2007 23:46

Run, run like the wind! and steal his wallet in the process.

I had a boyfriend like that.

Once he said to me "Can you pay for this round? I don't want to break into a fiver"

He also gave me an ultimatum -I saw him Wednesday and the weekends or he would start asking me for petrol money. I dumped him(for a fortnight), but foolishly took him back for another 18 months. Double

He finally dumped me and bought an MX5

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Apache · 09/07/2007 23:46

me? I'm not lifesteeth.

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flibbertyjibbet · 09/07/2007 23:47

Hmm thought so, get rid then.

filchthemildmanneredjanitor · 09/07/2007 23:48

the petrol thing is abysmal!!!!!!!

he should be so desperate to see that he would pay a million pound for one of your smiles|!!!!!

seriously-he is being mean and unpleasant and cheap and demeaning you.

MummyDarlingSausage · 09/07/2007 23:50

What a loser - get rid of this guy asap and find someone who makes you feel special.

flibbertyjibbet · 09/07/2007 23:50

Margo - You've been out with my ex! And his everlasting fiver!!! Apache - thats why I am telling you to dump this tightwad - I was with one for FIVE YEARS. After a while it was such hard work to get money out of him towards the bills etc that I just paid for everything... what a fool.
And as for petrol, don't get me started on that one.
Dump him dump him dump him.

SpeccieSeccie · 09/07/2007 23:51

Money can't buy you love, but stinginess sure can show you the door.

Agree with mollym re the totally failing to notice what he could do for you. Stingy men are rarely just mean with money. They seem to translate this into mean with emotions/time/help. Sounds like your man is pretty guilty.

LoonyLyraLovegood · 09/07/2007 23:52

Tight git.

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