Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Good luck with the interview love

Oh and i didnt have an issue with his sending a message, more the wording given he was stating the obvious given that he couldn't even last longer than an hour! One of his opening stories was how a date had literally just stood up and walked out on him last week ans when he pulled her on it she said he was rude. Maybe it was a lucky escape anyway 😂 Back to swiping for me 🤦‍♀️

love good luck with the interview.

Good luck with the interview love. It sounds like you need the chat with Mr SA. I hate uncertainty too.

Good luck with the interview @Lovemusic33.

Love good luck with the interview. You need to talk to Mr SA and stop tying yourself in knots trying to second guess what he wants. Tell him what you want and he doesn't like it then it's time to move on.

Neverexpected2 he sounds charming!! Hopefully the next one will be better.

Ant330 get that profile sorted. I'm happy to have a look for you.

Thanks everyone your cat stories had me laughing my arse off....

We had 3 cats. So could relate although never any weird cat sex stroking hahaha.

Good luck love with the interview.

Ant what crisps did you have??

120 miles bloody hell. What did he cook?

My IT sounds like a right nobber.

Mr RY is Irish watch him this weekend lol

Good luck everyone and thanks again for keeping me entertained. Xx

I'm having dinner with the reappearing first iron Mr Sales this week. Suspect we may discuss whether to be 'official', but too early yet as he's been so flaky. But it'll be dinner plus dessert at his so a fun night either way

Had the date with Mrs flakey-but-snoggable last night. We met for a meal, had a long chat about what we wanted from a relationship, then went back to mine for, er, afters

It seems I have a FWB! First ever, and I'm still nervous about the whole thing, but I'm more than willing to give it a try. Keeping rule 3 firmly in mind.

Question. Is it ok to go on my arranged dates this weekend? She said she "doesn't want to know about any other women", but seems happy that we both see other people. opinions please!

Man4allseasons I would still go on your other dates. She hasn't asked to be exclusive with you. You've no idea whether or not you'll get on with your other dates.
No need to make any decisions just yet.
Glad last night went well for you.

@Lovemusic33 good luck with your interview! I'm sure you'll be fine 😊. As for MrSA definitely time for a chat, you can't carry on like this!

Messaged guy from Tuesday last night saying I didn't feel a spark. He took it really well actually and sent me a really nice message back. Not sure I've the energy right now to go back to swiping. Definitely feeling disheartened 🤷.

@Man4allseasons definitely go on your other arranged dates. You're not exclusive and have nothing to lose 😊

Man4 - Defo keep your dates/options open. At least she's seems to be aware, that's a bonus.

MrRY is still in my bed.

man4 great result. Even more so that you are both in the same page re seeing other people.

tooold in your bed , in a relationship with you?

I suspected that Mr Much Younger was going to go flaky on me and it appears that I was right. He has just messaged me to say that he was not feeling well and thought he might be 'coming down with something'. I have booked tickets for us to go and see a show tomorrow night, and he wanted to warn me that he might not be well enough to go. He is not very good at messaging me or replying to any message I send, and I suspect that he has a number of other dates on the go. I was getting fond of him but we have not dtd as (a) I thought he might be seeing other women and (b) I still want to get that threesome ticked off . I think that is still on for Saturday night but will check later to confirm.

Rather than wait and see whether Mr Much Younger is going to feel better by tomorrow night I have just texted a friend to ask whether she would like to come to the show with me. I hate being left hanging, and would be really fed up if I did nothing and ended up not being able to go to the show.

I have had no luck on POF at all recently. No messages and no interest. Not sure what I am doing wrong .

Thanks all. that was my feeling as well, but I'm so new to all this...

Lilly I could have a look at your profile from a mans perspective if you like?

Wow this thread is so hilarious!! 😂

So it’s my child free weekend and I have no dates set but I am talking to 4 on Kik from Fab, 1 on tinder, 1 on bumble and 2 on WA...I am determined to get some

Havnt cancelled Mr tooshortlawyer yet. The thing is his messages give me fizzy knickers so I am going to meet him! Unfortunately he is away this weekend

casssettes cat story is so funny

lillyrose I have edited my fab that I might consider a threesome with a couple so interested in your update

warrier hugs to you. Glad the thread is making you laugh

Man4 I have sent you a PM with my POF details. Any feedback much appreciated!

Marlboro I will let you know how my weekend pans out! There are not that many couples local to me who truly want a threesome, and I got inundated with offers from men after NSA sex, so I think I struck lucky. I have met the couple once for an evening out and we got on well, so I am hoping that everything goes well this weekend. I am a bit glum that Mr Much Younger has gone flaky on me, although to be fair he may really be ill. It is just that I have heard the same excuse loads of times before from guys on OLD and it usually means they are either going off me or have had a better offer! And I did notice that he was online last night.

My ex from last year started doing the same thing when he was going off me, and I ended up with loads of theatre and comedy show tickets that I had booked, which I didn't go to as he kept pulling out at the last minute (not a euphemism!)

@lovemusic33 all the best for your interview. As a serial off/on lurker I’ve followed your Mr SA story. I honestly think you’re better off going out somewhere and having a chat. I can understand the urge to DTD but really it’s just a booty call if you aren’t going out anywhere and spending time together. I’ve learnt not to tie myself up in knots trying to figure out what someone is thinking. Actions over words and all that :)

I have another Fab date tonight. We've been trying to meet since my first day on Fab. Almost didn't get tonight sorted due to miscommunication. Hope he's worth the wait.

lovemusic . I agree with everyone. You currently don’t seem to be getting what you want from Mr SA

lilyrose sorry about Mr MY. I hate flakiness.
Me Big asked me to have a threesome with him and his female friend. I declined as it was a Tuesday night at his with no social meet before. On reflection I think I would like to tick it off my list but would need a social meet first to see if any spark and I think I would be more comfortable with a couple rather than it just been 3 randoms but I am not sure why? Good luck

Good luck myold

Good luck with the interview Love and I agree with the others - time for the chat! It's been quite a while right now, you are completely within your rights to know what is going on.

Good luck with the date MyOld!

LilyRose good call on going with your friend tomorrow. And hope the threesome goes well! :))