what would you do if you found out your husband was "harassing" some woman?

[anon234355]

Just that really

Get his side of the story?

We need more details OP.

In what way is he "harassing" someone?

Are you the woman getting harassed?

Get proof off the woman and ask him what's happening. Then make a decision.

@anon. It's not "just that really"! You need to give so much more detail.

Gruzinkerbell1 going to places because he knows she is there, waiting for her outside her workplace, inappropriate comments etc

Divorce him.

Divorce him

Sorry my first answer was flippant. Still not enough info to give a good answer really. ‘Some woman’ sounds a bit dismissive by the way. If she is a victim in all this I would have sympathy with her for starters.

If he's doing that, then yes, divorce.

don't really want to go into much detail, but think this point it's important, so I will ask the question again. What would you do if your husband was harassing your sister?

I'd probably turn up at the same place, and hand him a bin bag full of his pants.

If I knew her I would ask if she wanted me to be a witness in a police investigation.
And obviously get rid of him

I know of a couple where this happened.
They and their group of friends blamed the stalkee for tempting the stalker. Vile

The sister should report to the police.

Are you the wife or the woman who is being harrassed ? He is a stalker - report him or divorce him. Or both.

sister? so not 'some woman' then?

going to places because he knows she is there, waiting for her outside her workplace, inappropriate comments etc

Is your husband actually doing this? If so, he's a stalker, fgs. He would be out of the house before he knew what hit him.

Still divorce him

Cross post.
Same but I would obviously be supportive of my sister

My sister, or any woman, I would report him to the Police and divorce the creep.

If he is your husband, divorce
If you're the sister, go to the police.

It makes it worse that it’s your sister. I’d divorce him.

I'd end the relationship. I don't think there would be any point in trying to fix this weird, creepy bloke who is behaving like this.

If I thought there were magic words I could say to turn this DH from a stalker into a healthy person with normal boundaries, then believe me, I would let you know what they were. But there really aren't.

ok so I'm the one who WAS being harassed, I say was because I recently told my sister what was happening and told her I wanted him far away from me and for him to stop harassing me and I haven't seen him since. My sister isn't talking to me now and I'm confused, it's like she is blaming me. I thought a lot before contacting her, but I was becoming really anxious and felt very uncomfortable around him.

Like I said, I've seen this happen where the victim is blamed.
It's horrible.
Don't let it stop you reporting it.
We believe you.
It's criminal behaviour.