OLD - do I tell him to back off politely and if so, how ?

[ceecee32]

Hi all - first date last Saturday. Met some others OLD but knew straight away that they weren't for me.
This one was nice enough, time passed by really quickly and we had a good time. I was happy to arrange to meet him again this upcoming Saturday.
BUT, and I dont know whether AIBU now. Every morning I get a text to say good morning, and he rings me every night. I know for some people that might be nice but its getting to be too much for me. I have said that he doesnt need to speak to me every day but he says that he wants to.
He wanted to meet on Friday and Sunday as well as Saturday but I have already said that I want to take it slowly.
I am going away for the weekend in May with 2 female friends - he has already commented that he wont see me for 2 weekends on the run as he is going on holiday to Spain ..... this is in fucking May !! I have only met him once

I dont know whether its me that is scared to get involved after being massively hurt by my ex - but its too much too soon for me.

I dont want to not see him as there could be potential for something more but how do I tell him to back off a bit without sounding a bitch.

I’ll just leave this here....!

If you have no romantic interest in the guy, then step away. He is new to the whole online dating and will have to learn how to navigate it all. Don't use him for company and validation when you aren't into him.

Please also be aware that his level of keenness cannot be sustained, and is absolutely no indication of his future feelings. When a guy is very intense at the start, they can actually end up backing off rather quickly. A slow burner is honestly the best way.
The last thing I would say to you is pay attention to how he reacts to your boundaries, ie if he continues to contact you excessively, or back down. A man who doesn't respect your feelings and boundaries really isn't worth being with

This. With bells on.

I met some real creeps on OLD. Be careful

Don’t ignore your instincts. They are telling you this guys not right

You are all so right.
I just wanted to meet someone but I can't make him be someone he isn't.
Almost right but not quite...... Now, just need to say something

Don’t waste your time on someone you know is unsuitable when you could be spending it on either going back to the drawing board or just enjoying time and activities for you, with you, by you.

In my experience people who build up this quickly at the start tend to run a mile when they realise you’re a real person not whatever they fantasise their dream partner is