Can't stand my husband touching me

[sleepyawake]

Married nearly 10 years, together 17. For the last while every time he comes near me I flinch and when he touches me I literally get shivers, and not in a good way. He'll try to kiss me occasionally and I give him my cheek. I can't even stand to peck him on the lips. Earlier he ran his hand round my waist and I froze, I could feel his touch there for ages afterwards, felt like it started aching where he touched me which sounds crazy but it's horrible. I just can't stand it. Any ideas, anyone else gone through this and come out the other side? Have 2 children and generally a happy life apart from anything remotely intimate. Help!

[K8ate]

So amongst lots of other things, you basically said he put on weight even you’ve done the same.
He hasn’t done anything wrong either from what you have said.
You sound very shallow.
I only hope if you divorce him, you don’t take him for everything he’s got and i pity the next man who follows in his footsteps.
Grow up.

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@user1479305498

Porn not poem!!

Sorry that made me laugh, I thought it must have been a really cringe poem

[whatrthechances]

I feel exactly like this about my long term dp, been together 20 odd years with dc. dp is still quite an attractive guy but I am no longer feeling it for him. definitely got the ick with him and cannot stand him touching me and definitely no longer desire him sexually. even though we had an amazing sex life in our younger days. I think once it's gone it's gone. I must admit my head was turned by another man recently and I did briefly act upon it and oh wow how my sexually desire came back! not for dp though just this other guy. made me realise dp is no longer for me. had the awkward conversation and told him I'm no longer in love with him but unfortunately we are still living together at the moment.