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Girlfriend Fell Asleep After Sex?🤷🏽‍♂️

110 replies

stressedinthought · 15/02/2019 01:39

Am I over reacting here?

We had a lovely Valentine’s Day together.

Had sex.. she went to the bathroom almost immediately after we finished.. wouldn’t lay and just relax for five minutes which I think is a nice thing to do once you’ve done that. I was so tired.. but waited up for her to come back to bed so we could lay with eachother for a little. She came back to bed.. didn’t say goodnight or anything... and just fell asleep almost instantly... No cuddling up to me or anything. On the other side of the bed as we speak.

The only thing she did was kiss her hand then press it against my lips for a second... like seriously? What?

Im now left wide awake typing this feeling very sensitive and offended? Almost put out?? Especially after the day we had together. Now I’m left just feeling resentful and will almost certainly bring this up tomorrow morning or is that not a wise idea?

It all just felt very rushed and not very romantic at all. How would you guys feel about this? Usually it’s the man who falls asleep and isn’t sensitive about this kind of stuff!!!

Almost feel strange laying here next to her not even being able to put my arm round her properly.

We’ve been together 7 months.

Thank you.

OP posts:
combatbarbie · 15/02/2019 15:11

If you were a woman you'd be getting opposite replies OP Hmm

HollowTalk · 15/02/2019 15:14

She’s a very cold / distant personality

Why are you with her, then?

BitchQueen90 · 15/02/2019 15:15

I do this after sex. I go to clean up straight away and then come back and fall asleep. I like my own space in bed. I don't want cuddles. Sorry OP! Grin

starfishmummy · 15/02/2019 15:16

Well at least (from the OPs point of view) she fell asleep afterwards not during or before....

bialystockandbloom · 15/02/2019 15:19

Wow am I in a parallel world? If a woman had posted this about her dp the responses would have been that he sounds like a dick/is using her/not into her/rude etc.

OP IMO it is not the norm that someone literally says not a word to you after sex. The cleaning up bit, fine, and not having a big old chat also fine, but to literally not say a single thing, turn over and go to sleep = just rude. If a bloke did that to me I'd think he was an arse.

As for the "she couldn't have enjoyed it/didn't come" comments - how has that conclusion been reached? Ditto the armchair analysis that the OP is always so needy Grin

Lovemusic33 · 15/02/2019 15:39

baily my thoughts exactly. Men seemed to get a tough time on MN, if it was a woman writing this the responses would be so different. To me it’s not normal for your partner to go to sleep straight after sex, for me I like to be hugged for a bit even if they are too tired to talk, it doesn’t take much effort to put your arm around someone or to say a few words.

PlayerRed · 15/02/2019 16:08

Well, OP....Nope, can't bring myself to the point of caring hmm

Why fucking comment then? 🤷🏽‍♂️

hellenbackagen · 15/02/2019 16:09

Had she had a drink with dinner perhaps?

Always knocks me out way faster than if not.

Stop stressing. It's a one off in 7 months? What are you worried about?

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 15/02/2019 16:35

Player It's an internet form. I'll comment if I want to. Thanks for your comment though. Which may also be considered unecessary, ironically Hmm

PlayerRed · 15/02/2019 17:04

judgypants

I know

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