Engagement ring confusion

[Blueflower22]

Hello ladies,

I am wondering what I should do as I am in a scenario where dp can't afford to get me an engagement ring that I actually like. Anything in his price range isn't that nice, I don't really want to say I don't like anything because I don't want to hurt his feelings. So I'm not sure what to do, because at the same time I don't want a ring that I'm not keen on and that I don't like at all, but I don't want to delay the wedding even more because it's already going to take him three months to save up for a ring in his price range. Any advice? Has anyone been in this situation?

@Blueflower my dd has a ring around the £2k mark - it was £1k as we have two great jewellers in town that sell second hand rings and the staff get many trays out from the back, know what there talking about. If you want to know where they are located pm me

Time machine?

If you want to get married quickly why wait till the poor bloke saves up for a ring just get married with no engagement ring. I did and iv got to say the pleasure we both get from knowing that we are married is worth more than some huge ring . I love seeing my husbands hand with his ring on. Glad u didn’t wait

Save your Tesco points-they’re worth three times the amount in Goldsmiths x

My husband and I bought a bridal set from Ernest Jones in the sale for half price. Might be worth waiting until their next sale :)

Glamira is a good cheaper site, all made in Germany. We had a very short engagement and OH said I could chose whatever I liked. I got a bigger chunkier celtic wedding ring in the end which I love and no engagement ring.

Get married but wait to get the ring you want.

I have an engagement ring I don’t particularly like and really wish I had asked him to exchange it when he bought it 9 years ago.. I was caught up in everyone saying aren’t you lucky, don’t be ungrateful, it’s the meaning behind the ring that matters, he spent a lot of money on that. If you have your heart set on something else just wait and get it. .

£1,000 for a ring? Bloody Hell.

Agree with @BaeBae re auctions. DP (the love of my life, after the DC) bought me some sparkly earrings for £20 at an auction. They are my favourite piece of jewellery of all time. If he ever gets round to proposing, I'd be more than happy with a similar ring.

One of my engagement rings is a diamond solitaire and the other is a sapphire with diamonds around it. I like the story behind them, but I never wear rings of any kind. My husband inherited them from an aunt, who got the sapphire ring first, but was feeding a calf and let it suck her fingers. Off came the ring and she thought it was lost. Her fiancé bought her a new ring, but the eventually the first one came through the calf so she had two. I know it isn't romantic but it makes me chuckle.

We paid £3 or so to get the diamond ring resized, and we didn't have to trail round any shops looking at rings, so I took that as a win. He offered to buy a new ring, but I didn't see the point. And a cheap (for us) engagement ring obviously didn't do any harm because we have been married for 25 years.

I can’t be the only one that thinks it’s ridiculous you can’t find ANYTHING you like for £1k?! Surely what your husbands wants to buy you, what he thinks you’ll like, should be nice enough for you? What’s going to happen when you can’t find a ... dress, shoes, house.... for your budget, will you make a big fuss?
Can’t believe this is actually a problem for you, I actually feel sorry for you future husband 🙈 he must feel pretty rubbish about himself if you’re making this much of a deal about him not having enough money...

I didn't have an engagement ring until MIL died and DH gave me hers. About 5/6 years after we got married.
It didn't stop me being engaged.

I think it’s important you love your ring, you’ll wear it for life so I can understand why you are keen to ensure it’s perfect for you. My engagement ring wasn’t amazing but I love it, however my husband bought me a much bigger and nicer ring (which I love more!) after we’d completed our family and were more financially secure. My engagement ring was bought on finance on interest free.

Why do you need an engagement ring? It’s the most pointless materialistic thing ever! We don’t even have wedding rings as we feels it’s not something that is necessary in this day and age! Shouldn’t the fact you’ll be spending the rest of your life with the person you love be enough? Or is getting married only about the material things now, maybe I missed the message on that?!

Oops. Hit post accidentally.

And while i understood the reason for my decision, i still felt bad sometimes. My values were different and that was fine, except i wanted to shout 'ring size/value isn't equal to amount of LOVE he feels!(or money either, by that time)"

DH solved my problem by eventually purchasing a nice colored stone ring for a Christmas present. Somehow, it wasn't the expense, but the thoughtfulness that changed their attitude.

Well, I didn't read the entire thread, but if you have 1,000 to spend, I say that's pretty good!

DH and I only had white gold wedding bands when we got married at the JP (Justice of the Peace) ( he had just graduated from the Academy and we were broke! HA!) and I didn't get an engagement ring till years later. Even the engagement ring didn't cost him that much. He purchased it from etsy artisan located in Boca Ratan. It's quite beautiful and has a 2 ct. Moissanite which people mistaken for a diamond because of the way it's cut. It's really quite gorgeous and I get compliments all the time when I wear it. I think it was only about $400-600?

Anyhoo, I really got into gold jewelry, so he bought me an antique bloomed gold wedding band with mine cut diamonds. So, that's all I wear now.

My point is, your tastes are going to change. The ring and the wedding in all reality mean nothing. It's the marriage that counts! So try not to fret over such trivial matters. You'll get there.

Since when was marriage all about the engagement ring? Mine didn’t even cost £200 but tbh if he’d proposed with a haribo ring I’d of still said yes! How are you going to afford a wedding if he can’t afford a ring?

You sound spoiled. What's wrong with him choosing what he can afford and the man you love wanting to spend his whole life with you. I think you need to look at this more realistically and be grateful for what you actually have. The love is what is important not the ring.

Show us pics of all these fancy rings! It might inspire OP and I'm really nosy and will likely never have an engagement ring of my own

To me you're coming across a somewhat grabby...if the ring is such a big issue, then will he be able to actually afford the wedding you want? Sorry to put a damper on things but if money is such an issue now then what will it be like when you're actually married?
I think it's so easy to get carried away in the moment and not see these things.

Shallow.

I might be from a different generation here , when we got engaged I picked the ring I liked best from what he/ we could afford . It was no where near the 6 months or some other such number that was ‘ recommended ‘ at the time . I love it because of what it symbolises. I have worn it every day and night since then ( over 20 yrs )
Same with my wedding my dad gave me a budget and I stuck to it . I could have paid myself or added to it but I knew it was important to my dad to be seen paying ( he still Hates being treated )
At the end of the day for me it was about being with my soul mate advhaving my friends and family with me . Not about the dream ring/ dress/wedding .

For heavens sake if you love him take any ring that you can afford. Second hand is good.
I’ve seen so many friends get married with fabulous rings then get divorced. Fabulous rings don’t give you a happy marriage. Finding someone that you love and who loves you is far more precious than a chuffing ring 🙂

Just get him to do this! So much love involved!
www.facebook.com/MickFlanaganFans/videos/392709147967741/

It doesn't matter what anyone else says

If you want a particular ring then make sure you get it

But stop being so fucking tight and put half £ into the pot yourself

How mean are you to make your BF save up for months when YOU are the one being choosy?

And then have the audacity to bitch about the time it's going to take him to save up

Appalling attitude

I wouldn't marry you