Engagement ring confusion

[Blueflower22]

Hello ladies,

I am wondering what I should do as I am in a scenario where dp can't afford to get me an engagement ring that I actually like. Anything in his price range isn't that nice, I don't really want to say I don't like anything because I don't want to hurt his feelings. So I'm not sure what to do, because at the same time I don't want a ring that I'm not keen on and that I don't like at all, but I don't want to delay the wedding even more because it's already going to take him three months to save up for a ring in his price range. Any advice? Has anyone been in this situation?

I didn't like any rings in the usual high street shops and couldn't afford platinum new so scoured second hand shops and antique centres until we found what we wanted and then I spent ages searching eBay for my other rings

I got my platinum diamond ring in an antique centre for £600 including resizing. My platinum band off eBay for £150 from a Birmingham jewlery quarter shop and my platinum an diamond eternity ring off eBay for £400 from someone who was selling.

There's a lot of misinformation on this thread.

Some diamonds are an investment as long as you work with a diamond dealer and understand the cost prices - they have to be investment grade obviously and certified by ideally GIA.

Yes most peoples rings aren't ^ this hence why they devalue .

Most jewelry shop rings are a huge huge con .

If you want a decent diamond dealer look at LondonDiamondsOfficial on Instagram - they have a highlight on their stories called the Hall of Shame identifying overpriced rings in Hatton Garden / London Boutiques !

I have only one ring which serves as my engagement and wedding ring combined. My DP spent the money he would have used to buy both rings on my engagement ring and I was then able to have the one I really wanted. It works for me as I don't like wearing a lot of rings.

Luckybe40 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻 yes.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a big ring .

I am paying for half of mine . Some people like nice cars , nice handbags , I'd like a nice big GIA diamond .

I buy my clothes on eBay sometimes and love charity shops - I'm not pretentious in the slightest.

It's just personal choice .

Mine cost £120
I absolutely love it.
It’s from the Hebrides. A place special to both of us.
Don’t be that woman who places the price of a ring about what it means!

How about a second hand ring? We have a jewellery auction near to us this Friday. Lots of rings though obviously may not be to your taste, but could be a fraction of new cost.

My first engagement ring was not very expensive when we did eventually have money my husband bought me a new engagement ring which I love. I used the old engagement ring diamonds to make a new ring with wedding band from my grandmother and another stone from my other grandmother's ring and this ring holds lots of sentamental value even though new engagement ring is more valuable.

Can we have a thread about our pets? This OP is a joke.

You don’t know what vintage means? How old are you OP as you seem quite young? Your perception of £ seems quite odd - you deem £1000 not enough for a ring yet you are confident you can fund an entire wedding for £200.

I just went ahead and got married - no engagement ring. How on earth are you managing to get married abroad on £200???

My DH bought a cheap ring initially, then a fabulous eternity ring on our 10th anniversary! Which I still wear.

Mine cost £120
I absolutely love it.
It’s from the Hebrides. A place special to both of us

Is it from Hebridean Jewellery? Their stuff is gorgeous!

For everyone judging OP, i couldn't see spending a lot on an engagement ring. I definitely love and am loved by dh.

HOWEVER, once lived in a place where "love" was measured by ring size.

Traditionally the ring is about three months salary. If you can’t afford a ring (no idea what value ring you are thinking of) then he needs to start saving and you need to wait so that you can afford the wedding. The ring is a small part of the overall costs, generally.

Will you not like the ring as a symbol of his love rather than as a piece of jewellery? My daughter has just announced their engagement and her fiancé saved a third of his salary for a year and a half to afford it. She loves the ring partly because it’s beautiful but more because he’s worked hard and shown commitment in saving for it.

OP give auctions a try you may be really surprised , Good luck and Congratulations on your forthcoming engagement .

If all you want is a fancy piece of jewellery, then buy it yourself. You don't need a ring to be engaged, you don't even need a ring to be married.
£1000 is quite a lot - please don't make your fiance feel inadequate, and have to save up even more, because you are fussy.

Ik for a ring is mega bucks.
I have no idea how you have a problem... gah!

i would suggest putting it towards the wedding ive never worn my ring and my wedding ring is more important to me after all its just a symbol that your commited if your already planning the wedding then you both know that alraady, he can always buy you a ring for your anniversary that would be just as special

PS some people won't wear antique rings. They want new everything because new is better as everybody knows.
Looks on it this way, the ring will be worth zilch after Brexit.

I've been married twice...didn't have an engagement ring either time! I think you may be getting your priorities all wrong if you're worrying about not liking a 'cheap ring' when you can't afford the wedding 🤷‍♀️

My engagement ring was around £40.

I had a very specific idea of the style of engagement ring that I'd like. I fell in love with one but it was £650, which I knew was way over what DH could afford. I paid half and both of us were perfectly happy with that arrangement. That was 13 years ago.

Op have you thought about having a diamond wedding ring instead? either a diamond hoop or half hoop, they are very practical, raised single stones tend to catch on everything, and yes put extra towards it.

Hi - go vintage or antique. They are cheaper and in my opinion made better if you aren't going for top end. I used a ring that my mum had and I paid for the shank to be changed to a chunkier one. We then used my grandmas wedding ring for me and DH had his DFs ring adapted (he had inherited it and wasn't one for a pinky ring anyway). So we ended up spending almost nothing on rings but lots of family history which I loved. I always see amazing antique rings and they are so much cheaper than the ones you see in the high street jewellers. You are going to need your money for deposits, mortgages and maybe kids so unless you can afford it easily I wouldn't make your life difficult paying for a ring now. You can always get a big sparkler in the future! Congratulations!!