Hall pass to take drugs?

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So my partner of 8 years and 2 children has recently over the past 6 months has started taking drugs with his friends. Mainly cocaine and I believe MDMA but not as often as cocaine. I am VERY anti drugs and since he started we have been arguing a lot almost every day about it, I’ve threatened to leave if he doesn’t stop but he has made his oppinion quite clear which is ... He will stop taking drugs on general nights out in the UK but say for instance there is a stag do or something similar, he wants me to basically give him a hall pass to take them.. this really doesn’t sit well for me and I want to say no. He thinks I’m over reacting and trying to control him ... am I? Would you let you partner take drugs occasionally?

@Comeonchameleon I've only had chance to look very briefly over his studies but it seems like he sets off with a 'theory' and then goes on to prove it.
The trouble with this is that statistics aren't always a true reflection on the real life impact of the subject.
Pretty much any theory can be proved if you present the evidence in a certain way but no matter how many times I read the study, the evidence seems far from conclusive.

The article I read earlier actually said he was sacked after he claimed ecstasy and lsd were safer than alcohol sorry, not this particular study. Please say nobody's stupid enough to agree with that? 😳

Honestly I think it depends on your personality type & wouldn't worry me if it was occasional. As a teen, most of my friends took ecstasy, acid & weed. Most of us don't do it anymore or incredibly rarely, some smoke a bit of weed & some are dead as they got addicted to the 'small stuff' & moved on to harder things.

Drugs can make a night out much better if taken carefully. Having said all this if you've said it's a deal breaker, that's totally up to you & either he agrees or stops, or does it behind your back.

Would you let you partner take drugs occasionally?

Mine doesn’t and I wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who did. I have no interest in drugs at all and I don’t see how I’d ever have enough in common with someone to have a relationship with someone who did. But he’s an adult so it’s not up to you to “let” him or not. But it’s a red line for me so he’d be left in no doubt that if he took them the relationship would be at an end.

Some people have the opinion that recreational drug users are low lifes

Do you know how cocaine is trafficked? The misery, destruction and death it causes? If you don’t give a shit about that because you like the high of shoving a couple of lines up your nose then yes, you’re a low life.

Of course there’s a wider debate to be had about harm and whether legalising all drugs altogether might be a better option but we are where we are just now.

Cocaine =/= all drugs. I agree, about Cocaine. It's a shit drug and people who take it are dick heads. That doesn't mean all drugs are bad. No children die in the production of lsd for example.

I think people that smoke are dickheads. We are all different.

Does his drug taking affect you in real terms such as finances or him being unable to fulfil any practical responsibilities? Or is it purely an emotional response you have?