Made a complete idiot of myself drunk

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So here goes...
This is my first time posting on any thread so bare with me.
So I recently separated from my partner and have since began seeing someone I used to date years ago of whom I really liked. Over the past month me and this guy came back into contact and have began seeing each other again. We speak everyday and stay together once a week. Everything has been going absolutely fine until last night..
So last night I went for a few drinks with some girls and decided to message him. (Never a good idea when you’re drunk I know) To my delight he messaged back and we met up, on arriving I was VERY drunk !!! I hadn’t eaten the hole day due to severe anxiety at the moment. Instantly he began getting annoyed with me as he was sober and I was drunk. We spent an hour together and then he ordered me a taxi home.
When in the taxi I explained to the taxi driver with my slurred speech, I only had card. He told me to contact the taxi firm in which I did and they said “we will cover the cost but please don’t order a taxi again” The taxi driver dropped me home and then I get a txt.. the guy I was seeing had massaged me going MAD saying that the taxi driver had called him and said i had done a “runner” and that if he didn’t pay then they would send the police. I explained to him the situation and he was not buying it. He instantly blocked me on all social media, so I called him and he said he was really unhappy as he had the taxi driver threatening him. I instantly called the taxi firm and they hadn’t a clue about the driver calling my guy and instantly apologised, they agreed he should not have contacted my guy as we had set up an arrangement.
So today I txt him and apologised for my drunken self and his reply was that he doesn’t need stress and I had really pissed him off, we’re never gonna be together so stop seeing each other and for future reference don’t drink around guys cause it makes you a different person” then blocked my number. So now i am absolutely gutted!! Not only have I fucked everything up for the sake of a bottle of wine, but now he hates me and I feel so sad and my anxiety is at absolute maximum! Now I can’t eat or sleep 😪
I never mentioned at the start of this he has cut me off twice before. He was in a long relationship and had split up and slept with other girls on numerous occasions (stupid me I kno) and I recently lent him a considerable amount of money,
So I just want advice really or some words of comfort.
Thanks :)

Advice? Learn lessons. Drink less. Don't lend money. He'd cut you off twice before? Don't repeat the same thing and expect different results.
Raise your standards. It's far better to be with no-one than with a wrong one.

Words of comfort? You really, really are better off without him. You can do better.

Over the top reaction.

He sounds like a lot better for a relationship aside from this incident.

Do you have any proof of the loan to him?!

I keep writing replies to this and then deleting them.

Basically it sounds like he just wasn’t that into you in the first place and is being an arsehole stringing you along.
Surely he knew you would be tipsy when you went to see him?
Why couldn’t the taxi driver just stop at a cash point?

Like a poor bet for a relationship - is what I wrote before autocorrect

He’s a wanker.

Think about how you’re going to get your money back.

Think you got the better end of the deal you managed to get out of a fucked up relationship

Could the taxi firm not have stopped at a cash point if you had your card? That's what most would do. Are you sure he's telling you the truth about the driver ringing and threatening him? Has he had past experience with alcoholism or drinking and girlfriends? (not for one minute saying you are one by the way but wondering if he may be oversensitive to drunkeness) look... Most people have gotten pissed up and made a tit of themselves and in some instances unfortunately its pivotal and ends up a bigger mistake than what you would hope. I feel your pain. I think his reaction is quite dramatic and from what you said later in your post perhaps he has some issues. It doesn't sound like he's ready for a commited relationship. You may have saved yourself some time wasting. Don't beat yourself up. Just apologise diplomatically and chalk it down to experience. Next time your out with your friends step away from the drunken dialling. Would meds for anxiety be a good idea? Alcohol is never the right solution. It WILL make your anxiety far far worse. I hope you're feeling OK. As the days pass you will feel less raw about this

Forgot the bit about money loaning... Bloody hypocrite he is. Won't pay fir your taxi fair and is furious at being asked but doesn't mind having your money sitting in his account. Sounds like he was stringing you along for financial reasons. Think yourself lucky you're out of it. Sounds like a convenient excuse to dump you so he doesn't have to pay back the loan. I bet you've got no proof you've leant him it and an agreement to pay it back?

Quite convenient for him if you’ve lent him money and now he’s blocked you on everything

The taxi driver didn’t stop as I was really drunk! So I think his main concern was to get me home.
I have started medication again today as I have had a very long bistory it anxiety and depression.
I know in myself I haven’t done anything drastically bad, and in general I really am a really nice, fun and loving person. I have a lot of friends who enjoy my company. I just drank abit too much and lost myself a little.
He drinks himself sometimes, he’s not shy from that side of things.
I just feel like heart broken all over again. Obviously due to past history feelingsnaturally return and yet again I’ve got my heart broke.
I wanna speak to him and explain and apologise but he’s blocked my number.
Thank you for your reply. X

Yes I have proof of the loan

Don’t apologise to him, OP. He’s been an arsehole in the past and he’s doing it again.

Get in contact with him to say you want the money back by x date.

He's lying, the taxi driver didn't call him. Get your money back and keep away from him, he sounds like a cunt

Install the Uber app.
Anyone who is so unforgiving about someone getting drunk and being a bit of a tit is not someone to be getting involved with.

He sounds like a knob.

Sounds like he was looking for a reason to throw in the towel to be honest. We all have been in a state from time to time...so I don’t think his reaction is genuine shock and disappointment to be honest.
Perhaps he’s blocking you in this way, hoping to embarrass you enough not to get in contact about the loan???

And remember, you will have The Fear today.

It is not a day to be beating yourself up about anything.

(But i’d still be fucking him off out of it).

Oh good. Make sure you make it very clear (best when the alcohol is totally out of your system and you're feeling less raw and vulnerable) that you need your money back. I think you're feelings are exacerbated by your hangover. If you did something really outrageous and horrifying whilst you were drunk maybe he's fury would be in some way understandable. But it just seems like a convenient excuse to me. Do you remember anything you said/did whilst there?

I think he's actually done you a favour. He's just repeated the pattern of behaviour that he exhibited before. You are better off without him.

Make sure you get your money back - through the small claims court if necessary and don't lend money again.

Yeah my own stupidity made me go back to him which I completely am aware of. When I look logically he perhaps wasn’t right for me.. he cheated on his ex on numerous occasions but I suppose I really believed I could change him.
I think because I never ever sleep around, the fact that with him obviously I did makes it all the harder.

He sounds like a dead weight, dragging you down.
People get drunk. It's not a good look but it happens. Is this how he reacts if one of his male friends gets drunk?
Don't chase him or appear needy in any way. Just get your money back, obviously not easy if he's blocked you. If you need to, get legal advice about this.

I remember everything when I was there. He was annoyed at the beginning then fine towards the end of the night. We left on civil terms and said we were seeing each other Sunday. Then obviously came the txt about the taxi etc.

When you manage to tell him you want your money back, just be aware he might change his attitude and be nicer towards you. Don’t fall for it, get your money back ASAP

He's cut you off twice before, he's borrowed money from you and not paid you back and when you get howling drunk and potentially vulnerable he lets you get in a cab alone and with no money. I wouldn't do that to someone I cared for no matter how irritatingly drink they were. I'd be very concerned something might happen to them.

He sounds like a shit catch and I agree he's probably blocked you to avoid having to pay you what he owes. My advice is forget him. If you can get your money back do and then head for the hills away from this idiot.

He sounds like a knob. You've hardly done anything that bad...everyone has got a bit shit faced. If he really liked you he would have made the effort to see you home safely with a glass of water and tucked you up in bed.

Red flags all over this. He sounds volatile. You really are better off without him. When you feel better you might start to see it. Stop beating yourself up now. Worse things have happened. If he was a decent bloke he'd have paid your taxi fair and text to see if you got home OK. Move on from him. Do make steps to get your money back. Did you lend him a significant amount?