Made a complete idiot of myself drunk

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So here goes...
This is my first time posting on any thread so bare with me.
So I recently separated from my partner and have since began seeing someone I used to date years ago of whom I really liked. Over the past month me and this guy came back into contact and have began seeing each other again. We speak everyday and stay together once a week. Everything has been going absolutely fine until last night..
So last night I went for a few drinks with some girls and decided to message him. (Never a good idea when you’re drunk I know) To my delight he messaged back and we met up, on arriving I was VERY drunk !!! I hadn’t eaten the hole day due to severe anxiety at the moment. Instantly he began getting annoyed with me as he was sober and I was drunk. We spent an hour together and then he ordered me a taxi home.
When in the taxi I explained to the taxi driver with my slurred speech, I only had card. He told me to contact the taxi firm in which I did and they said “we will cover the cost but please don’t order a taxi again” The taxi driver dropped me home and then I get a txt.. the guy I was seeing had massaged me going MAD saying that the taxi driver had called him and said i had done a “runner” and that if he didn’t pay then they would send the police. I explained to him the situation and he was not buying it. He instantly blocked me on all social media, so I called him and he said he was really unhappy as he had the taxi driver threatening him. I instantly called the taxi firm and they hadn’t a clue about the driver calling my guy and instantly apologised, they agreed he should not have contacted my guy as we had set up an arrangement.
So today I txt him and apologised for my drunken self and his reply was that he doesn’t need stress and I had really pissed him off, we’re never gonna be together so stop seeing each other and for future reference don’t drink around guys cause it makes you a different person” then blocked my number. So now i am absolutely gutted!! Not only have I fucked everything up for the sake of a bottle of wine, but now he hates me and I feel so sad and my anxiety is at absolute maximum! Now I can’t eat or sleep 😪
I never mentioned at the start of this he has cut me off twice before. He was in a long relationship and had split up and slept with other girls on numerous occasions (stupid me I kno) and I recently lent him a considerable amount of money,
So I just want advice really or some words of comfort.
Thanks :)

He made all that bullshit up to gaslight you and get out of paying you back.

Like fuck would I write the money off. I'd keep things very factual and non emotional and make it very clear I expected my money bank but other than that want nothing more to do with him.

So I haven’t got the money back YET! I don’t know how am supposed to get hold of him when he’s blocked me on every single thing? I can only try to call him off someone else’s phone I suppose 😬 I just think his reaction was very immature.. like yeah I got abit drunk, haven’t insulted anyone or been horrible to anyone probably just more annoying than anything !!

Can you contact him through his work ? Might make him react quick because I’m sure he won’t want people knowing he owes you money

Email? Can you block email? Or text him from someone else’s phone?

Send a letter by registered or recorded delivery (one that requires a signature as proof of receipt) asking for your money back. Say that if it isn't paid back by x date then you will proceed with the small claims court.

Then do so. Keep the proof of receipt signature as evidence for court, as well as your proof it was a loan.

I think his reaction is way OTT. It seems like he’s hiding behind his self righteous behaviour.

Sorry this has happened op, frankly it sounds like you dodged a bullet there as the previous behaviour you've described plus borrowing money don't make the guy sound like a keeper. You sound like you're in a bad place just now and if I was a real life friend I'd be trying to help you to avoid alcohol right now..... it really didn't do you any favours.
Please don't beat yourself up though, most of us have have a completely cringeworthy drinking experience. Put it behind you and focus on nurturing yourself and getting better.

I would try and nicely nicely agree to a payment plan or something with him first. That way if he denies it was a loan (says it was a gift) or denies you gave him the money- you may have got him to put in writing that he was planning on paying you back.

I have watched some judge tinder and Judy and think it could be useful to have this in court if needed.

But they are telly judges so I'm not 100% sure

But if you go in hard he may just immediately claim he didn't know you wanted it back. What money? Etc.

I wouldn't call it immature - I'd call it calculated.

He was looking for an out plus excuse not to pay you back. 2 birds with one stone.

He sounds like a total tit. What an over reaction to something as silly as having a bit too much to drink. Jeez the states my oh has seen me in!!! 🙈
Blocking you with no explanation about how he will repay you is out of line. Find a way to get in touch and tell him bluntly that you don't want to be with him but you need to set up an arrangement to be paid back. This is really not on.

As other people are saying, getting drunk and having a mix up over a taxi isn't a big deal. A former colleague of mine ended up marrying a woman who got so drunk on their first date she fell over and passed out!

Stop tying him needing to pay you the money back to him forgiving you for what is basically a very minor thing.

You don't' need to keep apologizing. You have. If he doesn't accept it then that's his problem. Maybe contact a mutual friend and say you accept he doesn't want to contact you but he needs to pay you back.

Sorry about your anxiety, shitty people will only make that a lot worse.

Also, I'm confused, why did you leave his house and go to a pub to get a taxi home?

Also am I right in thinking you went round had sex and then he basically put a very drunk woman in a taxi without checking she had any money on her

Apart from you being owed money you have had a lucky escape but you do need to puush getting the money back

OP went to the pub to meet him. Within an hour he had ‘put’ her in a cab and ‘sent’ her home!

Although he isn’t a babysitter, it would have been nice if he paid the cab driver, as OP was ‘slurring’ and obviously quite drunk.

Everyone makes a fool out of there selves when drunk! I’ve been there so many times!
I once fell over in a beer garden in front of my now husband and was mortified but he helped me and we laughed about it after. Don’t worry about making an arse our of yourself you’ll laugh about it in the future. Tbh he just doesn’t sound into you he’s done you a big favour really! Plus would you want to be with someone who can’t laugh at you being a tit while drunk lol

Sounds like he was looking for an excuse, to get you out of his life.