Made a complete idiot of myself drunk

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So here goes...
This is my first time posting on any thread so bare with me.
So I recently separated from my partner and have since began seeing someone I used to date years ago of whom I really liked. Over the past month me and this guy came back into contact and have began seeing each other again. We speak everyday and stay together once a week. Everything has been going absolutely fine until last night..
So last night I went for a few drinks with some girls and decided to message him. (Never a good idea when you’re drunk I know) To my delight he messaged back and we met up, on arriving I was VERY drunk !!! I hadn’t eaten the hole day due to severe anxiety at the moment. Instantly he began getting annoyed with me as he was sober and I was drunk. We spent an hour together and then he ordered me a taxi home.
When in the taxi I explained to the taxi driver with my slurred speech, I only had card. He told me to contact the taxi firm in which I did and they said “we will cover the cost but please don’t order a taxi again” The taxi driver dropped me home and then I get a txt.. the guy I was seeing had massaged me going MAD saying that the taxi driver had called him and said i had done a “runner” and that if he didn’t pay then they would send the police. I explained to him the situation and he was not buying it. He instantly blocked me on all social media, so I called him and he said he was really unhappy as he had the taxi driver threatening him. I instantly called the taxi firm and they hadn’t a clue about the driver calling my guy and instantly apologised, they agreed he should not have contacted my guy as we had set up an arrangement.
So today I txt him and apologised for my drunken self and his reply was that he doesn’t need stress and I had really pissed him off, we’re never gonna be together so stop seeing each other and for future reference don’t drink around guys cause it makes you a different person” then blocked my number. So now i am absolutely gutted!! Not only have I fucked everything up for the sake of a bottle of wine, but now he hates me and I feel so sad and my anxiety is at absolute maximum! Now I can’t eat or sleep 😪
I never mentioned at the start of this he has cut me off twice before. He was in a long relationship and had split up and slept with other girls on numerous occasions (stupid me I kno) and I recently lent him a considerable amount of money,
So I just want advice really or some words of comfort.
Thanks :)

Definite red flags and I suspect he could be lying about hte taxi driver

But you definitely need your money so basically tell him that

OP it sounds like he really wasn't that fussed about you to begin with 😳
I've been seeing someone for 6 months, got absolutely arseholed at a Xmas party (not with him) and drunk text him, he came and picked me up and took me back to mine. I made a complete tit of myself that evening saying various things (I asked him if I could shit on him 🤔🤷🏼‍♀️) but he was amazing. Tucked me up in bed, walked my dog for me, ordered me a kebab and then held my hair back while I was sick 🤦🏼‍♀️
Now he just teases me about it and we can laugh about it together.
It really sounds like he's just treating you as an option and obviously has no issues just ditching you when it suits him

Things that shout out to me are

-what taxi doesnt take cards now days 🤔

-also if you where that drunk. Why didnt he see you home and check you where ok? Rather than just leaving you in a taxi.

He doesnt sound very caring. That would put me right off someone.

He sounds like a controlling dick and better his true colours now than later. Ask yourself if you'd be so unforgiving, nasty to someone who would likely be hungover, nasty to someone you're supposed to like, not want to pay for someone's taxi home, block someone on social media (childish) and generally be so nasty.
Please see this as a lucky escape you're worth far more. People get drunk, so what. He's behaved very horribly. Please move on

OP, I feel for you. That's fucking horrible

Ok yeah so...obvious and clumsy gaslight on taxi stuff. Probably to get himself out of loan dilemma.

He's devalued and then disengaged otherwise he wouldn't have blocked you. This is a good thing.

Do you have his address? Small claims court. Job. Done.

I mean this gently OP, is now the right time to be dating?

He’s a bastard he’s just using you tell him to fuck off .

And get your money back.

Oops I meant F**+ off ! Sorry

@wishy - ill have your OH if and when you've finished with him deffo a keeper

If you had loaned this guy money, why did he not pay for your taxi? Or get you to an ATM first or check you had money.
Why did the taxi driver have his phone number and not yours???
All very strange.

He doesn't want to pay the loan back is my guess so as Renarde1975 says if yo have this address then small claims court.

No decent guy would treat you like this.

So he's ghosted you twice before.
He's a liar and a cheat.
He overreacts and treats you like shit.
He's taken money from you.
Yeah! You are well rid of this one.

Can you contact him via a mutual friend?
You want your money back or at least a repayment or you will take him to small claims court (depending on amount of course)
He sounds like a chancer.
Don't let him get away with your money though.

So the reason they had his phone number is because he called up the taxi for me,. He didn’t wanna drop me home as I live like 20 mins away not that far I know.
The problem with me is because I have anxiety I really do over think things and things really do affect me! Like if for example I’ve made a mistake or had a fall out with someone (which is rare) it really bothers me. So as you can imagine this really has upset me.
1- I feel abit heartbroken
2- it’s gave me a heightened sense of anxiety.

It wasn’t in he thousands it was like £500

What did he mean by the remark that you shouldn't drink around guys?

£500 is significant enough to pursue. He's obviously not acknowledging the fact he owes you money. Not a decent guy thing to do. He's an utter hypocrite. Your self worth must be low to still want to chase after him. You have friends you say? Can you talk how you feel over with any of them?

The comedian Josh Wolf has a story about accidentally sh*tting himself on a first date with the woman he went on to marry - if he can't cope with you in a less than perfect state then the relationship was always doomed to failure - life happens, no-one is perfect!

Also "take the taxi fare out of the £500 you owe me" isn't unreasonable....

@limpbizkit haha! I'm going to try and hang on to him for a bit longer but I'll let you know 😉

OP all joking aside, any decent mans primary concern would be you getting home safely. That in itself is a red flag
You also deserve someone who you can be yourself with, even if that sometimes means you're a drunken tit!
You deserve better, take a bit of time and you'll soon realise you're worth more than this prick

He sounds like an absolute tosser and you sound lovely. Don't beat yourself up

The comedian Josh Wolf has a story about accidentally shtting himself on a first date with the woman he went on to marry - if he can't cope with you in a less than perfect state then the relationship was always doomed to failure - life happens, no-one is perfect!*

Haha! I wouldn't mind if it was deep buried sexual fantasy of mine that I couldn't hold in after 12 pints but I'm fairly sure it isn't 😂
Luckily he found it hilarious and was so lovely about the whole thing the next day!

Do you have his address? Send him a request for the loan back then fuck him off . He sounds horrible.

I reckon some of this is because if he blocks you, he doesn't have to give you the money back. Make sure you get it back. In his position he could have paid for the taxi as a thank you for the loan.

Just write the £500 off and put down to lesson learned.

Anxiety totally get as I've felt the same before. Honestly though, get out the house, see a friend/family member. You'll forget for a while and feel better. First few days are the hardest.
Get yourself some bananas or yogurt - my go to anxiety food as they slide down easily.

Don't feel bad. He's the one being a jerk. Just make sure you get your money back from him.

Like a famous quote goes 'if he can't handle you at your worse ..he doesn't deserve you at your best'
He sounds like a sulky git anyway so would forget about him .. You were drunk enjoying yourself nothing to beat yourself up over