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Original poster

OH attacked me but I can't leave tonight (pic)

414 replies

youjustdontunderstand · 24/01/2019 21:57

Threw DS high chair at me then hit me with a remote. I have a job interview tomorrow I've already rearranged it so that's not an option and I need this job.

I have packed up all our things and hid them I can't have him know we are leaving.

Really worried about this cut being visible tomorrow! Sad

OP posts:
blessedmummyov5 · 24/01/2019 23:42

Op let us know ur ok last msg was he had ur keys I hope he don't find u looking for bits stay safe x

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 24/01/2019 23:44

He'll take your phone next. Please ring police.

DustyMcDustbuster · 24/01/2019 23:44

OP last posted 30 mins ago. I’m praying she’s ok & police on the way.

grenadezombie · 24/01/2019 23:45

I hope you are safe OP Thanks

Yulebealrite · 24/01/2019 23:47

Try and laugh your injury off tomorrow at the interview if it's obvious. Down play it a bit and say you've had a bit of an accident with a tinkly laugh. Only expand with a lie if they press you for more details.

Good luck for tomorrow. In the meantime do what you have to do to keep yourself safe tonight. If you feel you can wait for tomorrow, do so, but if you are concerned text someone tonight to call the police for you.

Smotheroffive · 24/01/2019 23:53

Oh OP, I really feel for you. Flowers
Make sure you take a full face picture for evidence, then lots of ice compresses in a towel.
If you phone the police whilst he's asleep, they will come and get him out tonight, tn you can all saty in your home and get an instant occupation order and non-mol too to prevent him accessing it again, or is it his house?

Keep safe, and again, so sorry x

GobAllMighty · 24/01/2019 23:53

He's already taken your car keys then it could very well be your phone then he can go as far as hiding the house keys from stopping you going to your interview tomorrow. You need to get out now OP ring the police they will arrest him and hold him overnight whilst you can gather everything you need.

MapMyMum · 24/01/2019 23:55

Are you ok OP?

WellBHouse · 24/01/2019 23:55

Of course you phone the police. They will make him give you the keys and he’ll been held until at least the morning. The police will make sure that you and your kids are somewhere safe. If you can’t ring, text your family and friends and ask them to call the police for you

lunar1 · 24/01/2019 23:58

I really hope you called the police.

MrsCatE · 24/01/2019 23:59

Please call the police. They'll take him and ensure you and kids are safe. As others have said, he's purposely hidden your keys and he will go after your phone when he wakes up. Can you at least let someone close know and ask for help? Imagine you've swapped places with one of your kids - wouldn't you be screaming at them to get out? I wish all the best. Hugs.

Smotheroffive · 24/01/2019 23:59

BTW, I actually did have a bad accident literally on the way to an interview! Debated seriously whether to still go, was so shaken and had hit side of my face, but I went as it had been such a long drive, and was so glad I did!

beck3001 · 25/01/2019 00:00

Would you not need the keys for in the morning lovely?
Do you think he's hidden them because he thinks you will leave in the night?

I hope you're okay! X

ChakiraChakra · 25/01/2019 00:04

Oh love. Please tell somebody outside the house who you trust. Stay safe. Update us when its safe to do so. Xxx

AlwaysSunnyInLondon · 25/01/2019 00:04

Please leave OP. I have experience of an abuser within the family (not a partner or ex partner) threatening me (and others) with serious harm and even death in front of several witnesses. Please put ypu and your children's safety first. The job interview is not important if it'll put your life at risk. If you can't safely call the police please text someone and have someone else call them

AcrossthePond55 · 25/01/2019 00:06

Call the police. If nothing else they will make him give you your keys and see you and DC safely into your car and on your way.

Fusioluxe · 25/01/2019 00:07

Hide your phone. He doesn’t know you post here does he?

IShitGlitter · 25/01/2019 00:12

I can only echo what others have said call the police!

Maxrichterttt · 25/01/2019 00:13

Hope you’re ok OP

EvenLess · 25/01/2019 00:13

OP, I really hope you've called the police. I don't know what else to say other than I hope you are safe and away from him Flowers

Meerkatmad05 · 25/01/2019 00:14

This is so upsetting to read, i truly hope everything is okay and you manage to get out safe with your children, no one should suffer in silence x

Original poster
youjustdontunderstand · 25/01/2019 00:15

Can someone ring the police for me?

If it's possible x

OP posts:
Thatsalotofblood · 25/01/2019 00:15

I really hope you are ok. I hope you have notifications off so he can't see this? Maybe a good idea to not comment any further? (Been in this situation myself and had notifications on)

userschmoozer · 25/01/2019 00:16

No we cant, we don't know where you are.

Justaboy · 25/01/2019 00:17

Can you PM a number and adress to someone here or MN HQ?..