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Husband searching for day use hotels..

111 replies

letterbox · 15/01/2019 14:45

Hi,

So my husband has been a bit 'offy' and just not seeming him.

Curiosity got the best of me and I found he had been searching for hotels to stay in during the day. As in during his work hours.

Thinking the worst. Am I right, or could there be an explanation?

Not brought it up with him just yet, but I have taken photos of the searches.

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StingLikeABee · 15/01/2019 14:47

Sorry OP. I think it is what you think it is.

Check your bank and credit card statements for the dates in question.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 15/01/2019 14:47

Uh-oh.

I can only think of one reason. Does not sound good at all. Sorry.

Well done for taking photos though.

Dvg · 15/01/2019 14:48

definitely just one reason

CountessVonBoobs · 15/01/2019 14:48

If he was just going to illicitly nap he would find somewhere to do it for free (car/office/home). It's either an affair or sex workers. I'm sorry.

Tyke2 · 15/01/2019 14:51

Looking for a meeting venue for work? Is he recruiting and needs a place away from the office for confidentiality? I have used hotels for this and been interviewed in more hotel bars than I can mention. My current job involved three such meetings

CountessVonBoobs · 15/01/2019 14:54

Then you search for a meeting or conference venue, tyke. That's quite a different search from hotel rooms that can be booked by the hour in the daytime and I imagine the OP would have spotted the difference. (I used them a few times when my first was a baby for a spot of undisturbed kip. )

And you don't need to know if a hotel rents out rooms in daytime hours to use the bar.

NorthEndGal · 15/01/2019 14:54

Sorry, that sounds really bad

Original poster
letterbox · 15/01/2019 14:55

Thank you for the quick replies!

Whilst my youngest hasn't been sleeping great there would be no reason why he wouldn't have been able to come home and have a nap (we would all be out the house).

And no reason he needs a hotel for Work. He travels about a lot but all within driving distance and the nature of the business is nothing that is that confidential.

I guess I have some more digging to do, followed by a conversation Sad

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LittleMe03 · 15/01/2019 14:55

Op do you know if he has booked a room at hotels? Or looking for day time use of hotels for meetings etc ... depend on his line of work thou of course!

LittleMe03 · 15/01/2019 14:56

Sorry cross post

LittleMe03 · 15/01/2019 14:57

I read these posts and wonder how so many people keep their cool! I would have to have it out with DP straight away. Good luck op Thanks

itwasntmehonest · 15/01/2019 14:57

Unfortunately, I think you're right to be suss. I'd also check to see what other sites he's been visiting, and check his phone for dodgy messaging apps such as Kik.

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letterbox · 15/01/2019 15:01

I checked his phone fully (I think I covered all bases).

Will look for 'kik'

There was absolutely nothing else on his online history. He deletes a lot though. I'm sure I was just lucky this time.

I've no idea how I've kept my cool so far. I'm defintely being a little short with him though.

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Usernumbers1234 · 15/01/2019 15:02

How do you know he checked for hotels available during work hours?

Someone upthread has already converted this to hotels booked by the hour.

Not doubting it, but can’t get my head around how you could prove that unless he was googling “hotels near X with rooms for hire during the day for a few hours”

StingLikeABee · 15/01/2019 15:05

@usernumbers1234 OP has probably found the website dayuse.* in his search history. They ONLY rent out rooms during the daytime.

Original poster
letterbox · 15/01/2019 15:06

The searches were 'hotels available during daytime'. Then there is a site in the search called 'dayuse'

And then on the website address it says www...etc then check in date of last Wednesday.

Hope that clears that up.

Keep meaning to say there is one number on his phone with no name. I have also saved this. But not sure how I can find out who it is easily!

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Usernumbers1234 · 15/01/2019 15:06

Ah - cheers. Wasn’t even aware they existed - Thought the only hourly places were those in seedier parts of big cities!

Original poster
letterbox · 15/01/2019 15:07

I had no idea it was a thing either!!

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IDontCareRightNow · 15/01/2019 15:10

For the phone number do you have WhatsApp? If the other person has it and you've saved the number maybe they have a WhatsApp photo? You maybe able to see from that Confused

LtJudyHopps · 15/01/2019 15:10

Through my line of work we have been known to book and use hotels for the day for client meetings - but that would be their meeting/occasion rooms!
You could save the number as a contact and see if they’re on WhatsApp?

HappyGoLuckyGo · 15/01/2019 15:10

Try Googling the number, and save it on your phone then check it on WhatsApp- you might be able to glean something from the profile picture?

HappyGoLuckyGo · 15/01/2019 15:11

Ha, crossposted. That sucks, OP Sad

Justthoughts · 15/01/2019 15:12

Also look Up the number om Facebook - IT light be connected to an account in there.

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letterbox · 15/01/2019 15:13

Yeh I have done that. But can see no picture! I wonder if it's because I'm blocked which would mean it's perhaps someone I would know of... or they don't use it/don't have a photo.

Considered calling using a private number but there's no guarantee I can get the name from them.

I think I will attempt to have another good look through his phone tonight. Not easy as he never leaves it anywhere (I know, I know..)

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IBlameJulieBindel · 15/01/2019 15:13

Sorry to read this. I hope everything works out for you in the long run, and your partner is eaten by savage rodents in a random attack. Shitty behaviour xx