My husband of 10 yrs (been together for 23 years) announced two weeks before Christmas that he was in love with someone else and didn’t want to be with me anymore, we have 3 children and I am absolutely devastated. He says that I don’t treat him very well and that he doesn’t feel loved by me, he wants someone that makes him happy. I feel that I have done nothing but support him throughout our relationship and have always put him first, he doesn’t want to work on things and won’t let me try and put things right. I guess it all started to go wrong when he joined the gym 2 years ago and became friends with one of the fitness instructors, she flirted with him and made him feel good about himself, he then started to compare her to me, he couldn’t hide how happy she made him, he talked about her all the time and I became so anxious about it all. At some point he realised that actually she wasn’t that nice of a person and he seemed to come back to me, I know that they didn’t have a physical affair. He talks to a lot of women at the gym and he loves the attention, the new woman he is ‘in love’ with goes to the class that he does at the gym and lives across the road from our house, she also takes her son to football training at the same time as my son. He has basically fallen in love with her after chatting to her at the gym and at football training and I can’t understand any of it. He is still living here, he is moving out gradually over the next couple of weeks, I just cant believe he has done this to me, he doesn’t seem to care at all about me, he has no understanding of how devastated I am or how this is going to impact the kids. He has already joined Tinder and sent the new woman a wave across Facebook. I know I need to stop snooping at his email but I honestly don’t know how I am ever going to get over just how easily and swiftly he has dumped me and is moving on, it is utterly heartbreaking.