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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Step Into Our Christmas Thread!

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Mouseface · 24/12/2018 21:59

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

A HUGE welcome to the Bus!

This is the one and only Gerald. Over the years, we've travelled far and wide gathering some truly remarkable Babes along the way, all of whom have been (and remain to be) at different stages of their own personal journey to sobriety or controlled drinking, depending on what it is that they want to achieve.

We have those who drink daily, those who drink occasionally, and also those who have been sober for some time. The one thing that you won't find here, is any judgey knickers! Grin We're ALL here because at one point or another, we've hit our own "rock bottom" and then smashed the shit out of the FUCK IT button! (makes a note to order a new FUCK IT button)

This is without doubt one of the hardest times of the year for many of us, what with Christmas parties, alcohol on tap, supermarkets who have offers galore of various tipples stacked from floor to ceiling, and EVERY advert on TV shows you what an amazingly cool person you can be if you were drinking whatever brand of alcohol they're flogging! Even Christmas puddings and Brandy creams are tempting fate because as soon as you digest even a small amount of alcohol, it makes your body crave more, just like smoking, medication and recreational drugs................

Then there's the gifts that you're given! Champagne Truffles, Liquors, wines, spirits, you name it! So unless you've told people about your planned journey, people assume that buying gifts like that completely acceptable. So, some may feel obliged to consume such gifts and why not? It's Christmas after all. Then we have the New Year festivities..... parties, friends and family over to have drinks because you'll stop drinking after New Years' Day won't you?

It's so damn hard not to drink if that's what you've been doing all year anyway before you even reach this time of year!! How will you cope with your Great Aunt who will check for dust by running finger over ever surface, or Uncle knobhead who will be there in his cream suit, with that suspicious stain on it and his burgundy shirt asking for a Babycham! Also, let's not forget the in-laws/out-laws! We can sometimes put so much pressure on ourselves that we convince ourselves that we DESERVE that glass or seven of wine etc.

At the end of the day, if you want to drink, then you will. I appreciate that doesn't sound supportive but it's certainly true in my case. As I have said before, the most amazing thing about this Bus and those who travel along with it, is the fact that every single one on board has a story, a reason why they're here, and we all need support in one form or another. Yes, alcohol may be the one thing that we ALL have in common but it goes way deeper than that doesn't it? Life, love and laundry for a start! Grin

Even if you're not ready to stop or cut down on your drinking yet, that's fine! You're still welcome to hop aboard the marvellous Gerald. We're a very varied bunch of Babes but we welcome anyone in need of support, even if you're not ready to say everything that you want to yet, or you feel the need to name change, that's fine! Just know that we're here for YOU for as long as you need to be.

Mouse Smile xxx

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Margie32 · 31/12/2018 13:06

Good to see you Hope.

My maths is shockingly bad so I couldn’t have planned this if I’d wanted to, but it turns out that I’m 500 days sober today. I couldn’t have got here without all the support from this wonderful bus, grateful just doesn’t even begin to cover it. To of all of you gearing up for Dry January, you can do it! I was the lostest of lost causes and somehow I crawled out of the pit.

Happy New Year to all Babes and this wonderful bus. Hugs to those that got me here, including JWN (you ok hon?), Venus, Ma, Spanna, Elba84, Faire, BabyJane, Mouse, Dubh, Lux, Miflaw, Saywhen and all those that my middle-aged brain has forgotten to mention.

dementedma · 31/12/2018 21:12

margie that is unbelievable. Well done to you. Inspirational.
hope my friend, good to see you. Hope we can meet for real in 2019

I'm in bed. had a glass of fizz and a glass of wine and I'm done. Want to be dry, want to lose weight, want to grab 2019 by the balls and say this is MY fucking year!! It's high time I stepped up and stepped out.
Hope all Babes are safe, getting through the night and ready for travels with Gerald in 2019. Tomorrow we are off to the Coast for bracing fresh air and to look for seaglass.

SinisterClownWatchingYou · 31/12/2018 21:53

@Deepfriedchips
The exhaustion takes about 10 days to settle. Your mood might be a bit off for a while. I'm day 252 AF, it's worth it!

MintToBee · 01/01/2019 07:21

Happy Hogmany to all you brave passengers, old and new.
I had a quiet night in front of the fire catching up with Dr Who. A far cry from last year when DP had a spectacular Whisky induced meltdown and insulted our friends horribly. We still haven't recovered some friendship from that night.
Today marks a year AF for him. I never thought he'd be able to do it but really, we enabled each other to drink.
Every day is still a struggle for me. I missed my mum so much last night, the wine witch was sending out her siren call but 371 days in, I turned my back on her.
To all those starting Dry January, I'm here hand holding and willing you on. As 2019 dawns, so starts a new beginning for us all.

theansweris42 · 01/01/2019 09:15

Hello and happy new year to all. I've not been on the bus for a longish while.
Cheering on dryers and tryers.
Don't know which I am yet.
Will be reading and thinking. Something has to change. DH drinks also, more than I.
I do find it hard to say no when there's drinks being had. That's my key I think, figuring that out.
Have a good day everyone Brew

Craftycorvid · 01/01/2019 10:07

Happy 2019, babes! Thank you for finding room on the bus for me in 2018. It’s been a real lifeline to know others are on their own journey and sharing their experiences. So, it’s all feeling a bit scary to contemplate the year ahead right now. Being AF seems to have brought a lot of ‘issues’ to the surface for me and deal with them I must.

LuxuryWoman2018 · 01/01/2019 10:09

Happy new year babes old and new.

Dry January is here, although I’ve never gone back to the bad old days I’ve certainly seen my intake creep up a bit so now feels like a good time to reset.

2 drinks last night and in bed by 11 so not terrible. I’m trying to work out if it’s 2 or 3 years I first jumped on the bus. So many life changes in that time.

dementedma · 01/01/2019 11:17

HNY to all. Here's to beating the wine witch and regaining control of our lives. it's not going to be easy, but if we stick together we can make progress.
2019 has got off to an interesting start as a picture has just fallen off the wall and shattered glass everywhere. Hope its not an omen....

Duchessgummybuns · 01/01/2019 11:19

Happy 2019 babes! Welcome to the newbies! May this year be all about the good shit and less of the bullshit ☺️

Personally I’m looking forward to a dry January as I’ve already had a dry December. For those just starting out the old adage is a good one, take it one day at a time. It seemed impossible to me to stop drinking when I was starting out, and the other day I sat in the pub with a Pepsi max while people drank around me and I wasn’t remotely bothered.

Now I’m off to finish the snacks... if I didn’t buy them in 2019 they still don’t have calories, right?

beachestoexplore · 01/01/2019 14:45

Happy New Year babes

Looking forward to dry January here. I seem to have woken with a cold and sore throat which will probably make the first few days of less eating and no drinking much easier.....silver linings! Last year I did 178 dry days which is half the year. That is a big achievement for me and far exceeds previous years but I have to admit that when I do drink I am no moderator. I never want one glass, it has to be the bottle and no amount of dry days changes that desire.

Happy to be back on board Gerald for the 2019 tour Grin

dementedma · 01/01/2019 16:51

hey beaches good to see you again.

bakingcupcakes · 01/01/2019 19:03

Happy New Year everyone. I hope the day has been good. I've managed a full year AF which really seems incredible considering I averaged 40 units a week for over 10 years (I cut down for pregnancy). I thought I might suddenly have the urge to drink last night but I didn't. I was happy with my appletiser and the telly. Anyway, I think I shall do dry January and see how I feel after that. Planning to hang about on the bus a bit more in the hope I can help others the way you all helped me last year.

Saywhen · 01/01/2019 19:44

Margie 500 days is incredible!! Congratulations!!!

Saywhen · 01/01/2019 19:45

baking congratulations on the year!!

bakingcupcakes · 01/01/2019 21:22

Thanks Say Not quite as impressive as Margie's 500 days but give me a few more months and I might make it there myself! Grin

AnneBoleynsHead · 01/01/2019 21:28

Happy New Year to all Babes old and new!
Day 1 almost done -it's been a relief actually. I've spent the last week looking forward to today, not that anyone forced me to drink (except myself Confused ) but it was Christmas, there was drink in the house, you know how it goes.
No idea what I'll do at the end of January, I'll just take it 1 day at a time for now. Sending strength to all.Flowers

dementedma · 01/01/2019 22:29

Day 1 of 1 done and dusted. Did we all make it through? Anyone joining us tomorrow?

beachestoexplore · 02/01/2019 01:29

In bed. Day 1 done. Might go to the library tomorrow and find a book to read....

lighthousemuseum · 02/01/2019 06:39

Happy new year babes.
Day 1 for me today. Feeling pretty rough after drinking with visitors over most of the Christmas and New Year period. Needs to stop now. Fed up with feeling anxious and sluggish. Well done to everyone who did Day 1 yesterday.

I will not drink today.

Slingsanderrors · 02/01/2019 13:35

Happy New Year Babes, I’m clambering back onto the bus for day 1 today. Have drunk way too much over Christmas and NY and it has to stop now.

I did Dry January last year with the support of this fabulous bus, I can do it again.

Today I will not drink.

efc1878 · 02/01/2019 19:05

Hi

I was on one of the first threads- different user name. I was drinking every day atleast a bottle of wine. I’ve been successfully moderating now for years. But I’m doing dry January as I’ve signed up to a Marathon in April so want a health boost.

Hope it’s ok to hop back on the bus!

LookingforHope · 02/01/2019 20:49

Hello babes. Day 1 for me today. Am doing dry January minus New Year's Day as had a bit of unwelcome news yesterday which upset me and opened a bottle with a film... Xmas Blush Had a lovely and fairly sober NYE with friends then it just seemed like the same old shit when I got home. Have been trying to be civil to my ex and we managed a friendly Christmas then found out he's been slagging me off to my frankly vicious ex SIL. Just screwed up my courage to phone him and confront him. So I rather feel like a drink now, but I'm not having one. Shall be fastening my seatbelt and sticking on the bus alongside you very inspirational lot. So many great success stories from old babes here ... ashamed I am not one of them, but shall try again. Sorry not to NC all as on phone, but am delighted to see so many old faces and looking forward to meeting new ones xxx

Slingsanderrors · 02/01/2019 21:12

Day 1 done, am in bed with a cup of fruit tea and a book.

Hope everyone is doing well.

dementedma · 02/01/2019 21:19

welcome back efc
hope don't let that fucker lure you back in to letting him mess with your head. you kicked him out and you are amazing. Stay strong.

Day 2 done and all good so far. tomorrow is the dreaded Day 3, when good intentions start to wobble and which has been my downfall many times. But back in work and low carbing and will not be drinking!!

SmallFox · 02/01/2019 21:19

Hey all. Trying to slink back quietly into the bus, but am so bloated after Xmas food and (mostly) drink, I’m ending up rolling down the aisle like the proverbial bad penny. Anyway, predictably enough, here I am again - it’s January, so here we go. I’m going to try to keep AF for a good few months, but am not really looking further than ODAAT right now. I had a good dry patch in the autumn but it all went haywire again, as it does, towards the back end of the year.

I haven’t read back and look forward to doing so tonight and catching up with you all. I did bring along some shame-faced opal fruits for Ma. I’m pretty sure she’ll share.

Catch up soon, babes.

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