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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Step Into Our Christmas Thread!

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Mouseface · 24/12/2018 21:59

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

A HUGE welcome to the Bus!

This is the one and only Gerald. Over the years, we've travelled far and wide gathering some truly remarkable Babes along the way, all of whom have been (and remain to be) at different stages of their own personal journey to sobriety or controlled drinking, depending on what it is that they want to achieve.

We have those who drink daily, those who drink occasionally, and also those who have been sober for some time. The one thing that you won't find here, is any judgey knickers! Grin We're ALL here because at one point or another, we've hit our own "rock bottom" and then smashed the shit out of the FUCK IT button! (makes a note to order a new FUCK IT button)

This is without doubt one of the hardest times of the year for many of us, what with Christmas parties, alcohol on tap, supermarkets who have offers galore of various tipples stacked from floor to ceiling, and EVERY advert on TV shows you what an amazingly cool person you can be if you were drinking whatever brand of alcohol they're flogging! Even Christmas puddings and Brandy creams are tempting fate because as soon as you digest even a small amount of alcohol, it makes your body crave more, just like smoking, medication and recreational drugs................

Then there's the gifts that you're given! Champagne Truffles, Liquors, wines, spirits, you name it! So unless you've told people about your planned journey, people assume that buying gifts like that completely acceptable. So, some may feel obliged to consume such gifts and why not? It's Christmas after all. Then we have the New Year festivities..... parties, friends and family over to have drinks because you'll stop drinking after New Years' Day won't you?

It's so damn hard not to drink if that's what you've been doing all year anyway before you even reach this time of year!! How will you cope with your Great Aunt who will check for dust by running finger over ever surface, or Uncle knobhead who will be there in his cream suit, with that suspicious stain on it and his burgundy shirt asking for a Babycham! Also, let's not forget the in-laws/out-laws! We can sometimes put so much pressure on ourselves that we convince ourselves that we DESERVE that glass or seven of wine etc.

At the end of the day, if you want to drink, then you will. I appreciate that doesn't sound supportive but it's certainly true in my case. As I have said before, the most amazing thing about this Bus and those who travel along with it, is the fact that every single one on board has a story, a reason why they're here, and we all need support in one form or another. Yes, alcohol may be the one thing that we ALL have in common but it goes way deeper than that doesn't it? Life, love and laundry for a start! Grin

Even if you're not ready to stop or cut down on your drinking yet, that's fine! You're still welcome to hop aboard the marvellous Gerald. We're a very varied bunch of Babes but we welcome anyone in need of support, even if you're not ready to say everything that you want to yet, or you feel the need to name change, that's fine! Just know that we're here for YOU for as long as you need to be.

Mouse Smile xxx

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venusandmars · 26/03/2019 17:07

bagstiv I found doing keto and not drinking were a good combination. I think that the richness and fattiness of the food didn't marry well with a glass of wine. I also knew that although vodka and soda has no carbs, it threw me out of ketosis for a while, and the combination of carbs (even a small amount) AND alcohol, threw me out of keto for 3 days. Just not worth it. Plus I didn't feel deprived (food-wise) so I didn't have the mental call for a drink a treat.

Apologies to the rest of the babes for my keto enthusiasm!

CabbageHippy if your last drink was Sunday, then yesterday was day 1, and today is day 2. How good does that feel? Smile

MintToBee · 26/03/2019 18:26

Bagstiv 3 weeks! Go you! And Keto. Well done. I'm on week 3 of the Dukan diet and I'm so sick of meat!

dementedma · 27/03/2019 20:40

Look what I got done tonight...

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Craftycorvid · 27/03/2019 20:59

Wow, ma! That’s beautiful.

Waves ‘hi’ to Bagstiv and Hippy.

MintToBee · 27/03/2019 22:08

That's beautiful

obrigada · 28/03/2019 11:26

Morning babes, once again I am stepping back on the bus. It has been a while since I was here but in the last month or two my drinking has gotten out of control. Today is Day 5 of no drinking and today I will not drink.

Waves to all babes :)

venusandmars · 28/03/2019 11:52

Obrigada there's always a seat for you whenever you need it or want it.

dementedma · 28/03/2019 19:16

obrigada good to see you again.

obrigada · 29/03/2019 09:26

Thanks Venus and Ma, haven't read back on thread as starting fresh. The weekend will be my first real test, just going to take it an hour at a time :)

MintToBee · 29/03/2019 19:33

obrigada Here's a bit of luck to carry you through the day. I turned around this morning and there it suddenly appeared.

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LookingforHope · 30/03/2019 10:51

Obrigada hello! Good to see you. I haven't been around much. Am struggling with a lot of things. Clinging on by a fingernail ... love to all babes x

dementedma · 30/03/2019 15:46

hope you ok?

Firsttimemama2017 · 31/03/2019 19:23

Hi ladies, I am looking for some support to help me reduce my alcohol consumption. I don't drink often (probably fortnightly to three weekly) but when I do its a big blow out and I am left with the fear having embarrassed myself.

Most recent event was at an old friend's wedding where I got so drunk I ended up tripping over at the end of the night and now have a massive graze on my face. I have no idea what u am going to say to work colleagues as I have a professional office job.

My father was a functioning alcoholic for years and is now in AA so not knowing when to stop is in my family so I really want to take control.

Id like to be able to go out and have maybe 3-5 drinks maximum. Currently as soon as I get to drink number 2 I want to get drunk and go wild.

Id appricate suggestions of how to stay on track. I'm known as the life and soul of the party so my friends will be quite surprised to find me suddenly not drinking. I think I'm planning to say I'm cutting back due to dieting!

Craftycorvid · 31/03/2019 19:31

Hi, Firsttime. I’m sure you’ll find lots of support on here. Some of us are moderating and some abstaining. It’s a lovely non-judgemental bus (with wine gums, Barrie the squid and all. But watch out for the creepy baby doll!).

Hope. Ok?

Craftycorvid · 31/03/2019 19:35

And whatever reason is easiest to offer for why you aren’t drinking is legitimate - on medication, dieting - if it deflects any awkward questions, go for it. I said nothing for ages when I stopped drinking. The first party was weird but ok, and it’s become easier. People didn’t notice I wasn’t drinking (and I was a fairly heavy drinker).

Firsttimemama2017 · 31/03/2019 19:46

Thank you for the reply crafty!

My next social event is a dinner with my nct friends in a few weeks which would usually turn in to a wine fueled event so my first aim is getting through that evening sober.

I've already cancelled a bottemless brunch event in a few weeks and we are instead going to go to dinner.

I would love to be someone who could have a few drinks and then go home!

WitBeyondMeasure · 31/03/2019 22:04

Hi everyone... I've been here before a few usernames ago..
I really need help! I've sat all day with my kids being awesome and lovely and telling me I'm amazing and I feel awful. I'm not a bad mum. I love them to the world and back, they're always clean with fresh uniform, their homework is always done, we read at bed time, we talk, we walk to school. I cook every night.
But every single night I'm counting down to when they're in bed. So I can open a bottle of wine. That's not good. It's not normal. I'm horrified at myself. All I ever wanted was to be a mum and now I'm wishing it away for something that makes me feel more tired and confused than I already do???
I don't know how to do this. I'm scared. But I really don't want to drink any more and I need support. I need tips on what to drink (I don't drink tea or coffee) and i really need to break this cycle!
Please, if anyone has even basic early day tips or advice.... I'm desperate!

Craftycorvid · 31/03/2019 22:27

Hi Witbeyond. Just saying a quick hello and to please try and believe your kids when they say you’re an awesome mum. You are! You sound like you feel alone with your problems at the moment even if you are not actually alone. Do you have a partner and are they supportive? Could you tell them how you feel? You will get a lot of support here and I know some other wise babes will be along in a bit. Flowers

WitBeyondMeasure · 31/03/2019 22:35

@Craftycorvid thank you. I have an amazing husband, he works. I'm at home right now. I need to get my shit together before I head back to work. He works shifts and does a lot of overtime to cover the bills.
He's an amazing husband and dad though. I have nothing to complain about, except my drinking problem

obrigada · 01/04/2019 09:17

Morning babes, Day 9 for me today and today I will not drink.

Firsttime like you I don't drink every night but I too don't have a stop button once I start, many times I can't even tell you how I got home from a friends house or from a pub. It is total self sabotage and self destruct once I have that first 2 drinks.

Firsttimemama2017 · 01/04/2019 20:14

Well done obrigada on 9 days without booze! It's good to hear from someone with similar alcohol habits.

I still feel awful today and was awake half the night feeling anxious about work tomorrow and having to explain my drunken injury.

obrigada · 02/04/2019 11:39

I feel your pain, Firsttime, about 6 months ago I went into work with cuts all over my face and no memory of how I got them. I went into work and when asked I said I had fallen out the back step when I tripped over my dog.

Inside I was so mortified that I decided to put a halt on the drinking but here I am 6 months later and only now properly making the decision. I am tired of being ashamed of myself.

LuxuryWoman2018 · 02/04/2019 11:46

Hello everyone,

Not been around for a while, things got really bad in my life but are much better now. I’ve had a couple of blips (bloody wine, thought I’d never touch it again) it confirmed what I knew, wine is not for me. Haven’t had any alcohol at all for 3 weeks now, haven’t given it a thought.

Long may it continue. Going to read back now.

obrigada · 02/04/2019 14:07

Hi Luxury, I remember you from one of the many times I was on the bus. Sorry to hear you have been having a bad time of it but glad to hear things are much better now.

I have discovered wine is not for me either and is a big part of why I need to stop drinking.

Waves to all babes Smile

venusandmars · 02/04/2019 15:46

Hey Lux good to see you on here and glad that things (life in general) is a bit better. Although you know you can post here about general shit / specific horrors and know that you will always get warm support.

And I know that sometimes having separate 'compartments' is needed. In my shit years when dd had cancer, dm died, df died, it was a relief to be on here as the ethereal venus....