Just seen this now. What did your solicitor not wish you to do re the e-mails? What would add the costs? Did she suggest getting an injunction might be a possibility but costly. I don't see why it would be costly for her to write a stroppy letter to his solicitors asking him to refrain from behaving like this or for you to put this in any witness statement (not familiar at all with family law procedure but I assume that you will have to put in some form of witness evidence at some point???)would the new job be somewhere else or your old place? do you think you could cope with more hours or would being in work more give you a bit more of a break from the kids? your work colleague sounds a bit wimpy IMHO. if you have a new job - i.e. possible escape route, doesn't that make your position stronger if you do go down the official route?