Would you consider dating a man this height?

[Amazona24]

A man who is 5,5". I'm quite small myself in 5,2". I mean I'm not shallow and it depends ultimately if they are a nice person but I just feel I had a niggle above someone being that short. I'm OLD and most of the decent men I've come across as shorter than the average height.
I'm preparing to be flamed but that's how I feel.

Why does being tall automatically equal violent??

At 5'8 I possibly wouldn't date anyone at 5'5, male or female. Mainly because, as a tall and always-overweight woman, I feel like a giant next to them. Can still find them attractive (as my twenty year appreciation for shortarse singer Brian Molko demonstrates). But for dating, and just for generally going through life, I prefer being surrounded by people who are about my height. It may be shallow, but I can't help it. I just want to feel normal-sized.

Being tall doesn't make you violent. However, being 'decent' means you probably aren't. So why abandon a decent man for another type of man based solely on a physical trait?

Physical attraction is important but the shallowness on this thread is shocking.

"So why abandon a decent man for another type of man based solely on a physical trait?"

Just because a guy is 'decent' doesn't mean we owe him anything. We deserve a lot more than that.

I've dated tall men, I've dated short men. What difference does it make?

If men said 'I only like thin women' they'd be crucified. It's exactly the same thing. (And I'm not usually the one standing up for men tbh.)

You're passing up a LOT of decent guys and making your pool a LOT smaller if you only look at silly stuff like height. Of course you have to find them attractive but is height really part of that, especially when you're short yourself? Anyone over 5ft5 or so all just merges into the 'tall' category when you're short yourself.

Just because a guy is 'decent' doesn't mean we owe him anything. We deserve a lot more than that

No one is saying that, but why make it harder for yourself by saying stuff like 'I only date tall men'.

There are few enough decent guys out there without immediately discounting, what, 20-30% of them?

Maybe we need to work on there bring more decent ones then rather than compromise our standards. It’s like the ugly guy is always funny he has to be, how about we stop lowering our bar so the tall, short, fat and thin ones all have to be decent as a given.

Maybe we need to work on there bring more decent ones then rather than compromise our standards. It’s like the ugly guy is always funny he has to be, how about we stop lowering our bar so the tall, short, fat and thin ones all have to be decent as a given.

Exactly. The demand needs to be on men upping their game. Not women lowering our standards.

"Exactly. The demand needs to be on men upping their game. Not women lowering our standards."

Lowering your standards by...dating short men? Because short men are somehow lesser?

Yes, men need to be better, you will never hear me disagree with that.

But it wouldn't hurt to examine WHY you prefer tall men either.

I wouldn’t but only because I don’t find shorter men attractive. Never have. Maybe one day I will but at this stage in life I’m doubtful.

If I was attracted to someone and they were short in wouldn’t matter, it’s just never happened. If you are attracted to him but he is short, who cares, go for it.

I've dated a few short men, and they all had anger issues and an obsession with height.
I'm currently single and not interested in dating a short man again (I'm 5.6") because of these previous experiences.

🤦‍♀️ Nobody said short men are lesser but if that’s not what you find attractive then yes you are lowering your standards. I prefer dark haired men too .... so if I date a blonde one I’m compromising it’s that black and white. The fact that he won’t belt me is a given whatever his physical attributes 🙄

I wouldn't date someone just for their height, they could end up being the best boyfriend/husband ever if you gave them a chance. Might prefer Taller men, but if I was interested in someone it wouldn't be an automatic no

I'm the mother of a very short guy about 5.5 and I really feel for him. He is shorter than me.
It is unattractive for most women and he does struggle.
My fil was very small but no worries dating as my mil was 4.11.
Give it a try you may miss on a great guy.

"I've met a nice woman, who seems really great and I like her, but she's only 2" shorter than me, so I'm not going to ask her out, because I prefer women who are at least 5" shorter than me"

What kind of responses do you think this post would get, if it was the OP of this thread? I imagine there would be an insanely large quantity of flaming, much speculation about control issues and insecurity, and near-universal condemnation that someone had dared to judge a woman as unworthy of a relationship based solely on her height, which is, after all, a factor beyond her control.

I can't see there is A problem with it. I don't think I could be with anyone shorter than me but if you're small anyway and he's taller then what's the problem

Well yes .... because there are a lot of dickheads on Mumsnet

"if that’s not what you find attractive then yes you are lowering your standards. I prefer dark haired men too .... so if I date a blonde one I’m compromising it’s that black and white."

It's not lowering your standards. It's realising that tastes and preferences are just that - preferences.

I mean, you do you, but don't be surprised when you can't find a decent guy when you discount tons of them based on something that really doesn't matter.

Isn't the crux of this that we all have our own instinctive preferences and to get irate about someone else's is a bit daft?

lady no, it's not a bit daft.

There are two levels to look at it on. Personal and sociological. You're not going to change many people's personal views but on a sociological level, it's quite different.

We SHOULD look at why we find eg height, weight, race etc deciding factors in attractiveness. To not examine our choices in these ways results in poor decision making.

Isn't it sexual instinct? We know what we like and find attractive viscerally. Society isn't part of that.

I figure it's just one of those unconscious things and you can't help what you find physically attractive (although banging on about it tends to sound rude and overentitled... same goes for men with their various physical preferences).

I reckon I'm very lucky to have missed out on this general preference for height. Leaves the field of shorter guys wide open to me and with much less competition.

(Also glad that DS is tall, though, because it looks like he will find his dating life easier just based on this one arbitrary characteristic.)

@5fivestar I'm 4ft9 and my ex was 6ft exactly. Guy I'm in a complicated relationship with is 6ft2. I don't have an issue with dating 'short' guys because next to me they're tall anyway but I seem to only attract taller guys although the guy who has most recently asked me on a date would be about 5ft5. My ex said that my personality is so large I just seem bigger than what I am. We've never had any issues @Racecardriver, current guy is very into my 'cute little legs' but seems to like that I'm so much shorter than him. Think it's a dominance thing, either way I quite like it. Although our friends do find it amusing that my head doesn't reach his shoulder height, lots of jokes surrounding that.

I bloody love short men. I just think they are miles sexier. Good to know if I'm ever OLD I'll have a good choice.

Mind you, my DS is predicted to be 6ft2in and he is the most beautiful male specimin ever to grace the earth, so I guess one day he will be a tall, handsome man. He is only 2 just now

lady if it's instinct, why does basically everyone in our country like the same thing? And why is it different based on which society you live in?

In Japan: what we'd consider jacked up teeth are considered hot.
In the USA: massive white teeth are considered hot.

It's not just a mysterious personal preference. It's utterly influenced by society, of course.