Would you consider dating a man this height?

[Amazona24]

A man who is 5,5". I'm quite small myself in 5,2". I mean I'm not shallow and it depends ultimately if they are a nice person but I just feel I had a niggle above someone being that short. I'm OLD and most of the decent men I've come across as shorter than the average height.
I'm preparing to be flamed but that's how I feel.

I'm 5' 2" and have had two LTR. First was a man 5' 6", second was ex H 6'1".

I prefer shorter, but wouldn't be put off someone by their height if they were on my wavelength. I seem to have a very rare wavelength as it is!

Jamie Cullum

Sophie Dahl

Give your head a wobble.

I tend to agree with someone a few pages back that it's almost like internalized misgony. Women seem to want not just to feel "safe" with a bloke but to actively want to be made to feel small and weak. Reinforces their feelings of femininity. I do sort of get it, but it doesn't really make sense when you think about it.

Can I come on here just to rave about my lovely boyfriend? We've been together nearly a year and he's just so kind and emotionally intelligent and funny and sweet...

He's 5'5 and told me some awful comments he got while OLD. He's lost his hair too which I really like but some of the comments are just really mean! He can hardly help it.

Anyway: he's taken but I would say maybe meet up with your guy and see if you hit it off? I think I knew within about 20 minutes that there was probably some legs in this thing because it was really easy to chat to him.

Only if he's rich

Well you're entitled to not be attracted to anyone you're not attracted to and to not date anyone you're not attracted to. That simple really.

@Dirtybadger Women seem to want not just to feel "safe" with a bloke but to actively want to be made to feel small and weak. Reinforces their feelings of femininity.

exactly. comes from the same place as many women feeling they want their male partner to earn more than them (and men often not wanting their female partner to earn more). also people generally seem to feel more comfortable with relationships where the man is older than the woman.

the real spread of women and men's heights, earning capacities etc etc overlap massively. theoretically our soulmate might just as likely be equal or less on any of these measures yet so many women are drawn to want to be bettered by their partner. like we've been culturally conditioned to believe that men are generally better and if contemplating a man who isn't better/bigger/cleverer/richer we get a cognitive dissonance with our own subconscious faith in our inferiority

I wouldn’t date anyone shorter than me

I don't like short men either, it's just personal preference. You can't call people shallow for having preferences.

Well people can have preferences in sexual attraction but if they overwhelm all other considerations, I think that they are shallow. And i am as entitled to not like shallow people as people are to not ‘like’ short men.

Not being attracted to fat women is far less shallow as at least fat can be lost, not saying that it isn’t still shallow, though.

Big tits only, on the other hand, is probably the male equivalent of tall men only.

So I'm tall. Previous two boyfriends were shorter than me by at least 2/3 inches. When I was younger it did bother me, (but obviously not enough to not date them) for the reasons stated above: I felt I wasn't feminine enough & I secretly worried that they wanted shorter more feminine girlfriends. Perhaps they did.

I'm not currently single but if I was...I wouldn't let height dictate these things. I am taller than most people I meet and if a man who is shorter than me is interested, I'm glad his attraction isn't being dictated by cultural norms.

I had a thing for height and only went after 6 footers who, without exception, treated me terribly and left me a miserable wreck in my early twenties truly believing I was worthless. I swore off men altogether whilst I got myself sorted and then stopped thinking in terms of having a ‘type’ but gave people a chance. Met DH who is the same height as me and is the best person I’ve ever known. I am so glad I had rid myself of rules like ‘must be tall’ or I might have overlooked him. I love never wearing heels as they are instruments of torture and also I had easy labours with my six pound babies whereas friends of mine with tall husbands often struggled with bigger babies. I know that’s extremely anecdotal and not true for many, many people though!

OLD has commoditised human beings into a set of attributes on a shopping list.

It is very sad.

I wouldn't date a man who was short. I have done but I didn't feel comfortable in heels being the same height or taller than them.
I don't know why I just didn't.
I'm short at 5 1 and petite but I go for tall big men. I've tried dating shorter and smaller men and the physical aspect wasn't great because I just didn't fancy them.
Unfortunately I have a preference and I find a certain type attractive. When I've tried to deviate from that I haven't fancied them.
If that makes me shallow then I apologise but we can't help what we like.
As a foot note I've never experienced any mechanical issues due to height difference lol.

"'I'm not saying anyone on this thread is being downright nasty and of course we all find different things attractive, but when it comes to physical attributes that we have no control over, it does seem to me that conversations surrounding men's heights and the size of their bits seem to have a much jokier tone than how we expect people to discuss women's breast, body size, people's skin colour for example.
Does anyone else think this or am I way off?"

To this pp (sorry, already can't quite remember the name!), I agree and don't think you're way off. Some pp on mn are very dismissive, contemptuous and/or joky, about shorter men on these frequently occurring threads! I do think that if men posted asking if pp would consider dating an above average weight woman there would be a different response (and I know there's a difference in that weight can change etc)

Why does it matter? Are you worried about it or.about what you think others will think?

Shouldn't be a problem unless he has a problem with his own height

I’d look at other attributes as well eg how much money does he have before making any decisions.

From a man.

"I only date women with big tits - that's just how I am"

"I don't like fat women"

What would you do if you heard that?

"I'm OLD and most of the decent men I've come across as shorter than the average height."

Don't settle for less, you deserve the best! Kick this short little man to the curb and have confidence that you deserve better, it seems clear you have an issue with his little stature x

Yes. I would.
But that doesn’t mean you should if you don’t fancy him!

Not many men will date a fat woman. I know of a lady who sat waiting for a date to arrive he took one look at her and walked off. I don’t know how many men have dismissed me due to having 4 kids, what they don’t know us I earn a fortune so I’m not going to be a burden but apparently my life is not for them and I’d rather they self select. Everyone can make choices, it might make them a twat but that is not illegal

When I was single I thought I only liked taller men but I've been married to someone who is at most 5.6 (I'm 5.4) and I wouldn't change him for someone taller.

Attraction is important but you might find if you allow yourself you can be attracted to his other qualities.

I can understand if you were taller than him but at he is still taller than you then what is the problem? If short women won't give short men a chance then they will remain single forever!

@KissedByFire So your advice is to "kick to the kerb" the short men even though the poster describes them as 'decent'?

If she's really lucky she might get a tall, violent man! Yes, being treated like crap by a tall man would be so much better than being with a 'decent' short man.

Will some of you read what you type!