Would you consider dating a man this height?

[Amazona24]

A man who is 5,5". I'm quite small myself in 5,2". I mean I'm not shallow and it depends ultimately if they are a nice person but I just feel I had a niggle above someone being that short. I'm OLD and most of the decent men I've come across as shorter than the average height.
I'm preparing to be flamed but that's how I feel.

Hmm. If you put together a list of all the classic desirable traits in a man (tall, handsome, rich, clever, kind, funny etc) DP has some of them (including tall!) but not others. Does this mean that I would trade him for someone who does? Of course not!! But weeding through a long list of men who want to date you online is different - you have to rejec people for superficial reasons otherwise you wouldn't have time to date everyone.

Hisaishi - I have found quite literally hundreds of tall dark handsome men, some I’ve dated some I haven’t. So I will be surprised “if I can’t find a decent guy” that matches my exact specifications on the basis that there’s so many of them out there and they are all trainable to behave themselves. Young and old.

they are all trainable to behave themselves

Thanks, I'll stick with a guy I don't have to train. I already have a dog for that.

Enjoy your super high standards though.

Lol enjoy your dog 🐕

We SHOULD look at why we find eg height, weight, race etc deciding factors in attractiveness. To not examine our choices in these ways results in poor decision making.

We can look at it all we want but often there will be no answer. Why are some people attracted to redheads whereas others are attracted to blondes? Does being attracted to brunettes mean that needs to be analysed to work out why in order to address it? Some people attracted to brown eyes, some blue eyes, some to people with full lips. Some people find dimples do it for them. Why on earth does any of this basic instinctual attraction need to be examined?

There’s lots of different folks with different strokes, so something/somebody for everyone as they say.

"We can look at it all we want but often there will be no answer. Why are some people attracted to redheads whereas others are attracted to blondes? Does being attracted to brunettes mean that needs to be analysed to work out why in order to address it"

Well, I don't know if you noticed, but historically, people haven't actually been discriminated against on the basis of hair colour. No one has ever been enslaved because they had black hair or denied a job because they had blonde hair. So it is a bit of a wet comparison, really, isn't it?

Society can have a general influence yep definitely but I don't think it can fire up your loins in the same way that chemistry hits you. I'm no expert though

With the tall man thing it's just very primal isn't it - a protection thing from the way we evolved.

Anyway Girth now that's underrated .

Why are some people giving the op such a hard time. Thankfully not everyone likes the same type and you shouldn't have to justify yourself if you choose not to date someone who is shorter. Physical attraction is important and part of that can be a persons height. Doesn't necessarily make the op shallow just because she finds men on the shorter side unappealing. So fucking what! Ooh but op he might worship you and god forbid you should want to fancy the man who's also nice to you. You must take the nice man and not care about his physical attributes because that would make you a horrible person. 🙄

I doubt anyone here who has a partner has them in their life solely because they are just so nice!

QueenOfIce

I agree with your post and also just because you usually like a certain "type" doesn't necessarily mean that you will never deviate from that type. I find, "your type" can go out the window when you start speaking to a person and there's just something about them that attracts you, their charm, wit personality etc things that don't translate until you meet them in person etc

Oh, so shall we just chuck all men under 6ft on the scrap heap then? Doesn't matter if they are nice, funny, clever, good job, etc, but because they are shorter than your desired height then they are deemed undatable. It must be the same rationale as why men don't want to date woman over size 14 so perhaps it equals itself out.

Oh, so shall we just chuck all men under 6ft on the scrap heap then?

You don't have to be so ridiculously hyperbolic. Plenty of women here have said they have dated men who are shorter.

I like all men that are polite, friendly and kind regardless of their height. I think that makes for a good start!

Reading this makes me a bit sad. Ds (4) is short, about 2nd centile for height. The doctor said there wasn't an issue, just that he got short genes from me (5 ft 2), and that his expected adult height was about 5 ft 6. I hope he doesn't feel that people will reject him because of his height .

Yeah but there is a also a high proportion of replies on here suggesting they'd not even consider dating a short man. I blame internet dating. People seem to have a criteria as long as your arm for dating these days.

I'm 5 ft 4 and my DP is 6 ft 4. I tend to inherently find taller men more attractive, but I've dated shorter men before (not any shorter than me, but I'm not very tall so that would be fairly unusual) and not really put any thought into their height, etc. when we've been together.

I think it's one of those appearance things that doesn't really matter if you have a genuine connection with someone but matters more or seems like a bigger deal if you aren't really that invested or keen in the first place.

You're not shallow???? Really?

I'm dating one, so, yes.

You'll be better off when you start giving more importance to personality and how nice they treat you than looks or height, OP.

Good luck.

Well, I agree that internet dating encourages to treat people like products Lynne but I don't see that there has been such a big majority who would disregard men based on height.

I mean, I'm not running a tally chart or anything but I don't think it's the majority.

I've dated men of all heights (I'm 5'3") & I can honestly say it doesn't bother me.

For example I had a Filipino boyfriend who was quite short as some South East Asians can be but his personality & looks made up for it...

My bf is only a couple of inches taller than me (I’m 5’6). He is buff though and v strong stupidly unfeminist swoon I did go out with someone about the same height who was very petite body wise and I must admit I felt like a bit of a gallumphing elephant at points (esp as I couldn’t remotely fit into his jeans).

When I was single I used to think I liked tall guys but I found some of them really arrogant because they are aware their height makes them a ‘catch’ and they get lots of attention OLD. A friend of mine is currently dating and endlessly having nightmares with her stock 6ft plus ‘type’. I know there are good tall guys out there but I think there could be something to that.

I think an open mind is best, but you can’t force yourself to fancy someone however decent they are.

Well, I don't know if you noticed, but historically, people haven't actually been discriminated against on the basis of hair colour. No one has ever been enslaved because they had black hair or denied a job because they had blonde hair. So it is a bit of a wet comparison, really, isn't it?

Not really, because this thread has fuck all to do with people being discriminated against on the basis of race etc. Indeed it seems to have nothing to do with discrimination and everything to do with innate attraction, an entirely different thing.

I used to feel this way.

But then a met a wonderful man (who happens to be short). And have a very happy marriage.

Give him a chance. You may actually like him.

regarding mechanical issues, I'm 5 4 and partner 6,4. He's very much in proportion all over and we've never had mechanical issues. I'm only physically initially attracted to guys a lot taller than me, but personality comes into play after that.
You shouldn't base it on his height but if it's that off putting to you then there's no point going any further.

What's all this rubbish about mechanical issues? Height doesn't affect the sex?