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Livingoncake · 05/12/2018 14:52

I’d meet him and see if there’s chemistry - you can’t tell that from an online profile.

My DH is short. He’s also the love of my life. When everything clicks, nitpicky shit like height ceases to matter.

HestiaParthenos · 05/12/2018 14:52

A man who is 5,5". I'm quite small myself in 5,2". I mean I'm not shallow and it depends ultimately if they are a nice person but I just feel I had a niggle above someone being that short. I'm OLD and most of the decent men I've come across as shorter than the average height.
I'm preparing to be flamed but that's how I feel.

It all depends on how his face looks and how his body is proportioned.

I am very choosy when it comes to looks. Can't be choosy when it comes to height.

However, I will never date a man who complains about his being short in any other context than when trying to reach a high bookshelf or the like.

I once went on a date with a man who was quite a lot taller than me, and wailed that he didn't have a girlfriend because he was "too short".
Nothing kills attraction faster.

MistressDeeCee · 05/12/2018 14:52

Im5ft 6 and only dated men my height, shorter, or just slightly taller than me

For some reason I'm just not attracted to tall men. Never have been.

Current DP is 5ft 10 that's tallest I've gone. I know it's not tall for a man but he seems really tall to me.

Different folks different strokes, everyone has a preference.

I suppose there are men who'd bypass you because you're too short.

Wonder what would happen if a man came here saying a woman's height - or lack of - put him off her...

acatcalledron · 05/12/2018 14:54

For all the women who only date tall(er) men. How do you feel about men only dating slim women?

badtime · 05/12/2018 14:54

I totally would (and have). I am 5'5".

NotUmbongoUnchained · 05/12/2018 14:55

For all the women who only date tall(er) men. How do you feel about men only dating slim women?

It’s personal preference! I only date slim men!

Thisnamechanger · 05/12/2018 14:57

DontCallMeDaisy I think the point I'm trying to make, probably badly, is that it's good to think carefully about how this kind of issue is discussed.

Anecdotally, I thing I have noticed that some women seem to find it more acceptable to speak more insensitively about men who have physical attributes not stereotypically associated with male sexual attractiveness (e.g. short, small physique, small penis) than they would expect men/other women to be when they are encounter similar attributes in women.

I'm not saying anyone on this thread is being downright nasty and of course we all find different things attractive, but when it comes to physical attributes that we have no control over, it does seem to me that conversations surrounding men's heights and the size of their bits seem to have a much jokier tone than how we expect people to discuss women's breast, body size, people's skin colour for example.

Does anyone else think this or am I way off?

AnaViaSalamanca · 05/12/2018 14:57

OP have you met him by the way? Remember that most men add a couple of inches on OLD too ;-)

acatcalledron · 05/12/2018 14:57

I understand it's preference, but plenty of women think men are shallow if they only want to date young blond bombshells. But it's okay for women to be shallow when it comes to height

Trinity66 · 05/12/2018 14:57

For all the women who only date tall(er) men. How do you feel about men only dating slim women?

I mean you can't help what physical attributes you're attracted to. I'm a woman and I probably wouldn't find an overweight man attractive either

Honeybee79 · 05/12/2018 14:58

I probably would. Am 5ft 7.

Ballbags · 05/12/2018 14:58

@acatcalledron doesn't bother me in the slightest. We are all entitled to our preferences on who we fancy (physical or otherwise). I would also never go out with anyone who was thick.

ReggieKrayDoYouKnowMyName · 05/12/2018 14:58

Whaaaaat? This has never occurred to me. I mean, I’m relatively tall and I’ve never had a boyfriend shorter than me now I think of it (I’m 5ft 8) but I did once go out with someone the same height. And yeah, I guess my husband is taller than me, but I can’t imagibe if he had been exactly the same person but only 5ft 7” that I would have discounted him a potential mate!

ravenmum · 05/12/2018 14:59

Being tall and being overweight are not the same thing at all. You aren't short because of your diet and exercise habits. Men are, on average, taller than women, so many women feel more feminine, and men more masculine, if they comply with that "typical" look. Whereas both men and women can be fat, there's no "typical" image of the woman usually being slimmer.

MaryM82 · 05/12/2018 15:00

I would definitely look past the height, enjoy the company and conversation. If you don't feel a connection there is no reason to carry on but don't let something like height get in the way of true love.

Sending white light your way.

M x

BaronessBomburst · 05/12/2018 15:03

I'm presuming that those who've never had mechanical issues have also never tried to have sex standing up.

BareBelliedSneetch · 05/12/2018 15:06

My DH is 5’5”. There is soooooo much more to him than his height. I would be attracted to him no matter how tall or short he was.

ShesABelter · 05/12/2018 15:07

No because I'm 5"9. My dh is 6"2 and if I weren't with him they'd need to be at least that. I dated a man who was 6 foot and it wasn't tall enough for my liking. I don't want to tower above them when I have heels on. I know that's quite shallow but heights more important to me than looks.

HestiaParthenos · 05/12/2018 15:08

I'm not saying anyone on this thread is being downright nasty and of course we all find different things attractive, but when it comes to physical attributes that we have no control over, it does seem to me that conversations surrounding men's heights and the size of their bits seem to have a much jokier tone than how we expect people to discuss women's breast, body size, people's skin colour for example.

Have you considered that this might have to do with a woman's economic situation and quality of life depending on her being able to "get a man" even nowadays, what with inequal pay (and it hasn't been so long since things were much, much, much worse), whereas a man who is deemed insufficiently attractive by women suffers only the lack of (willing, prostitution still is a thing) female company and nothing else?

There's a reason women are much more sensitive when it comes to people insulting their appearance than men are.
An actual, real, financial reason.

As a feminist, I don't want everyone to pretend that all women are sexually desirable to all men, I want women's chances in life to be independent from whether men sexually desire them.

However, I totally get it that this won't happen overnight and that therefore, women don't like it when someone absolutely crushes all their hopes. Not just their hopes for romance, but also their hopes for a good job and a good income.

CountFosco · 05/12/2018 15:08

I'm 5'2" and DH is 5'5". He's tall for a man of his ethnicity, he tells me he's a giant in his home country! I have 2 issues, firstly when I put on weight after having the DC I felt enormous (probably a good thing, it was a good driver to make me get to a healthy weight), secondly I do worry that DS is going to be a really short man who is going to have to put up with wankers going on about the Napoleon complex and shallow people refusing to date him purely because of his height. Probably a good way to screen out unsuitable partners of course.

caringiscreepy · 05/12/2018 15:10

I don't understand why tall men want to date short women. I sometimes wonder how they even notice them. At 5'2 you are very short. I think you might have to be grateful for what you might get.

Christ almighty 😂 I'm 5'0 and certainly haven't had to just be grateful for what I get. Ridiculous post.

Op if you don't fancy him, you don't fancy him and I agree that there are plenty of men who would rule out women based on a lot less.

Thisnamechanger · 05/12/2018 15:13

Have you considered that this might have to do with a woman's economic situation and quality of life depending on her being able to "get a man" even nowadays

Nope! Can definitely say it never occurred to me that way and I've thought about it a lot! I'm not sure I agree but it's certainly an interesting argument.

So you think that women are more sensitive to criticism about their appearance because their appearance plays such a part in their being able to 'get a man' and therefore their future? Just so I've understood!

KingRhubarb · 05/12/2018 15:13

If you wear heels and gain an extra 3 inches, get him to wear heels and he can gain 3 inches as well, problem solved!

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 05/12/2018 15:15

I'm presuming that those who've never had mechanical issues have also never tried to have sex standing up.

Seconded, baroness! I am 5'2" and DH is 5'11" - this is an issue.

Lost5stone · 05/12/2018 15:17

When I was single I wouldn't date a man under 6ft. I think that's ok and I wasn't offended when men clearly preferred women with boobs (of which I had zero). I had a boyfriend who was 5ft 7 (I'm 5ft8) and he was horrible. It wasn't his height that made him horrible obviously but I constantly felt like a great big Shrek (I was a size 10!) and it really put he off.

There's been some nasty posts on this thread such as "take what you can get" and I have to say I always thought men preferred shorter women. "pocket rocket" etc always being a compliment.