Please help me deal...this feels weird

[CaveDivingbelle]

The way BF of 7 months runs rings around me when we argue...I feel like there's something really wrong. I'm not very assertive and hate to row. Latest was yesterday when I was sick and sent a text response which he did not like the wording of ( I'd just quickly responded and turned the phone off to sleep) He spent all day arguing over it. He accused me of being negative and offending him. I said I didn't mean it but he insists it came from a " bad place" even if I don't admit it. He then says he knows in his heart the truth, and is telling me this because " he can't lie to me" . I feel like I'm going mad. I 've said it was nothing,he says I don't really feel like that and need to admit that I was intending to offend..and what he feels in his heart is the truth so I can't argue.He says I wouldn't need to defend myself if I wasn't guilty.

How can he tell you how you feel?? Sorry but I'd pack him in - so many red flags here and you're only 7 months in. Life is too short to feel like this!

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I feel like there's something really wrong

Listen.

He sounds horrible. Just because you went out with him, it doesn't mean you have to stay with him. He's shown you what he's like - now dump him.

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^^ This!

Yikes! I’d get rid ASAP. He sounds nuts.

He is a gaslighting, controlling, bullying bastard. Run for your life.

Trust your instincts

Thank God you don't live with him so it's easier to dump him. The nice guy response to you being ill. Is saying get better soon, text me when you want to meet.

So he insists he knows what you mean and how you feel, better than you know yourself? I don't think so.

Time to walk away quickly

Tell him to get to fuck, life's too short for that shite.

Please send this arsehole a text to tell him that he's dumped and then run. This will NOT get any better only much, much worse.

Get out now while it it easy to do so.

Another one saying "walk away and dont look back". Seriously, this guy is bad news.

7 months is nothing. Get rid. You should still be in the honeymoon stage. Him telling you how you should feel is a slippery slope of what’s to come.

Im 6 months with dp and we have yet to have our first argument... Im sure itll happen at some point, but i would be concerned if it was such a big issue so early on.

Big red flag.

I may have used this in the past 'Ok so actually you think you are me and know how I am feeling'. It has worked. Good luck and get rid.

Less red flags, more flashing warning light this one. Run honey x

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That is some top level kafkaesque nonsense. You try to play it down and you're guilty, you argue you're innocence and you're guilty because you've argued.

Insisting he knows your inner motivations is just weird. Either he's manipulating you or he's genuinely deluded. The net result is the same... do not engage.

Bin him, he's bad news and you deserve better.

Have my first ever LTB ....you do not need this in your life- it WILL GET WORSE

This is how it starts. End it now before you're so ground down and confused you can't even think straight.

Don't waste time wondering why, how, what if etc, etc. Just walk away.

Seconding @nicenewdusters. Took me the best part of a decade to get out from this and most of the next to get my head straight. Don't do it to yourself. You can't fix it, you can't win and you can get really messed up. Go do something better with your time.

Gaslighting. Walk away.