Please help me deal...this feels weird

[CaveDivingbelle]

The way BF of 7 months runs rings around me when we argue...I feel like there's something really wrong. I'm not very assertive and hate to row. Latest was yesterday when I was sick and sent a text response which he did not like the wording of ( I'd just quickly responded and turned the phone off to sleep) He spent all day arguing over it. He accused me of being negative and offending him. I said I didn't mean it but he insists it came from a " bad place" even if I don't admit it. He then says he knows in his heart the truth, and is telling me this because " he can't lie to me" . I feel like I'm going mad. I 've said it was nothing,he says I don't really feel like that and need to admit that I was intending to offend..and what he feels in his heart is the truth so I can't argue.He says I wouldn't need to defend myself if I wasn't guilty.

Leave!

Dump and run hon.dump and run x

Please dump him OP. Your mental health will deteriorate rapidly with this kind of man. You will be a nervous wreck. Get rid. Seriously.

He followed you to bed whilst you were ill and continued berating you until you gave in. This man does not care for you at all. I know it's easier to say than to do but please end this.

It's unanimous OP. Please break up with this man. He won't get better. At 7 months you should still be in the honeymoon period and not arguing. Instead of thinking about the content of the argument (which is an entire fabrication on his part) , think about the way he's conducting himself and treating you: is he looking to resolve the situation? No, he's looking to make you feel bad and doubt yourself. These aren't the actions of someone who loves you.

Ltb

It’s like the witches ducking stool OP. Whatever you say or do the result will be the same. Misery. He sounds like a manipulating git.
Wave goodbye and don’t look back.

He is abusive.

Please dump this nasty headfuck of a person. Why invite misery into your life.

Thank all your holy gods you only wasted seven months on him.

Then tell him that “truly in your heart” you feel that he’s a gaslighting prick and you deserve better.

Then tell him that “truly in your heart” you feel that he’s a gaslighting prick and you deserve better. *

This with bells on!!!

As unanimously above, dump him ASAP.

You’ll need to be strong and very assertive OP as dicks like this won’t easily be told. Tell him, ask him not to contact you in any way again and block him in everything.

Good luck, hope you feel better soon too.

Please dump him, this isn't going to improve; you'll spend the rest of your life walking on eggshells if you don't and what you are feeling now will become normal to you.

Dump X 100000. But not in person. Do it via text then block him on everything, lock the door and don't answer it if he comes over. Have someone you can call for backup if you need it. This guy sounds unhinged.

OP i hope this morning finds you away from this man. Do you have anywhere you can stay?

Oh goodness he's awful. A bully. A nasty controlling bully. Get away from him

He's a gaslighting arse.

Points 2, 4, 7 and 10 in the link below are particularly relevant

www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-warning-signs-gaslighting

@Weezol that article is so accurate can we pin it somewhere?

@Rightsaidmabel what a useful post. Not.

And if you're going to be an arsehole about grammar and spelling, make sure you get it right yourself eh?

In the meantime, what about supporting someone in crisis instead of picking over apostrophes. Because that really does make you seem like an utter tosser.

You see all these replies OP? Take note - run.

Showmeshoyu: You have heard of Kafka but someone failed you on language: You're = you are, the apostrophe is in place of the letter "a"
If you are innocent, you own that innocence,so it is YOUR innocence not" You're innocence" ,which means "you are innocence"
Stone me, but we pay taxes for lousy education and for people who DO NOT READ!
I stumble all the time reading articulate posts that are hampered by how they are expressed.Never mind Brexit, can we sort Education!

Creased

OP arguing this much 7 months in is shit man. Following you around to carry on arguing is a dumpeble offence. Send the fucker a text and tell him not to contact you again. Seriously, bin him.

Another LTB vote. Wasted 15 years on a similar EA gaslighting bully and am painfully extracting myself. You deserve somebody who loves you. Cares. Brilliant witches ducking stool analogy!

He's basically bullying you when you're not well. That's pretty low. He should be caring for you and looking after you.

Run run run run run run run away 🎶

Drop him via text and then disengage