Please help me deal...this feels weird

[CaveDivingbelle]

The way BF of 7 months runs rings around me when we argue...I feel like there's something really wrong. I'm not very assertive and hate to row. Latest was yesterday when I was sick and sent a text response which he did not like the wording of ( I'd just quickly responded and turned the phone off to sleep) He spent all day arguing over it. He accused me of being negative and offending him. I said I didn't mean it but he insists it came from a " bad place" even if I don't admit it. He then says he knows in his heart the truth, and is telling me this because " he can't lie to me" . I feel like I'm going mad. I 've said it was nothing,he says I don't really feel like that and need to admit that I was intending to offend..and what he feels in his heart is the truth so I can't argue.He says I wouldn't need to defend myself if I wasn't guilty.

I’m sorry hun but this guy won’t change. If something doesn’t feel right in your gut then it usually isn’t, he doesn’t respect you, but you can respect yourself and find someone who deserves you.

wow!! A clean sweep of " dump and run". Luckily we don't live together so escaping isn't a problem. Never actually had so much good advice in such a short time..I'm taking it!!

@CaveDivingbelle
So glad you're listening to advice and getting out.
It's controlling manipulative behaviour and a massive flashing neon sign that he's a twat
Run with a smile on your face, you can do so much better than this

Came on to say run for the hills! Glad you're taking the advice

Please update when you do OP, people enjoy helping and they like to hear about a successful resolution of the issue

What everyone else has said: get rid. Please don’t do what I did and normalise this behaviour in a partner. It’s not normal. It’s coercive control.

Yeah, he's not right, and you know it. Just get out of this befor you sign up for a lifetime of misery. Your future self will thank you.

Never actually had so much good advice in such a short time..I'm taking it!!

You're making the right decision, but please be careful how you do it. Frankly he sounds downright sinister and most likely won't appreciate you exercising some autonomy

You owe him absolutely nothing, so for once I'd recommend a short, straightforward text and then blocking any form of contact. You might even want to be careful answering the door for a while, and it could be wise to have someone to contact in an emergency

Obviously I hope i won't come to this, but best to be prepared

Run for the hills

Red flag 🚩

I'd second what @Puzzledandpissedoff said. Hopefully it won't come to this but in my experience this kind of guy doesn't like it when you execute any kind of control in the relationship, especially if his bollocks about his precious little heart doesn't win you round.
I don't think he deserves anything other than a text dump either, but just make sure you have someone you can contact in an emergency in case he tries to cause you any trouble
Stay safe OP and let us know how you get on 😊

Let's put it this way: if someone shits in the swimming pool, they get everyone out and empty the pool.

He just shat in the pool. Empty it.

Actually, I'll revise what I suggested ... certainly block him, but maybe not until you've had the first reply to your text (if that's how you decide to handle it)

Obviously I wouldn't answer anything he sends, but it just might give you an idea of what you'll be dealing with after the split, which could help in being prepared

Sounds a bit paranoid doesn't it? But I really don't like the sound of this guy at all and your safety comes before everything

I'm really hoping you have been able to follow through and not been trapped in some complicated mind fuck about see I told you that this was in your heart and it proves it because you have done this so actually you did think that and therefore there isn't anything wrong. Or any other of the nightmare variations... if you have got bogged down by any .... it's a trick! Run!

He runs rings around you when you argue? You've only been with him 7 months, how often do you argue? He sounds a twat and he should be showing you care and concern when you are ill, not reducing you to tears.

Life is too short to waste time over arse holes, making you unhappy. Dump him quickly.

So glad you are taking the advice OP.
This is an abuser!
Your feelings are YOURS!
He's a nasty bully.
Time to be kind to yourself and dump him.