Partner up to no good? Strange activity

[Meowzers55]

Yesterday my partner had to drive a 3 hour trip to get his phone fixed that wasn’t working..

Last night I checked his phone (I’m very paranoid although I know it’s wrong) and he had phoned a strange number. I googled the number and it was a really weird massage place in the city he had to go to. It looks like a massage place that offers extras put it that way. I also checked online banking and he had taken out £90

I confronted him last night and he told me he booked an appointment but never went and it was only for a massage nothing else. This is a man who has never been for a massage in his life. I asked him why he kept the “massage” a secret from me and he couldn’t answer? And he also can’t explain where the £90 now is

He’s totally lying isn’t he? By the way we have 2 DC and have been together 7.5 years

Sorry I'm new to this! I was supposed to make my own post haha sorry! I can't work out how to delete now!!🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Man posts are frequently made up

Also you know he cheated on you before and has again so why are you being a mug?

It's v v hard to leave but what other advice do you want?

No one is going to advise you to stay with a man who clearly doesn't love you or his children are they?

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I don't think there's anything anyone could say which would make you feel better about this situation tbh OP. None of the options available to you are good, or painless and there is no way back now from what you know.

You can stay, try to make it work and live with the constant suspicion and the fact that you will never feel the same about him again. Or you can go, and it will be painful and upsetting and you will have to find strength you never knew you had to build a new life for you and DC.

Neither option is appealing, I get that but there is no quick fix here and at least the second option has an end point. One day you will have built your new life and recovered from this relationship, you will be able to move on, staying just sounds like death by a thousand cuts to me because you will never be able to trust him.

I'm really sorry he's done this to you, and that it's now you who's left with the weight of deciding what happens to your family next, that's really unfair and I couldn't stay with someone who put me in that position, even without the level of betrayal you're dealing with

Take your time, and go and speak to a close friend or two. You will know when you are ready to leave, and can prepare in the meantime, if now feels too soon. When kids are young is better than struggling on for years and years.

He will lie and lie again. Anything to avoid telling you the truth. You deserve better.

OP this is awful but tbh he really doesn't seem that good s liar. I don't say this to be mean but perhaps you want to be fooled? Obviously the reality is painful.

You need to get yourself checked for STIs and get your finances sorted.

Tell him you have confirmation from the massage place of the 'service' he received, there is no point denying it anymore.