He is too young but I like him!

[Amazona24]

I'm 27 and he is 19. I met him at work and to begin with it was just on a friend level and I've always said I don't fancy him. But recently I've been feeling pangs of jealously, especially when he posted pics of him out with his ex. He has recently become more smart at work and I think I now have feelings for him. People have mentioned they see the way he is with me and likes me too.
But it's just this huge age gap! If it wasn't for that then May be I'd pursue it but I guess I'm just sad that he isn't older :(

When I was 19 I got married to a man in his 40's. The faces were hysterical on the wedding day and his age became known. He looked much much younger.
It's not the age difference that broke us up.

Now as a 43-year old I am having a fling with a 28-year-old. The same could be the same that I want to tie him down with my kids etc. Only I don't want to tie him down. It's possible to see a man without them coming into contact with the dc's. Any responsible parent waits months before they make the intro if they ever do. Mine have met, but as my friend not as a potential future stepdad. Oh, and I also had a brief fling with a 22-year-old earlier this year.

8 years isn't really that much. If you both like each other. Go out for a drink and see what happens. I would and I have.

I've got a 19 year old son and would be upset if he was dating a 27 year old. The age gap isn't all that big, but the difference in life experience is massive.

When I was 29 I met a 21yr old. He told me he was 24 initially and totally freaked me out when he confessed (I should have walked away right then, it turns out this guy could lie!). We were together for five years, bought a house, got engaged. Only split because he was having an affair just before the wedding, nothing to do with his age.

Negative points-
He was mature but his best friends were absolute kids (naturally) and I didn't like them.
I was terrified meeting his parents for the first time. I put it off for weeks - I felt like they'd think I was a paedophile! Actually they were lovely and I remain friends with his mum 17 years after we split (there was only 15 yrs between her and I).

A 19 year old asked me out when I was about 24. I was a mother and just couldn't see him like that, I was mature whereas he used to spend his spare time gaming and hanging around the shopping centre- very teenagerish!

19 is so young and you go through so many changes at that age. I couldn't go there as I'd worry I was holding them back.

But he would still be able to play video games (I still do lol) and do other things. Not like the op wants to marry him by the weekend and keep him chained to her forever. She just wants to see where things go. I'm sure she has her head screwed on so that they both have time away from each other. Not everyone you see if live partner material and sometimes it's good to see what's available. Who knows they might be and in 10 years time she's announcing the wedding. Or after 6 months it all fizzles out.

You could say the same about any childless single person who gets involved with a parent - holding them back, substitute parent figure, life experiences will always be different even if you are neighbours of the same age, extra baggage, life needs to be explored, not ready to settle down (how many 50-year-olds fall in this bracket?) etc.

I sympathize with your dilemma,OP, as I’m in the same situation myself, except I’m 44 and he’s 33.

Feeling quite heartened by the comments here though!

44 and 33 isn't bad, it's about life stages isn't it rather than age. Most teenagers are still finsing out who they are and probably better dating their own age. In my opinion anyway.

Don't be surprised if he ends it in a few years when he has grown up.

Thanks for the positivity corona I haven't even told him I like him yet. Still debating if I should or not

My DP is 7 years younger than me and it is fine. We both gave grown up DCs, and his eldest is older than my eldest. He is currently in a different sector of numbers than me. He is still in his 40s whereas I am in 50s His next birthday is going to make him 50 so he will be in the same group of numbers as me. I will feel more comfortable when his next birthday comes round but he makes no comment about the age difference. I think the fact that someone is in a different sector of number makes the age difference feel worse.

My parents had 6 years age difference and my friend is 8 years older than her partner. It seems quite normal around me.

SIL was a similar age when she met her DP. She already had 2 DC . They have been married over 20 years.

It's not the actual age difference that's the issue though bouquets- it's the youth. In thirty years time you'd not have an issue.

I'd say the issue is more you work together than the age gap. If you dated and it all went tits up is it a job you could easily walk away from?

My first serious BF was 27 when I was 18. We were together 11 years and we are still friends.

It can work.

Not a huge gap at all. I'd definitely go for it if you're both keen and have a good connection! Why the hell not?!

who cares what people think it's better to look back and say oh well I tried than to look back and say I regret that its no one's business but yours and his if you get together

No saying OP wants anyone involved with her kid.

I certainly don't. My boyfriend has nothing to do with my kids. He's a twat and he's 33 years old. I just happen to love him doesn't mean I'm gonna force him on my kids.

This isn't imposed on me either I told my kids dad myself why i won't involve them. He would never have known anything was up if I hadn't told him. And it's nothing to do with him either he has a wonderful partner who I think is amazing with our kids.

He could be the same age as the op and end it in a few years. The op could end it before then. Not every date leads to a lifetime commitment.

Life is really too short to not take a chance. Imagine sitting there in your old age thinking back to your youth and wondering what if... An elderly person said that to me years ago, life is for enjoying, don't get to my age and regret the opportunities that you didn't take. Yes, some may not have worked out, but at least you gave it a go.

I met my partner when he was 19 and i was 28, onhad doubts in the beginning but we are now nearly 7 years on, very happy and just had a baby this year :) i suppose it depends on the type of guy, my dp was and still is way more mature than i am lol and i dont even feel like their is an age difference

He is very young. I’m sure that he’s lovely for his age but boys that age tend to be quite inexperienced relationships wise and make a lot of unpleasant mistakes. I wouldn’t have dated a 19 year old even when I was 19 myself. Not worth the trouble.

It’s not clear if you are asking us if you should try to make a relationship or not. Your posts sound as if you have already made your mind not to have a relationship.

A 19 year old lad is likely not going to be a great prospect for long term partner potential, especially as you have a child already in the mix. That’s a lot to take on & if you are after honest opinions, there you go. Why does it have to be a relationship ? Maybe you could have a fun fling without the strings ?

I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 35, so I don't see the problem. We've been together over a year now with no issues.

Although for some reason I find it weird when women go for significantly younger men, than if a man was to be with a younger woman! No idea why😂😂

If he likes you, go for it! You'll find out if you're not compatible.