Crossdressing Poll

[CrossdressingClare]

Hi,

I came out to my wife 11 years ago. She didn't take it well and had an affair. I found out and was heart broken. I eventually forgave her and we moved on to have another children and a happier marriage.

She came to terms with my crossdressing allowing my to wear hold ups, heels and underwear in the bedroom. Im aware of how luck your I am tan does I can tell you how liberating it is.

She does make the occasional derogatory comment and I get it. She also thinks it extremely rare.

I'd like to know how many Crossdresser S there are out there, so I can gage how rare or populate crossdressing is.

Thanks for taking the time to read and take part.

I have cross dressing friends and I guess you could say I encourage my DH (corseting him)
It seems like this 'poll' might be more for blackmailing your wife though... Which is obviously not okay... Or getting off on posters descriptions, also not okay...

I've never been in a relationship with a cross dresser and never would. I find it a total turn off. It would be a deal breaker for me and if I found my partner had concealed it from me I'd be furious.

Imo cross dressers have a very distorted and misogynist perspective on women which I would find intolerable in a sexual partner.

OP I notice with a certain amount of incredulity that you say you forgave your DW for her affair but do not say anything about your need to seek her forgiveness for concealing a sexual fetish from her for 11 fucking years!

20 years ago I worked as a phone sex chat line operator, from a call centre.

Of all the caller types, the cross dressers were my absolute least favourite - somehow they managed to come across as needy & pathetic AND manipulative & controlling all at the same time.

Most of the other operators felt the same way, we’d try and transfer their calls to unsuspecting colleagues like a telephonic game of hot potato.

I much preferred the more imaginiative pervy-weirdos, like the dude that wanted to be shrunk to a teeny tiny size and kept in my handbag, or the one who liked women to lay on balloons until they (and the imaginary balloons) popped.

Anyway, I definitely wouldn’t date a cross dresser. I love sex, but not if it requires a special costume or a box of accoutrements and accessories. Definitely the wrong kind of high maintenance libido!

The OP's typing isn't horrible for someone very excited with only one hand available. I give it a 4/10.

Oh tiny man! He's prolific. Or there are more of them than you'd expect.

Not sure why you're polling Mumsnet for crossdressers. It's common enough. Meh.

Yeah, I hear the shrinky-dinky-dicks are a whole category, although if I recall correctly (it was quite some time ago!) we only had one regular tiny caller at that time.

Video killed the radio star since then, of course.

But the inside of my handbag is pretty minging, and not at all in a sexy way.

Yeah. I think he got stuck to an old fluffy cough sweet.

Och no total turn off
I never met a guy who wore my clothes cos me legging wouldn’t fit them nor me skinnie jeans
What you all wearing that guys are trying on

I do not know a crossdresser and in a relationship it would be a dealbreaker for me. (Obviously, stuff like economic pressures and small kids can make everybody stay, no matter how over things are in one’s heart. So, not grandstanding about my determination to handle a situation I‘ve never been in). I do remember carnival in my school though, when all the boys in my year decided to dress up as ‚women‘. We were 18, I actually lent a classmate some clothes. I will never forget my mums dismissive ‚‘woman as a Costume? How novel. You bet, Whoever had that idea gets a kick out of it.‘ Took me years to fully grasp what she meant, haha.

Jeez as for men tryin* on women’s pants. 50% of your partners
Rat you know some strange very small men

I'd urge everybody not to describe what they might be wearing that men might be trying on, despite littlbrowndog's apparent interest.

Never do understand quite why perves come on Mumsnet to get their rocks off when the Internet is knee deep in porn. I suppose it's the dubious thrill of thinking they're fooling women into something non-consensual.

The poll seems to suggest most women (on here) aren't comfortable with cross dressing husbands/partners.

Every one is entitled to wear what they like IMHO but I think men should be honest with their partners from the start (and vice versa).

This would be deal breaker for me.

The problem with cross dressing is it tends to involve subordination and subservience. As a natural consequence of a sexist/misogynistic 'donning' womanhood to get aroused.

Fetishising women's oppression is unlikely to arouse said women. Unsurprisingly.

The perpetrator continuing to demand participation is controlling and dominating. Ironically.

tinsel

littlebrowndog is entirely kosher, I can vouch for her.

Don't think the OP is coming back....

It would be a hard No from me. I wouldn't be keen on any fetish really, but a cross-dressing fetish is a non-starter. If I discovered that my husband was into it, I don't see how our marriage could survive it. I find the whole AGP thing repulsive and demeaning to women. My clit would retreat back into my body and I would lose all respect for the bloke.

The perpetrator continuing to demand participation is controlling and dominating. Ironically.

And that's exactly what this "poll" was intended to be used against the OPs wife for....

Odd place to come and ask for opinions OP.

You sound incredibly self-centred. I feel for your wife. She didn’t ask for this, I’m not bloody surprised she had an affair.

Anyway, you’re either looking for a cheap thrill or have come here to get a rise out of Mumsnetter given the current climate.

Either way, jog on.

@PeachCokeZero

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Especially with his business squashed into staticky nylon Anne Summers finest!

Oh god. Now i’m thinking about Willem DaFoe’s face leering through a pair of tights.

SHIVER

Jeez as for men tryin on women’s pants. 50% of your partners*
Rat you know some strange very small men

What's strange about like lacy French knickers? I like mine very much. And my CK thongs. I look banging.

I do genuinely think there could be a market for fancy underwear for men, in all seriousness. And why not? Why shouldn't they look pretty?

Cross dressing as a fetish though, that's going a bit far for me. I wear the clothes I like because I like them, but sexy time for me is clothes off. I'm not into clothes so much that I want them to be an involved part of my sex life!

Rat you know some strange very small men

I've just realised you said they were "very small" men littlebrown

What's so offensive about a man liking lace or frilly bits that he must be a "small" man for it? Isn't that the very problem of damaging gender stereotypes imposed on our sons right there??

If my son likes lace or frilly bits I'm not going to tell him it makes him a "small" or lesser man, thanks very much. Obviously I'm not going to be handing over my pants, but boys are allowed to like pretty things. It's a shame society doesn't seem to think so.

I think littlebrown may have got mixed up with us discussing the tiny man in a handbag fetish.