Crossdressing Poll

[CrossdressingClare]

Hi,

I came out to my wife 11 years ago. She didn't take it well and had an affair. I found out and was heart broken. I eventually forgave her and we moved on to have another children and a happier marriage.

She came to terms with my crossdressing allowing my to wear hold ups, heels and underwear in the bedroom. Im aware of how luck your I am tan does I can tell you how liberating it is.

She does make the occasional derogatory comment and I get it. She also thinks it extremely rare.

I'd like to know how many Crossdresser S there are out there, so I can gage how rare or populate crossdressing is.

Thanks for taking the time to read and take part.

I don’t knowingly know anyone who cross dresses. None of my partners have.

Tbh it’s not a fetish I could get on board with really.

OP.... will you come back on this thread and let us know your thoughts? :)

My mum dated a cross dresser. After they stopped dating the remained friends and lived together even when mum had a baby with someone else. I was in my teen years and he came out to me. We would dress up together and party. Then things got weird

You can't leave it like that, @Whereartthouname!

Not sure I understand why guys want to dress up as women, is it so they can pretend to be women or just like womens clothes? Baffling to me. I once wore tights, but there was a for a school play. I was one of Robin Hoods merry men. Can't say I felt particularly merry wearing them.

I've never dated a man who does to my knowledge. If I had, I'd have run a fucking mile to be honest.

I found out one of my boyfriends at uni was a cross dresser shortly after I had broken up with him. Sounds awful but I was quite relieved I hadn't taken things further with him because I'm just not attracted to men in women's clothes.

I would be devastated if I found out DH was a cross dresser tbh. I would feel violated if I found out he was using my makeup and clothes for sexual thrills.

I also wonder what you plan to do with the results of this 'poll'

That's not to say i think it's a dreadful thing to do...like another poster said, it's just fabric! But I just know I could never knowingly be in a relationship with a man who do it. I'd find it so off putting.

My exh cross-dressed. Wigs, make-up, fake boobs, thigh high PVC boots. I didn't mind that side of things so much, but he lied about it and did it behind my back and was basically a total knob in a million other ways, hence being an ex. Turns out I'm totally not into it as a sexual thing.

I would hazard a guess that at least 50% of my sexual partners have, on occasion, tried on a pair of my underwear whilst I've been out of the house. Maybe someone really needs to redesign "men's" underwear - seems more of them are into little lace jobbies than the market really caters for.

my ex did this and it was a control thing for him sexually and it did nothing for me at all. He was a complete knob about it because as the relationship progressed he had to be in stockings to get hard.

So has your wife forgiven you also for the deceit and lies? How does she really feel about it all?

It wrecked my marriage when I found out. Along with all the lies that went with it.

I've never come across one in all my 60 years of age. Never. And, tbf, I have shagged around a lot

I reckon its pretty bloody rare.

OP showing just about the usual level of understanding to his partner that AGP men do.

There's support for your partner on here if she needs it. It's offensive that you come on here to try to gather information to leverage your partner into putting up with more things she's not comfortable with.

Poor woman.

RatRolyPoly - were we married to the same man??!! LOL!!

DullardMullard - yep, my exDH also got the stage where he felt he couldn't get aroused without being dressed as a woman.

Since finding out, I feel violated and angry. All those years I wondered what the white marks were on my stocking tops.... why my make - up went missing and why the kids fancy dress wigs always seem to "be around".

Not to my knowledge.

Would find it a gigantic turn off.

And yes, as other posters have said, question seems leading.

No Heterosexual woman, wants a husband that cross dresses. To pretend otherwise is stupid. Some women may choose to put up with it, but I will never fathom how or why they would do so. If my DH decided he was going to wear women's clothes and shoes he'd be out on his ear before he could say "call me Barbara". Fuck that nonsense. I married a man. Because I'm straight. I will never fuck a man in a dress. Ever. Ever.

Agreed Huskylover.

were we married to the same man??!!

Ha! I truly feel for you if we were

In all honesty though, I do feel a bit sad for men in general on this front. I don't think there should even be such a thing as "women's clothing", and if men want frilly knickers they should be able to buy them and wear them, not knick them off their missus. I mean I fancied Kurt Cobain in a dress, heterosexual though I am... I didn't like it when my exh did it because he was a vain, sex-obsessed peacock in private, but I fell in love with his "no frills" ruggedness, not some secret preener who lied to my face.

And the thing is I kind of feel some of them just want to look beautiful to their own eyes. The look they emulate is often that version of femininity that was crafted specially for the male gaze. Women don't want to be a man's vision of sexy anymore, but men want to look and feel sexy to themselves just like women do. I wish they could, then maybe us unsuspecting women wouldn't feel duped into falling for a lie.

@hollowtalk he asked me to take pics of him with dildos and slept with ny then underage sister

Oh god, sorry, I shouldn't have asked.

@RatRolyPoly that's the essence isn't it? The main AGP version of a woman - easy, slutty, cheap, tarty. Red nylons, peephole everything, stockings heels etc basically all around the sexuality of being available, being used, being a sissy. That's the kind of "woman" they fantasise becoming.

What average heterosexual woman would seriously find that a turn on?

I know a lot of cross dressers doesn't shock me the only thing I find slightly assuming is they all seem to be stuck in the late 70's early 80's when it comes to fashion make up and hair choice.

An ex from some years ago was a cross dresser. He was open about it, and I didn't have a problem with him doing it, but eventually it became impossible for me to fancy him any more.