Does anyone else's OH do this?

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DP was tired last night so went off to bed at 7:30. I was up till midnight with one of our dc's whose currently having a few issues. Dp got up several times to use the loo, not once did he come help. Then he bounced out of bed this morning, asked me how my night was, and when I responded with "shit" he stropped off in a sulk and went back to bed. Came out again at mid day to see if I was still "in a mood" and stormed off back to bed when I just looked at him. He does this all the time, just goes to bed. We have 3 dcs under 10, ive spent the day running around after them and he's been in bed all day. Apparently its my fault for ruining his weekend with my bad mood. And now he's depressed. Im getting really fed up. Does anyone elses dp just retreat when they feel you're not being attentive enough?

Update- I got a job, only part time but heaps of extra hours available. Only took a month for DP to decide he could no longer look after DC's at weekend while I work and he's informed me that he will be working less hours for the rest of the year. I feel like I'm never going to get ahead.

The only thing to do is leave, op. Being a single parent has to be easier than this.

Well done on the job, though.

I remember reading your thread OP, ironic isn't it, someone said he'd be unhappy about you getting a job.

It gives you independence, and that isn't something he likes.

Perhaps it is time to start thinking about going it alone.

Sorry I'm confused. Are they his children?

They are his children. All very much planned and wanted. Although he is now.saying that it was me who wanted them, and he's given me what I wanted. And that I'm backing out on our deal by wanting more. He will help out around the house a bit and does the bare minimum with the DC's.

He is a lazy sullen shit.

You have 4 children OMG.

He can no longer look after the DCs on the weekend......now that you have a job? Does he not still have the 9 to 5 M-F job?

Why can he not look after them on the weekend when you work? He can’t or won’t?

I’m in process of divorcing H, we have three kids also. I also work weekends, as does he. He has spent a lot of his time with the kids when i’m at work asleep on the couch. This is not why I’m getting divorced. Let me rephrase; that is not the “only” reason i’m divorcing him. Add in being so disrespectful as to not come to table when I’ve made supper.....”too tired”, also, kids cannot bother him when he sits in the middle of the living room replying to a “Very Important Email”, he essentially stole family money by gambling (that”s one of the big reasons), he would never ever get up at night with children as he “needed his sleep”, he believes his job that pays less than half mine is more important and his sleep is more important, and his naps are more important and his emails are more important. He thinks every time the phone rings it will be for him as he is very important. And on and on.

I’m sorry your H is being so unfair to you.

As my name implies, I had enough and I’m not taking it anymore. I am looking forward to true off time when he will have the kids. If he chooses to sleep through it, they’re older now and we’ll see how that works out for him. I will get a respite after 19 years with him, 17 with children.

Good luck to you.

I cannot believe this is how he treats hia own children. I thought you were describing a shitty step parent. He's not even good enough to be called that. Please LTB.you will have one less child to take care of