Prostitutes....

[HollyLM]

What do you do if you discover a partner had escorts to the house when you were away, but says they only 'chatted?'

And now they are making all the effort in the world to make things right?

I'd wonder why my partner thought I was such an idiot, then tell them to leave.

I would say the only chatting was discussing payment and saying goodbye. I would not forgive this. Looking up prostitutes and not meeting them/cancelling maybe- but with a lot of counselling and some space. Arranging to meet them and bringing them into the home we share- not a chance

I would make all the effort in the world to throw him out and ensure everyone knows what a sleazy arsehole, cheating chatterbox he is.

They chatted OP? seriously?

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I'd wonder why my partner thought I was such an idiot, then tell them to leave.

This with knobs on.

Seriously, going with a prostitute is one thing, insulting your intelligence like that is unforgivable.

Do ?

I would sue the quack that gave me a lobotomy

I am sorry. You are partnered with a punter.

I'd be

And insulted that he would actually insult my intelligence like that

How could he "make it right", convincingly? There's so much wrong with this scenario, I don't see how he could fundamentally change his attitude towards women in a way that is believable. I don't think I'd be able to trust him again and I would be beyond upset at him thinking that prostitution is ok.

Omg. Do you believe they only chatted?

Do not believe a word the man says. He will minimise and then minimise some more. Of course he is making every effort now, he is running scared.
Men who pay for sex are morally skewed, selfish and will almost never admit the whole truth.

I hope you are ok, you must be feeling every shade of shit right now. One thing you must remember though is that it is totally on him, not you.

I would be asking him to leave.... sounds truly awful for you

You know the answer in yourself. How did you discover?

You know the answer in yourself. How did you discover?

Also, you say escorts, not escort in the singular. This in itself speaks volumes. Also that he had them come to your house? That really is a man who is morally bankrupt.

There's no way I believe him!

Worst part about this is it's his house and we have a 3 year old DD - so guess who has to leave, go back home at the age of 30 and panic as to whether life will work out again one day with someone decent?!!!!!

Dear @HollyLM life will work our much better without this fucking idiot in your life.

HollyLM, I speak as someone who is a year on from a very similar discovery. I hope you are ok?

Things were hideous for a while for me but every single day is getting better and better now. Financially I am of course worse of, for a while I was a mess mentally too but am on the up there.

Be kind to yourself, seek support from those you trust and accpt any help you are offered. Also do not keep his sordid secret for him at cost to getting the support you need x

There's more to life than being partnered. Better alone than badly accompanied.

God the first thing I'd do is get a STI test done and then pack my bags!!! There's cheating and then there's PAYING to cheat 😩

thank goodness OP....you are so much better off without him. It might feel like it right now but you'll soon breathe a sigh of relief.

What a disgusting creature.

You're far better off (and your 3 yr old) back home than living with someone who could bring a sex worker into your family home. I mean....its vile.

How did you discover that one had been to your house?

I would rather live in somebody's shed than stay with this guy

You have a 3yo daughter. What the fuck are you doing ?

What "effort" is he making ? Loading the dishwasher and doing a bot of hoovering ? Saying nice things to ypu ? Cronying up with your 3yo daughter ?

How do those superficial things change the person he is ? Someone who pays women to pretend they enjoy him fucking them. And fuck them he did...make no mistake about that.