Post here if you love your partner!

[Rigamorph]

...and if you wish, say why.
Just to balance the books against all the depressing relationship threads!

My DP is the love of my life, adores me and our 6m baby, makes me endless cups of tea, and forgave my dog when he chewed the DP's wallet on our 3rd date. For starters! (The list goes on).

Rigamorph, I’m in a pretty shoddy marriage, well a totally crap one actually but I LOVE this thread! It makes me want to feel that kind of love & happiness! I’m inspired! If I find the courage to leave my H it’s because I believe this kind of love exists! Thank you

Thank you for your lovely comments and inspiring stories! Any wisdom from those in loving LTR is much appreciated by all of us, we all have room to learn.

If we can't discuss love and how/where to find it and what it looks like, what good does it do to discuss unhappy relationships??!

what good does it do to discuss unhappy relationships??! So that people find strength and support to leave shitty,abusive and dangerous relationships?

It’s not boasting or in bad taste.

I love my DH. He’s amazing.
He did have an affair but I still consider myself very lucky

@MaryJenson hahahaha funny

What about women who have lost their husbands ❓dead and thought they were the one ❓I feel sorry for them

It wasn’t a joke lyndar

I love my DP.
God, so so much. He is kind, funny, wonderful with DC and sexy as hell. I can't believe after all the shit I've had I have found someone like him. It doesn't even feel like something different; more a shifting of reality into a certain future.

I've been mega poorly all weekend, coughing, spluttering, liquid out of both ends. Like proper on the sofa dying.

DH has done ALL the holiday washing, dried it, ironed it and out it away. He has cooked 2 amazing dinners that I haven't been able to eat. He has been my absolute saviour. I literally worship the ground he walks on right now.

Ah I wonder if I come across a man like this who wants me one day
I'm kind intelligent hard-working loving but all that's got me is 3 bastards and I'm only 3o
Any tips ladies

Dh at times absolutely does my tits in but he's also lovely, helpful, kind and treats me well. He works hard and dies his share of the shitwork at home too, without needing to be asked (although he still hasn't washed and moved that bloody massive crate of lego that's taking up loads of space in the kitchen).

My parents had a rubbish relationship but stuck together because that was what you did and they had no money.

Sadly this left me with low expectations of marriage, which became a self-fulfilling prophecy for my first marriage.

But now I am married to a man I think is wonderful, and he thinks I’m wonderful. And I met him when I was 50, we’ve been together for 10 years, and we are married and plan to live happily together into our dotage.

Brilliant relationships are out there and should be celebrated and inspire us all to strive for strong, supportive, positive and happy togetherness.

I don't have a partner (yet) but I wanted to add how much I love my friends and say how kind to me they've been.

C: arguably my best friend and like my sister, we argue and get one each others nerves sometimes but we're there for each other during the good and the bad times.
M: he's very kind and like my little brother, we check up on each other (often when C tells him I'm ill) or when I tease him about C liking him and me and him most likely liking her .
A: a great friend, who I spend a lot of time talking/arguing/play fighting with, he's a bit of an acquired taste in terms of personality (but then again so am I) and we've always got on. People would describe him as self centered or arrogant and he is very confident and self assured, but he's anything but self centered. On our way back from the pub with C who was not dressed for the weather and a little drunk she said she was cold so he gave her his spare jacket (he did ask that I make sure she wasn't sick on it though ). I went to meet him in a building I didn't know my way around I messaged saying I was lost (I was in another building) and he came to find me, I bumped into him while I was hungover and while he did tease me a bit he took me to a cafe for some (a lot) of water and a coffee till I felt/looked better and then he walked me to the bus, I was panicking in a crowd and he knew without me saying anything even though C and M hadn't noticed and subtly arranged them so no one would bump into me on the way out. When it happened again the next day (the four of us were on holiday at a theme park) he asked if I was ok because he noticed that I was 'getting fidgety' I said that I was but I had no idea how long it would last so he took my hand and tucked me right behind him so he could shoulder his way through the crowd and so I didn't have to look at anyone and then the next night just before crowds appeared did it again. (Much to the amusement of C who hadn't noticed the night before, don't think M knows though because he'd already went to the hotel and didn't notice the night before either) I have also held C's and would most likely hold M's but it would feel weirder because I don't know him quite as well so it would be in a situation where I was really panicked or stressed. I talk to him about my issues with my insane family and he cheers me up by giving me ridiculous suggestions on how to deal with them before reminding me of my own self worth and to stick to my morals and standards.
The three of them even travelled to my home to visit my mum who was worried about who I was going on holiday with. I'm 24 but I'm also autistic with other health issues. She adopted M and C and I think she's already mentally married me of to A. Once they'd left I asked her if she was still worried and her response was no, I can see that A will look after you and I know you'll look after M and C (they're the same age as a and all of them are younger than me but M and C just 'seem' that bit younger if that makes sense).

My housemates O,N,B,A2 (and C): lovely people who after I was ill the first time asked me to give them plans/instructions on how I get ill and what makes it worse and what to do when and generally making sure that I'm ok and being really lovely people and getting me to make a 'go bag' to keep in the lounge with my medical history/needs pj's a comfort book, spare clothes, jumper and a blanket and non perishable snacks just in case I'm rushed into hospital and stashing inhalers/anti allergy medication around the house and on the shelf above the 'go bag' and they remind me to grab one whenever I leave the house.

I've never really had friends and I feel like I have been incredibly lucky in finding the incredible people that I have. Hopefully I'll be just as lucky in finding a partner someday.

Updated to add they traveled from three separate and opposite end of the country in A's case. A traveled 8hrs by train which must of cost a bomb, C 4/5hr's I think and M was lucky because he was only 2hrs away at the time I did return the favour by visiting C at her home, M lives where we study and I'll be visiting A either where hes working in Dec or Easter or at his home over Easter or Summer. Both are equalish distances from where I live so it really doesn't matter tbh.

Yes I'm enjoying seeing this love.

NameChange hurrah for your fabulous friends too!

Yeah, A and M are 21 and C is almost 20. My housemates are 19 almost 20 and it makes such a change to see people who are nice just to be nice.

After my fair share of toxic and abusive relationships, I am with the love of my life.

We are happily married and have a gorgeous dd.

He is the most amazing man I've ever met and being with him has made me question why I ever stayed with the previous bastards.
My Dh is so kind, hardworking, funny, genuine and loyal. Because of him, I am happier and more stable than I've ever been.

Been together 20 years ... complete love of my life. Great dad to our two boys , funny as fuck and big willy ...I couldn't be happier 😂

My husband is the most generous person I’ve ever known. Not just in money but in his time and his acceptance of other people. He will always go out of his way to help someone. He’s just utterly selfless and I’m so proud of him for that.

He’s also incredibly kind, patient, intelligent, funny and accepting. I’m a difficult person to live with. I can be stubborn, selfish, entitled and lazy, but he never loses his patience with me. I have problems with my mental health sometimes but he doesn’t let it phase him at all. He’s fully accepting of everything I want to do, even if sometimes it would raise eyebrows to outsiders. He says “I knew everything about you when I married you. I long ago understood the way you operate and I love that as part of you”.

I’m sure to some people our marriage looks odd. We have some funny quirks but therein lies our strength. We communicate everything to each other and really talk through any niggles so they never become issues.

He’s absolutely wonderful and I refuse to believe there is anybody else in the world more suited to me than him.

I love mine, 28 years together, plenty of ups and downs but we're still facing life as a team and he still makes me giggle and is the best person to have a good old chinwag with.

My DP is an utter dick sometimes, but also the loveliest, sweetest man the rest of the time.
He goes out of his way to make me happy, he thinks of lovely presents I appreciate, he cooks dinner for us all nearly every night, and he always tries to make me feel better when I have a bad day.
As much as he infuriates me sometimes, 90% of the time he's the best

@lyndar
What about women who have lost their husbands ❓dead and thought they were the one ❓I feel sorry for them

We don't need your pity, love. Most of us widows are doing just fine thanks

To address the thread title - I don't have anyone I'd consider a partner right now (have 2 guys on FWB status) Reading this part of the forum can definitely make you cynical about relationships. Especially when you've never had any contact with people in a happy marriage.

Grandparents - he used to be violent apparently. Both are now passed
My parents - fucking hated each other but both too stubborn to split
My auntie and uncle - again they hate each other but for some reason they won't separate
There are 8 cousins, all over 30. 2 have got married. 1 then split up within a year. (The other is still married and fair play to her, she has left our dysfunctional family behind.)

Been with dh for over 20 years. Neither of us are perfect but I’d be lost without him.

I also have a lovely mil fil, we are not similar at all, don’t have anything in common but they’re great. So are my other in laws. I’m

I love my Dh. Been together over 20 years. 2 children. He is my best friend and yes I tell him daily how lovely he is.

Having had lots of shitty relationships before I met Dh, when I met him I couldn't believe how nicely he treated me. It made me question him instead of questioning the behaviour of the shitty men. Having

My own parents relationship was seemingly happy. When I got older I realised my Mum avoided confrontation and just said yes to my Dad because he was unmovable. He never compromised, not once. She never got her way with anything from furniture choices, crockery, even cups. From the outside it looked happy though.

I think having examples of healthy/happy/content relationships is good. My Mum subconsciously taught me be quiet, accept his decisions or he'll leave. I never had another role model relationship to look at and think, hey, that one is lovely. Except maybe ones on the TV

I've been with my now DH since we were 15...we're now heading for 50. He's my best friend, a fantastic father to our 3 dcs and he knows me better than I know myself. I definitely got the best part of the bargain. Weight gain, serious illness, and he still acts as if I'm a goddess. I must have done something good in a previous life.