Post here if you love your partner!

[Rigamorph]

...and if you wish, say why.
Just to balance the books against all the depressing relationship threads!

My DP is the love of my life, adores me and our 6m baby, makes me endless cups of tea, and forgave my dog when he chewed the DP's wallet on our 3rd date. For starters! (The list goes on).

I don't think anyone needs to take offense to this.

I was in an abusive awful relationship a while back and knowing that there were relationships out there that were full of love rather than hate and pain gave me the kick I needed to realise mine wasn't normal or okay. I finally got out and met the love of my life who treats me like I never knew I deserved to be treated.

I never would have met him if I hadn't endured those awful years. I'm in awe of and grateful for him every day.

Ahhh the number of us that once would have considered ourselves the same as this lucky lot. Time changes things. I wonder how many will be saying the same thing in 2,5,10 years.

17 years and still hanging on. Is relationships really just about things being shit? I thought it was about relationships, of all kinds, good and bad?

The thing is that even abusive men are capable of doing lovely things when they want to hoover their partner back in. So my abusive ex could be like this.
But what, apart from these things, makes you believe that you are definitely with "the one"?

Well I never post lovey stuff on fb and rarely say it to his face so I will say here " I love you dh!" We've been married 15 years and we are both fatter and balder than when we met. He's not perfect but he's perfect for me.

But what, apart from these things, makes you believe that you are definitely with "the one"?
I don't believe in the one- that helps!

It’s like posting on a fertility forum that you get pregnant every time you have sex

Hardly...the board isn't title 'bad relationships'

Relationships can be anything, bad, good, loving, resentful, life changing, painful, the list goes on. This board isn't for one exclusively.

I never thought I'd meet someone like my partner. He took on my 3 kids as his own and we completed our family with a child of our own. He is funny, kind, sensitive, intelligent and gorgeous. He just makes me a happier version of myself.
I've had my share of bad relationships and time as a single mum, so I hope this gives hope to others going through the same thing.

Lots of reasons why but mostly because he accepts me exactly as I am and he "gets me". He's my soulmate. Been together 17 years, second marriage for both of us. We are soulmates. I still fancy him, I'm proud of him and love the way he loves me and my family.

I have the relationship boards to thank for my lovely relationship. My partner adores me. Before I met him I had been in an abusive relationship and then I was with a cheater. I had threads here and I realised from those and other threads that I had zero boundaries and poor self esteem.
I was single for a long while before I met my partner. I did the freedom programme, read books and I completely changed as a person.
Please keep posting your positive stories.

Ahhh the number of us that once would have considered ourselves the same as this lucky lot. Time changes things. I wonder how many will be saying the same thing in 2,5,10 years. We’ve probably all loved a partner and thought they were incredible at one point but life throws some serious curve balls. Lucky those currently living in loving bliss but probably not the board to boast.

Been with my DH for over 20 years. The only thing that time has changed is that I love him even more now than I did then. It's not boasting, it's a fact and I make no apology for it.

There are some very sad and bitter people on this thread. This site isn't exclusively for people who are having a shit time. Coming on this thread and slating people just because they're happy isn't go to do anything to make your life any better so why bother. Just ignore the thread if you don't like it.

I love my partners. Yes that's right I have three of them. We have great relationships and together in our busy practice we look after our clients, our staff and make lots of profit.

The thing is I do love my H. Over our 13 years he has done many wonderful things. But we are currently separating. I once thought myself a lucky one too but things change. This may not be a bad relationships board but 95% of posts are from people that need advice or help navigating awful times in theirs. So I think common sense would prevail against writing gushing posts in a space where the majority are having a very tough time. I do question why these lucky in love people are spending time on here posting about their amazing OH?! Go be with them and make the most of it!

@Rigamorph I absolutely love my single life maybe a man.
Will make it better but I love it the way it is

I'm not sad and bitter. I'm genuinely interested. I've never had a relationship last longer
On gee than 7 years. Which is sad since I'm 51. I don't know why that is. Is it me? Is it bad luck? Did it just work out for yo. Or n some level did you understand what makes a good partner? Have you worked hard on your relationships, forgiven affairs, overlooked arsey behaviour?
I've noticed in some of my friends relationships, that they tolerate things that I no longer can

Hmm. I think it's ok to be browsing mumsnet while watching the telly together, isn't it?

I'm not sure what I think about the row on here about whether it's an appropriate thread or not. I do see that many posters in Relationships might be feeling crappy, but at the same time, it's not a locked room- the thread just pops up on Active, and it's as valid as any other really. If it irritates you, it's probably best to click 'Hide'. I do that when something comes up that doesn't interest me.

I can’t believe that a thread exists being happy about partners to “balance out” the horrible time some people are having with their partners. It’s not some weird competition...people seek advice on here surely. People don’t tend to seek help unless they need it

I actually know someone irl who constantly talks about how lovely her husband is to her, the presents he buys her. But I've met him and he actually is lovely to her, and an all round kind man. So I do know that men like this exist.

New relationship (4 months) but been friends for a number of years..

He is just amazing, never imagined him to be as great as he is .. he's attentive, romantic, fun, supportive, kind & caring. I'm absolutely in love with him already although I have not said it to him yet!

Been single so long I'd forgotten what it feels like to be so happy 😀

DH & I have been together for over 30 years now. We make each other happy & are best friends. I couldn't ask for anything more.

I love my DH for so many reasons.

He is such a good dad
He is so supportive of me and all the things I do
He does his fair share around the house
He makes sure I get my alone time
He’s thoughtful
He works so much to provide for us
He takes care of his body and tries his best to be healthy
He is always trying to better himself and grow
He washes all the dishes I make (im a very messy cook 😂)
He loves reading as much as I do
He loves me for who I am
He went to the shops to get stuff for nachos

And obviously much more. Don’t get me wrong, he drives me up the bloomin wall at times, but 11 years later and I love him more every day. I feel very blessed that we are both so happy.

I do feel this sentence "to balance the books against all the depressing relationship threads" was a little insensitive - just because these are real people's lives, not just "depressing" stories... Especially as stone of those stories are mine.

BUT! Having said that, it is heartening to see nice stories and outcomes and I really think it can be encouraging.

Flowers of congratulations for those in happy relationships, and of comfort for those in unhappy ones.

*some not stone lol...

I love my husband...... some days.

Other days I look at him n think I'd love to knock him the FUCK out.

It's called balance 😂😂😂

Ah...ah the outraged sisterhood of Mumsnet! Always talking about love but offended when it appears in a thread title. This is for you:

FWIW I have experienced heartbreak too (1 loveless LTR, 2 miscarriages). It was actually seeing happy people in love that made me realise what my LTR was lacking. And going on the BFP after recurrent m/c threads that gave me hope. If this thread helps one person then it is worth all the negativity

sizzledrizz I am not an expert, but after I ended my LTR I went on a LOT of dates (maybe 40 in 7 years??). Some of them led to relationships of 2-12 months. But it was meeting so many potentials that made it easy for me to know my current DP was special. I decided not to give up, and kept looking.