Post here if you love your partner!

[Rigamorph]

...and if you wish, say why.
Just to balance the books against all the depressing relationship threads!

My DP is the love of my life, adores me and our 6m baby, makes me endless cups of tea, and forgave my dog when he chewed the DP's wallet on our 3rd date. For starters! (The list goes on).

So Insensitive. It’s like posting on a fertility forum that you get pregnant every time you have sex, or a silent reflux forum that your baby never cried. But anyway, good for you!

No it's not the same. This relationship board isn't for bed relationships or abusive ones. Wandering into a board called 'domestic violence abuse'and gushing about how great your Dp is insensitive. This board isn't just for bad relationships.

Personally when I was with exh, threads like this helped me. Made me realise there was hope for everyone, even me. I couldn't be happier now he has gone.

I love my Dp because he is there. When my son was hospitalised, when my uncle died all those things. He is always quietly supporting me.

He challenges my thinking as well, which I love.

He also farts and gets grumpy. He isn't perfect. But he is amazing!

@sizzledrizz Those are really interesting questions. I do think that people in very LTR put up with more stuff than people whose marriages/ relationships don't last. But I often wonder whether people who don't have much luck focus on what;s wring and underappreciate what's right. I could make a list about DH that would have the LTB chorus baying for his blood. He's done and said awful things in the past (not had affairs.) I have been way less than perfect too and could list my own behaviour in a way that would make people shout leave her, she;s a bitch.

t=The truth is, over a very long time people do behave unfairly at times. And they do go through long periods of not showing affection enough or being self absorbed or depressed or lazy and lacklustre. Every life has its dips and downs.

But the difference is, can you make a longer list of things you love than things you don't? And most importantly, does your DP meetyour core values. Mine are: I have to trust him; he has to put family first; he has to be clever. I couldn't stay with a man who was shifty, put himself before his kids and had no capacity for original thought. DH make sme feel so safe. Like I have a centre of gravity that was lacking before I met him.

I feel really shite about posting now. Not because I think I've done something wrong, but because any positivity has been kinda sucked out of the whole thing. I'm going to ask to withdraw my posts.

BitOfFun don't do that. There are people who will always try and ruin any happiness anyone has.

Why let them win? Don't let people like that bring you down.

Completely agree Notaclue

Nice to see the joy sponges out in force.

This is NOTHING like posting on an infertility board don't be so ridiculous. This isn't the shit relationships board, it's about any kind of relationship.

I'm blissfully happy with my wonderful husband after leaving an abusive marriage.

Well said Basic. Relationships cover all aspects and not just the doom and gloom. Those who have said otherwise are just jealous and bitter. Many of us have happy and fulfilling partnerships marriages etc. Not all men are monsters.

Wow, some bitter women on here. Makes you wonder why they’re not in a happy relationship

I think reading accounts of healthy, positive, happy relationships helps others review whether their relationships are healthy or where they could be improved. I think Relationships is, therefore, an appropriate place for this thread...

You read so many on this section where the issue initially seems trivial (e.g. he doesn't do the vacuuming) and then 30 posts in the OP realises that there's deeper imbalances in the relationship that can be worked on. This thread seems to be an alternative means of doing just that - seeing what other people value in their relationships so that others can assess whether there is anything lacking in their own.

Now, onto my list of reasons!

• He supports me unconditionally
• We can be completely open and honest with one another, with no fear of rebuke or harsh judgement
• We can be bonkers together and make each other laugh
• He always checks in on me, especially when I'm quiet or not being 'myself'
• I fancy the pants off him

I love my partner because we’re in it together and he makes me a better person (he’s kind to me so I wasn’t to be kind back to him).

I’m divorced and when my marriage was breaking down knowing that not all relationships were abusive gave me hope. Sadness doesn’t make happiness wrong.

Another one here left an abusive violent marriage after being too frightened to but in the end frightened for my kids not to. Got lucky and met dh who I should have met 30 years ago. Sorry if that upsets anyone.

Ha- I meant he’s kind to me so I WANT to be kind back to him

Like I said my only issue was the wording "depressing" about the posts which were about problems people are having, these very real situations for some. I honestly don't think most people who commented that they felt this wasn't sensitive were referring to that, rather than having a fudge against anyone sharing about being happy in general.

I say, if you're happy - share away and don't be ashamed.

Again, non-sarcastic for all.

I personally find it encouraging as I'm having a real painful time, and this gives me hope for the future.

Feel v lucky to have my wonderful husband, been married 16 years next year and built a fabulous life together. He is kind, loving and romantic and I am too!!
After a difficult childhood I’m proud that I came through it and didn’t allow it to prevent me from forming a loving relationship

I think this thread is a great idea.
I love my partner because we enjoying spending time together. He makes me laugh and really understands me.

DP woke me up with a brew and a 'good morning beautiful' today after getting up and letting me lie in until 9.30am.

He is wonderful and would fall over himself to make my life as easy as possible. I ask myself every day what I did to deserve him.

I do. He looked after my DS like his own and is a lovely dad. He very supportive, does some cooking, he’s funny and very caring.

I hope you are all saying this to your partners every day and not just writing on here for others to see 🤣 like when people write how much they love their partner on Facebook and they don't even have social media haha

But It really is so lovely to hear how people are appreciating their partners and although I am deadly single 😂 it is lovely to see others happy, wishing you all the best in you marriages and relationships

I've just shown my DH what I wrote and now he's blubbing. That's another thing I love about him actually 🥰

My fiancé is loving, caring, understanding, funny, kind and generally awesome! I love him with everything I have!

What a lovely thread @Rigamorph, it was inevitable some people would put a completely ridiculous downer on it, are people seriously portraying mumsnet as only for sad, unhappy people !!!

So back to happy thread ..

I love, adore and respect my husband and him me.

We have been together 15 years, an 11 year age gap and we have 1 beautiful, amazing baby boy together.
My husband is a great father - which can I say also makes him much sexier to me (sorry TMI)
He is a great provider with an amazing work ethic
He loves me simply for me
Still get a fuzzy feeling when I see him come home from work
He calms me, he is sooo chilled out it compensates for me being a little temperamental at the moment
He is an emotional man - takes a proper man to show emotions but strong for me when I need him, and I have really needed him of late
Would literally do anything for me and not bat an eyelid

We were meant to be together, we were together about 9 yrs before getting married and then 5 years before having our son...so definitely took it slowly but as cheesy as it is, we just knew from the off we were meant to be.

Onestep2
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Exactly how I feel, and I tell him so.

My partner is the only man I have ever trusted, the only man I have ever loved unconditionally and he gave me my beautiful son.

Oh I absolutely bloody adore him. We got engaged last Friday and seeing how excited he is about planning our wedding has made me love him even more. He’s so accepting of me, my flaws and my chronic health problems, he just loves me as I am. The mutual support we have for each other is amazing, knowing we have that makes everything a touch easier.